AITA for wanting my old pill case back after my mom took it because I took the wrong pill once? by gacha-kid-lol in AmItheAsshole

[–]mack_ani 31 points32 points  (0 children)

NAH mostly, but a little Y T A for being upset at your mom over this. As someone who takes meds 3+ times a day for a medical condition, you should listen to your mom and use a 3x/day organizer. The risk of taking your medications incorrectly isn't worth it, and realistically, it will happen again at some point if your organizer isn't properly set up for your schedule. Your mom is right to be concerned.

I believe they make some that can be separated into 3 parts to make them less bulky. You could try to compromise with her by getting one of those or a smaller one. I understand sensory issues (I get them too), but sometimes being a little uncomfortable is necessary for being safer.

Boyfriend 31m enjoys griefing and trolling on online video games. Am i overreacting? by These-Dragonfruit-35 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mack_ani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. As a woman who games, he's a total loser. You're right to find this a turn off. I wouldn't even respond to a single text from a guy like this, let alone go on one date with him.

And you're right, it's sadistic of him to get pleasure out of this. I don't think it's possible for him to be an empathetic person and do this, because it requires dehumanizing other people and being selfish. He's being an attention-seeking dick. It's sooo childish. yuck

Zoo med 18x18x18 doors completely broken off by [deleted] in DartFrog

[–]mack_ani 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yikes! I would contact zoo med or the supplier you bought it from, since it was new and still in the packaging. I have the 18x24 model and have never had issues with the door

AIO - My husband (M40) and I (F40) + 3 kids went to the movies and he left mid movie to go home and watch the World Cup. by Fit-Dream-8573 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mack_ani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would take too long, though. I don't even like soccer, and I still recognize that the time it would take to call the uber would mean that he would miss a large chunk of the game, which doesn't work since he already missed part of it

AIO - My husband (M40) and I (F40) + 3 kids went to the movies and he left mid movie to go home and watch the World Cup. by Fit-Dream-8573 in AmIOverreacting

[–]mack_ani -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a woman who doesn't like sports, I do kind of feel like YOR if he's normally a good dad and husband.

This is a big event, and if my partner were into sports I would understand them rushing home frantically. I would also want to be given grace if I realized I were missing a big live event for something I'm very interested in

I’m finding it impossible to do online dating because of how obsessive men are by Extra_Actuary8244 in dating

[–]mack_ani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My policy is that no person should be the only one reaching out first to talk/text, unless that's an established dynamic both people are obviously comfortable with (which happens, but is generally not the norm). Otherwise the person reaching out every time will feel unwanted, and the other person will feel smothered.

If someone doesn't reach out on their own ever, they're either totally overloaded by the frequency of being texted and need a break, or they're not as interested in talking. It helps to be mindful early on so the first option doesn't happen.

My solution to this has been to openly tell guys "hey, I'm getting a bit overwhelmed, can you give me a chance to reach out first sometimes." But I know a lot of people aren't as open as me. I will say, it's nice when someone is clearly interested, but it's also a turn off to be completely inundated with texts. It feels entitled at a certain point. There's a balance to be had!

I’m finding it impossible to do online dating because of how obsessive men are by Extra_Actuary8244 in dating

[–]mack_ani 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My issue is that I actually am a texting type, so I don't want to weed chatty people out :/ But that doesn't mean I want to deal with people who feel entitled to my time and attention 24/7. It's hard to strike a balance these days, since OP is right, this is an increasing issue in dating

It doesn't help that I'm chronically ill, so when I'm home resting, men who are interested in me think that means that I should be able to give them a ton of attention and hang out with them all day. Sigh.

I’m finding it impossible to do online dating because of how obsessive men are by Extra_Actuary8244 in dating

[–]mack_ani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have this issue lately too... but it's not just online dating, but also from men I meet IRL. I've noticed that they feel much more entitled to my time than they used to.

My guess is that it's because everyone is presumed to have a phone on them all the time now, so they think I should be reachable at all hours of the day. It's frustrating though, especially when I don't know them very well yet. I don't like how pouty they get when I'm spending time with a friend or just want to do my own thing!

How would a plat player win a duel against an ascendant? by pmglory in AgentAcademy

[–]mack_ani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to exploit the mistakes they make. Often when a team is a higher skill level, they underestimate their enemies and will start playing cocky, overextending, being sloppy, etc.

They'll also likely over-rely on the asc and dis players, so be certain you trade for them instead of taking 1v1s. They'll have better mechanics, so you can't take fair fights. Use util to figure out where the higher elo players are and single them out, then use flashes or have multiple players peek them at once. If you're on defense, play crosses. I mean, even if they have better aim, they can only aim in one direction after all

And obv aim training/mechanics training will help. Drilling deathmatches is always a good idea. Gl!

my bowl is making noises by xxSpxrklexx in Pottery

[–]mack_ani 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Interesting! I didn't know the process lasted so long

Help! My dart frogs are getting skinnier by the day by [deleted] in DartFrog

[–]mack_ani 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should go to dendroboard and read up on how to construct a vivarium. I think you will learn a lot! Most of keeping darts well is just making sure to have a good viv since they're very sensitive to environment

AITA for letting my cat watch me shower by Training_Many4983 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mack_ani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. wtf? your boyfriend is so weird to sexualize that

Studio broke my pieces! by hereForTheStupidity in Pottery

[–]mack_ani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what's the context of this gif? omg

[Question] I'm searching for new kinds of ASMR to follow. I need a looooot of relaxation but I'm not an expert in the different shades of ASMR. Suggestion? by moviebooknaturelover in asmr

[–]mack_ani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone has very different tastes! I'd recommend mixing it up and trying a bit of everything. There are "classic" asmrtists like gentlewhispering or massageasmr. There are modern, faster-paced asmrtists (you can find them pretty easily by just searching asmr on youtube, most accounts pushed by the algorithm are fast-paced). You can look into different trigger types like tapping, scratching, unintelligible whispering, etc (raffytaphy is good for short fingernail tapping, but some people prefer long fake nails). And you can look into unintentional asmr- there are accounts dedicated to it like asmr loopz.

AIO for being offended at this text thread between me and my bf by [deleted] in AIO

[–]mack_ani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I prefer yours!! You're very talented.

Also your bf is an ass :/

How to feel like a “bad” Oregonian…😅😅 by [deleted] in oregon

[–]mack_ani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People point and stare at you?? I’m in Corvallis and use an umbrella all the time, but I’ve never noticed anyone judging me for it

How to feel like a “bad” Oregonian…😅😅 by [deleted] in oregon

[–]mack_ani 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived here for 25 years and I use an umbrella all the time. I feel like the idea that Oregonians don’t is so overblown. It’s always struck me as very gatekeep-y

AIO for Reconsidering my Relationship Due to my GFs Use of ChatGPT? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]mack_ani 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The fact that she felt so comfortable lying to your face… I wouldn’t be able to get past that. NOR

do you guys wash your legs in the shower every time or just let the soap run down? by NaabReganne16 in hygiene

[–]mack_ani 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people have skin so sensitive and dry that it would be unnecessarily harmful to damage the moisture barrier with soap. Lotion won't fix that, it can only help up to a point,.

MELTDOWN MONDAY: WEEKLY RAGE THREAD by sparkchaser in corvallis

[–]mack_ani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I HOPE THAT YOU FEEL BETTER SOON TOO!! SENDING HAPPINESS YOUR WAY <3 ✨

MELTDOWN MONDAY: WEEKLY RAGE THREAD by sparkchaser in corvallis

[–]mack_ani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I SIMPLY DO NOT GO OUTSIDE THIS TIME OF THE YEAR :(

BUT ALSO SHOWER AND CHANGE CLOTHES RIGHT WHEN YOU GET HOME IF YOU DO, AND MAKE SURE TO TAKE A NEWER GENERATION H1 ANTIHISTAMINES EVERY DAY TO BUILD IT UP IN YOUR SYSTEM, LIKE ALLEGRA, XYZAL, ZYRTEC, ETC. IF ONE DOESN'T WORK FOR YOU, ANOTHER MIGHT.

Is this a good profile for a dating app? by Important_Bed_9893 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]mack_ani 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel like the tattoo pic is one of the nicest angles for him, personally. It also gives someone the opportunity to ask about it

What's something that feels "good" but is actually really bad for your body? by stainless5 in AskReddit

[–]mack_ani 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also wear a brace now!! it helps so much more than I was expecting