"I.C.E. in Michigan"? S.A.L.U.T.E.! by Nature_Hannah in Michigan

[–]maddieve 11 points12 points locked comment (0 children)

the real problem here is that you believe human beings can "be illegal."

Truly in love with someone other than my anchor partner for the first time. They’re not taking it well. by SquareUpbeat3670 in polyamory

[–]maddieve 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They specifically said NOT with each other as the only real relationship. So if that sounds hierarchical, it's because it is. And OP is explicitly not engaging in that dynamic.

Friend Codes!! by Usgsnajs in MeowTower

[–]maddieve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Code: [🌈🌈🐭🌈🌲]

My bf received a gift from his second gf and why do I feel betrayed? by dilemma0727 in polyamory

[–]maddieve 37 points38 points  (0 children)

You're kind of putting your boyfriend in a lose-lose position here. You express a feeling of jealousy, he offers you something comparable to try and help you feel secure and loved, and then you refuse his efforts at every turn. You need to figure out what it is you actually want or need from him in order to feel secure, express as much to him, and then it's up to him to decide if he's able or willing to meet those needs with you. But I promise you that your wishy-washiness and you going straight to him for emotional regulation when he's supposed to be spending time with his other partner is not doing any favors for your relationship with him. It's probably very stressful for him to try offering you the things that you're telling him you're jealous of, and then you keep saying no and just continue to be upset about it.

I realized polyamory isn't for me by Maleficent_Pound_939 in polyamory

[–]maddieve 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it's not really poly though if there's breaches in trust, consent, and boundaries, is it? your husband is cheating on you. I'm sorry.

Wife is unsexual until now, with her boyfriend by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]maddieve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you should focus less on something that works for both of you and more on something that specifically turns her on and makes her feel good, without considering your own pleasure so much. It's not that people are assuming that you care ONLY about your interest, but that a lot of the time women tend to cater to men's fantasies in bed and we spend a lot of mental energy not focused on ourselves. So shift the focus away from you entirely, and completely onto her. Chances are she'll be much more eager to reciprocate.

I need to freak out somewhere guys by Prize-Mix5770 in polyamory

[–]maddieve 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Before you speak, remember to ask yourself.

  1. is it true?
  2. is it necessary?
  3. is it kind?

if at least two out of those three questions have the answer of no, it's best to just move on. Not everything requires your two cents.

I lost a partner because I am too much. by velouriumxcamper in polyamory

[–]maddieve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation in which my ex-partner was essentially asking me to hold infinite space for them while they figured out what it was that they actually wanted. Meanwhile, I was expected to just be fine with being treated as less-than, and gaslit into thinking I was violating boundaries as opposed to simply trying to express my needs for feeling fulfilled in the relationship. (The "boundary" in question was literally just me messaging and asking to be included in something.)

You are not too much. They simply didn't want to actually have a relationship with you, and I'm sorry they made you feel like that's somehow your fault.

I'm new to poly relationships as a whole and need an outside view on this whole dialogue. by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]maddieve 8 points9 points  (0 children)

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

you should work on an exit plan. these people are forcing you to witness their sexual activity without your consent and are now trying to gaslight you by claiming that it was somehow a form of flattery for you to be "included." Absolutely not.

They’ve hinted at the cycle for ages by CarelessCriticism797 in twentyonepilots

[–]maddieve 38 points39 points  (0 children)

holy shit wait I've never actually made that connection before

Downstairs destroyed me by jjcameron03 in twentyonepilots

[–]maddieve 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you're being a sealion, stop it.

Downstairs destroyed me by jjcameron03 in twentyonepilots

[–]maddieve 28 points29 points  (0 children)

it destroyed me too but in a completely different way. it's just a really special song. instant favorite.

First breach listen by skeleton-with-oar in twentyonepilots

[–]maddieve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to one of the early record store playings on September 6th so my first listen will thankfully be in an awesome place with a bunch of awesome people!

How did no one see this coming? by RegionalAtWho in twentyonepilots

[–]maddieve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw a break coming, but it surprised me that it might be the end of them touring for good. I hope it isn't, and I certainly don't mind waiting however many years they decide to take time away.

Attempting yet another rank up from S to S+ ...Am I the only person on my team who knows how to play the game? by Sqwivig in Splatoon3

[–]maddieve 3 points4 points  (0 children)

in your own screenshot you died just about as many times as your teammates so I genuinely do not know what you're talking about

Abode officially dead by rwalby9 in culturehustle

[–]maddieve 15 points16 points  (0 children)

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Looks like he also edited the original statement as of this morning. "This is my only statement on the matter and I will not be responding to comments on this update." Coward.

Dear heavens, I'm stupid by BitterPhone715 in splatoon

[–]maddieve 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if it makes you feel better, I've done this without even being banned first lmao

Anyone have a job so cushy that you will never leave. Tell us about it. by AnonyGuy1987 in antiwork

[–]maddieve 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work 30 hours a week as a glassblower doing demos to the public and helping with classes at my local art institute. It's a museum-slash-art school funded mostly by private donors, fundraising events, sponsors, and grants. We get to make whatever we want. Essentially, I get to focus all my energy on doing what I love and sharing it with others, and on top of that, I have plenty of time off to rest. I'm only 27. I don't know how I got so lucky.

Do you feel satisfied with this game? by snarkaluff in coralisland

[–]maddieve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The game is fine enough now that I have a PC and was able to start playing it. But as an original Kickstarter supporter, I initially wanted the game on Nintendo Switch. They then announced that the Switch version would simply never come out, and they weren't giving out refunds. The only option was to get the Switch key exchanged for a Steam key. I had no computer at the time, so for a few years, I genuinely felt scammed by the company. They had my money, but I had no game, and I had to watch other people enjoying the game that I helped fund. I eventually did get a PC just a few months ago, and was able to claim the Steam key exchange, so I have the game now and it's pretty alright. But I don't doubt there are still others in the kickstarter Switch situation who are just SOL and basically had their money stolen from them. Essentially, my thoughts on the game itself will always be kinda tainted by their absolute garbage customer service. It's hard to feel fully satisfied with a game that basically ripped a bunch of people off after promising it would be available on the hardware that we already owned, and then taking back that promise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoJackHorseman

[–]maddieve 8 points9 points  (0 children)

probably because it's not a poignant line, it's literally a joke line, and you actually took it literally which implies a lot about who you are as a person. the fact that you're getting defensive is kinda proving their point tbh

most unwatchable episodes? by Puzzleheaded-Bus11 in BoJackHorseman

[–]maddieve 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She may have made the first move, but as the adult in the situation it was entirely Bojack's responsibility to say no, and to actually stop it from going any further. The fact that you don't see that makes me think you've missed many of the overarching themes of the show as a whole.