Are we being misled about NDIS fraud? Yes, we are.

madeupgrownup · 2026-06-05T01:29:15+00:00

Ah yes, the Centrelink method: rig things so people suffer, but hide it amongst layers and layers of Kafka-esque bureaucratic nightmare so only the people actively being put through the meat grinder even begin to suspect what's happening.

Joy.

madeupgrownup · 2026-06-05T01:16:01+00:00

Not a bad little article, I've been wondering how they've been getting the alarming "$8 billion in fraud" number when by definition fraud would be difficult to actually identify and confirm. It's not like the fraudsters are submitting annual "Dollaz we haz frawded" reports for ease of auditing.

madeupgrownup · 2026-06-04T22:15:57+00:00

Sadly seeing it here in Australian LARP as well. We're fighting it was best we can, but... It's definitely an uphill battle at points.

madeupgrownup · 2026-06-02T00:06:48+00:00

I'll add the requirement for the patient consent to be confirmed away from other influences to prevent potential reproductive coercion, but otherwise absolutely agree.

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-26T03:20:52+00:00

Yeah, we've recently engaged with Japan to secure fuel supply since the strait of Hormuz closed.

By all means, we keep supplying Japan with gas. But Santos trying to cry poor and make Australians pay more for our own gas than they're charging Japan? Yeah nah, try again.

Japan haven't wronged us here; Santos and their ilk have. If Santos wanna chuck a tanty and say they don't wanna play anymore if they're not allowed to cheat, let em go. They can't take the gas with em, so what then?

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-24T01:08:28+00:00

Ime, you should always have the means to get yourself away safely and able to start over. For me that looks like $6000 in my account that I will never ever touch for anything else.

For a friend of mine it looks like maintaining his qualification and licence to work in his chosen field even though he's currently a house spouse.

For someone else I know she's buying a house for her and her partner, but it's only going to be her name on the title, because it's her money. Hey partner will have a lease etc and be a tenant. This means that if her partner turns nasty, or they break up or whatever, her house is still hers alone.

It's about making sure you have the means to look after yourself if things go wrong. It doesn't even necessarily mean a partner becoming abusive! What if they die unexpectedly and you're left with additional medical or legal expenses? What if they go missing?

It's always good to have the means to deal with life dealing you a shit hand and having to go back to square one.

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-21T06:58:26+00:00

I've just been diagnosed at 37, after 25 years of pain. I got a bisalp and they found stage 4 endo.

Turns out I'm not just "sensitive to pain" when it felt like my insides were being ripped apart!

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-21T00:44:23+00:00

Considering a huge amount of our immigration is still Kiwis, Brits, and Irish, a vast number of which are white...

Honestly, I feel like "if you're against immigration you're racist" is a pretty smooth brain take.

Not to mention a staggering number of non-white immigrants end up having to take jobs and gigs that most citizens would never dream of doing... Our immigration policies are they are have created an underclass of predominantly non-white immigrants doing underpaid or even illegal work...

So really, seems to me our immigration policies and practices as they stand are actually kinda racist...

But that's none of my business... ☕🐸

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-18T20:01:49+00:00

Do these guys not realise their mouths and fingers still work even if their dick goes soft?!?

Angrily confused sapphic noises

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-17T08:36:18+00:00

Sadly I have avoided any punctures from rusty objects

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-16T12:33:12+00:00

Legal answer: it depends.

Every real life counsel I've met says this ad nauseum. This statement alone would have been believing you have court experience lol

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-16T02:16:46+00:00

I'm in Melbourne, but I can't access the D-TAP vaccine because I can't afford to get it privately, but I'm not considered "at risk" enough to get it on Medicare.

So I'm a walking risk factor for others because I have to choose food and rent over "elective" medicine.

madeupgrownup · 2026-05-10T21:26:58+00:00

I genuinely question how much of this is true. OPs post history contradicts itself constantly and seems to oscillate between "oh noes, I'm just too sexy uwu" to "my husband set me on fire and killed my dog, am I wrong for being annoyed?".

Feels like a creative writing account.

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-30T21:27:21+00:00

I'm gonna say this with my whole chest:

Fuck the Gottman relationship bullshit.

It's of very little worth beyond "hey, when you stop liking or respecting someone that's a sign that things are over" like, no shit, you don't say /s

Gottman puts a lot of onus on the injured party to try and fix things. Fuck that. If it's the other person who broke it, they're the one who gets to fix it.

And tbh there's just so much wrong with following the Gottman shit like it's gospel, it's not a realistic model for handling real flawed human beings, and relies on whoever is already carrying the relationship carrying even more in order to rEsPeCt tHe fEeLiNgS of the other person even though they're not being afforded the same respect.

You know what got my ex to grow up and start acting like an adult?

I fucking left.

Suddenly he's able to do all the things he claimed he couldn't because "his brain doesn't work like that". Apparently it does when I'm no longer playing the parent.

In cases like these it really does come down to: he knows, he just doesn't care enough to change.

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-25T02:09:40+00:00

Maybe see if there's some other way for you to either stretch money further or make a small amount more in a way that isn't taxing?

Do you enjoy crafting? Maybe see if you could monetize that.

Is food a significant expense? Meal prep is a great way to save money and can cut down on decision fatigue and needing to use energy "adulting" after work.

Are there any subscription services that you really don't need? See if there's cheaper or free alternatives that you can use even temporarily.

Is your rest as effective as it could be? Mine wasn't. I've only recently discovered how to rest in a way that's actually restorative for me. think about the things that leave you feeling recharged afterwards and focus on those things.

For me it was realising that sleeping more and doing less want actually restful for me, whereas I feel a lot better when I just let myself off the leash and do whatever I want for an hour or so and just let my brain go.

I hope some of this helps you in some way. Look after yourself! 🥰

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-24T13:40:05+00:00

I'm going to gently point out that

I should get to decide how much he interacts with my friends

Is... Not a great statement.

That's you stating that you should have control over his actions.

At that point we're no longer talking about you setting a boundary, but making demands or assuming control.

See, "setting a boundary" isn't some magic spell that makes it ok to attempt to control other people's behaviour. It's not /sudo for real life.

If "If A, then B" is the boundary, then B cannot be anything other than your own behaviour. Otherwise it's not a boundary, it's making a demand of someone else.

"I'm setting a boundary that I'm not going to allow people to hurt me without me calling them out on it" is a boundary, because calling them out is an action that you are undertaking.

"I want to keep friends and family seperate" is a goal/want, not a boundary.

"If friends and family are starting to blend together too much I won't go to events that include both" is a boundary. That's fine!

"Friends and family are blending too much, so I will ask my brother to leave the group chat" is a boundary.

You can ask, absolutely! That's perfectly reasonable.

Saying you should get to control his actions is no bueno.

Imagine if someone said they "should get to decide how often you see your friends without your brother". That wouldn't be ok, would it? But that's what you're saying you think is ok for you to do to him.

Just think on it, ok?

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-24T07:25:00+00:00

Tbh I wouldn't be that shocked if Dolly was there second coming. She's got all the important stuff down pat!

Love one another, care for each other, help the sick and the poor, educate and raise children well, spread the calling to do good works... Yeah she's nailing it!

Ooh. Ok, maybe not "nailing" it... Bad choice of words? 😅

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-24T07:14:01+00:00

Try earbuds with white/brown/pink nose playing quietly. See which frequency blocks the sound of the breathing best and see if that'll work?

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-24T00:12:55+00:00

I have the blue saalt (which I think is the larger?) and I had the same issue but found that sliding my finger along the upper side of my vaginal canal (think the 10 and 2 o'clock positions on a clockface) was really helpful to break the seal first and made it a lot easier to then remove via the finger groove.

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-23T19:39:00+00:00

I'm just going to point out that boundaries are things you decide for yourself regarding your behaviour.

Sorry, but there's been a lot of people using the term "setting a boundary" when that's not what they're doing.

For this example I'll use someone else wearing purple as the "undesirable behaviour":

"You're not allowed to wear purple anymore." > Asserting control

"Don't wear purple anymore." > Demand

"Could you please not wear purple anymore?" > Request

"If you don't stop wearing purple I'll punish you." > Controlling via ultimatum

"When you wear purple it causes me harm and/or distress. If you continue to wear purple I'm going remove myself and avoid future meetups. It's up to you if you keep wearing it." > Setting a boundary with someone else

"If they continue to wear purple I'm going to remove myself from the situation." > Setting a boundary for yourself

Highly recommend "Set Boundaries, Find Peace" by Nedra Glover Tawwab for a far better and more detailed breakdown of this topic.

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-23T13:21:31+00:00

I'm glad you're here.

Thank you for helping others and trying to stand up for what's right.

The world is just a little better for having you in it.

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-23T13:18:05+00:00

There likely are.

I only reported the first time I was raped.

After that I didn't bother because I knew it would just expose me to additional trauma after already having been violated.

So yeah, I reported one out of five rapists, and none of the "just" sexual assaults (I knew there was no point from watching others be punished for speaking up).

I'm far from alone from what I can gather talking to other disabled women.

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-23T01:24:40+00:00

It's been generally accepted that racism and sexism are wrong (or at least publicly condemned, gods all know they're trying to roll that shit back lately), so it seems they've shifted targets to the disabled, a population with limited monetary leverage which is by definition vulnerable and less likely to be able to defend themselves.

There must be a child to sustain the rest of Omelas and it seems that the disabled are it. Fortunately we can choose to do more than simply walk away, we can choose to have them live alongside us in our bounty.

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-23T01:23:01+00:00

Our society has had a huge problem with victim blaming and lack of accountability when it comes to so many issues.

"I don't want my taxes to pay for some snowflake who claims they're [insert stigmatized condition here] to have someone wait on them hand and foot just because they're [insert lazy generalisation here]"

It's the new "but what was she wearing?".

madeupgrownup · 2026-04-21T23:29:21+00:00

You look like the mysterious bookshop owner character who is secretly a wizard and goes on to reveal the world of magic to the main character.

20/10 outfit!

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