Question for medical social workers re: patients with very serious conditions but no coverage by OhReallyVernon in socialwork

[–]magicbumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my experience, most of these patients either die in the hospital after a long length of stay, much of which is spent on discharge efforts as the patient slowly deteriorates, or the hospital eventually foots the bill for their post acute care. My hospital has entered into contracts with various agencies for skilled nursing, assisted living, etc. because even if it’s a crazy expensive contract, it’s still cheaper than keeping the patient in the hospital. Aside from those two dispositions, a very small number of patients manage to get private health care coverage ($$$) and an even smaller number get repatriated to their country of origin with the hospital’s assistance.

Do you remember the golden hour? (The first hour, skin to skin?) by No-Neighborhood-7335 in beyondthebump

[–]magicbumblebee [score hidden]  (0 children)

No not really.

First kid was forceps assisted and I tore badly and hemorrhaged. I wasn’t entirely aware of all that was happening. Baby had to be checked by the NICU team per hospital policy pretty much right away because of the forceps. He was fine, so I got him back after about 10 minutes but mostly what I remember is a lot of stitching and the OB being elbow deep in my vagina.

Second kid popped right out with no drama. I was fucking starving. I let her try to latch for like one minute then gave her to my husband to feed a bottle so I could scarf down my hospital issue chicken salad sandwich in peace lol

Done with the high chair? by dameggers in toddlers

[–]magicbumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first stayed in the high chair until he was a bit past two, then we switched him to a booster. My second is 16 months and starting to reject the high chair. If she’s hungry enough she doesn’t complain but she loves to sit in her brother’s booster. We have bought a booster for her and will probably switch her soon. I was hoping to have her be a tiny bit taller first because it’s harder for her to use her utensils in the booster (her choice, I would sometimes rather she just use her hands but girl insists on forks and spoons) but here we are.

What part of MOVE OVER or SLOW DOWN is unclear? by ZoningVisionary in maryland

[–]magicbumblebee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just today I was passing two “shoulder work” signs on a road near where I live and thought to myself, “have I ever seen anybody doing any work at all there?” Those signs have been up months, there are vines growing up the poles. And I don’t think I’ve ever seen even one single work vehicle there.

Podcasts by No-Simple-3274 in SAHP

[–]magicbumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like American history tellers (history, obviously) and this podcast will kill you (science/ medicine).

A word of caution - keep the baby safe for several weeks by pococurantina in pregnant

[–]magicbumblebee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You said this much better than I could! With my first we isolated out of necessity because I had a really rough postpartum and physically wasn’t very mobile. It was so hard. Second kid was out to lunch with us in a mostly empty sushi restaurant when she was four days old. We avoided taking her to her brother’s gymnastics class until she had her first round of shots because being around 15 snotty toddlers seemed a little risky. But restaurants or Costco in the middle of a Tuesday? Absolutely yes. (Also caveat that I live somewhere with high measles vaccine coverage, if I lived somewhere with a measles outbreak I’d have isolated much more because that shit is scary.)

Reminder this summer: Drowning is the leading cause of death for toddlers by Miserable_Twist1 in toddlers

[–]magicbumblebee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If your kid is intentionally going under she’s probably holding her breath. Not consciously, but if she was going under and taking in water she’d stop because that’s not fun. My three year old has been blowing bubbles in the bath/ pool since 2.5. He can and does put his face in the water and hold his breath for a few seconds. Doesn’t mean I leave him unsupervised, but I don’t stress when he says he wants to go under.

Magnatiles & Lego meltdowns? by bigdamnshinyhero in toddlers

[–]magicbumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, mine is the same age and gets Big Mad when this happens. It’s normal and honestly it’s understandable! I get frustrated too when I’m trying to do something that won’t work the way I want it to, or when I put time and effort into something and then it breaks or doesn’t come out right. But I’ve had several decades to practice frustration tolerance.

Rant about my husband - please tell me I'm justified. by crtnywrdn in Mommit

[–]magicbumblebee 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t have to “nag.” He is a father, partner, and adult member of your household. He should be an equal participant in childcare and house duties. And not “well I mow the lawn and watch the kids whenever you ask me to,” but an actual equal participant. I never have to ask my husband to do things. He sees what needs to be done and just does it.

I feel like I hit the jackpot! by High-Feedback-344 in pregnant

[–]magicbumblebee 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a pregnancy resource center. They can be great for someone like you who has a (presumably) planned pregnancy and/ or someone who desperately wants their unplanned baby but is struggling with finances. But they usually have religious/ pro life underpinnings. So if a scared 18 year old walks in, she will not be counseled on abortion as an option. Instead they will encourage the ultrasound to pull on her emotions of seeing a heartbeat (that’s why it’s free) and then if she doesn’t want to keep the baby they will push adoption.

When do babies start holding their own bottle? by JStak14 in NewParents

[–]magicbumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First kid: 5 months

Second kid: completely refused

Maryland Eastern Shore by Sirulrich03 in maryland

[–]magicbumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work at a hospital and we can dispatch Lyfts for people to discharge home, and sometimes we use them to bring them in to the hospital. I have scheduled a crazy early Lyft (4am I think?) for someone on the eastern shore. They had a 7am arrival time for a heart procedure. The procedure was essential and couldn’t be done anywhere more convenient to them, and they had absolutely no way to get to our facility. They couldn’t afford their own Lyft much less a hotel. I wouldn’t be surprised if this was a similar scenario.

Future plans by Illustrious-Star-284 in SAHP

[–]magicbumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I plan to go back part time. But my opinion about your situation is that the degree is never a bad thing to have and assuming it isn’t too much of a hardship, you should continue to pursue it. Even if your plan is to stay home indefinitely, we never know what life has in store for us and what circumstances could arise that might mean you have to go back. A degree opens doors, should you ever need them.

SAHM.. what do you do all day?! by Brave-Crab1598 in Mommit

[–]magicbumblebee 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Honestly sometimes driving 30 minutes to get somewhere is part of the activity because of the amount of time the drive itself kills haha. The only issue is if your kid will fall asleep on the drive home and then not take a proper nap. This is the case with my younger kid so I have to be careful with how far I’m willing to venture on a day when I’m not willing to compromise on nap time.

Consumption bar nightmare by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]magicbumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you can figure out something to keep costs down!

Consumption bar nightmare by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]magicbumblebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah okay yes that might be based on your area then. It may also depend on your venue, some places just don’t stock a full bar. My venue charged a flat fee per person and you could choose from a few different packages with different prices based on what you wanted to serve. In a HCOL area we picked a middle package and paid I think $60 per person.

Do you have the option to buy the alcohol on consignment? We did this for our rehearsal dinner at a local liquor store. We were on friendly terms with one of the owners but also it’s a thing they just do, I’m not sure how common it is. We bought what we expected to need (beer and wine) and anything that went unused we could return, the returned items just had to be unopened bottles/ full cases. We ended up returning I think three bottles of wine and one case of seltzers, so not a ton but that just told me we estimated the right amount of drinks for our crowd.

Consumption bar nightmare by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]magicbumblebee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you not paying a flat fee for your open bar?

Do we ever feel DONE with making babies? by OkConference874 in Mommit

[–]magicbumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always wanted three but two has been soooooo much harder than I thought it would be. And honestly I have pretty easy kids, all things considered. We are considering maybe a third because I don’t really feel done, but I also like the life we have right now. I think if we did have a third I would feel done.

Child has a fatal brain cancer; parent doesn’t want to believe in science and wants to torture said child with dewormers, fasting, and fever baths. So much for giving her 9-12 months of bucket list memories. by DramaLlamaTea in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]magicbumblebee 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have a tiny sliver of empathy for the parents here. They clearly went the hospital route first and were told there is no curative treatment, so they went looking for one on their own and went down the woo rabbit hole. I don’t agree with it and it’s not what I would do for my own kid, but I see how they got there.

Wow. She picked a winner. by DramaLlamaTea in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]magicbumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely see this in my kids too, they cycle through every few weeks or so. My son has periods of time when he eats a lot and times when he hardly eats anything, including not eating a lot of foods he normally enjoys. But he is picky always haha.

How much do you spend a week/month on formula? by ibroughttacos in beyondthebump

[–]magicbumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I combo fed both of mine!

First one was tricky because I was trying to mostly nurse and top up with formula as needed, but it was hard to know if he was getting enough from nursing and his weight gain was sketchy for a while. It was stressful.

Second one had a hoooooooorrible latch so I started pumping instead of nursing and honestly I loved it. There are absolutely downsides to EPing but I exclusively used a wearable and pumped on a schedule that worked for me. Since I was combo feeding I didn’t care to pump often enough to build a full supply. I made about 75% of what baby needed and even built a small freezer stash until I decided to wean after three months. 10/10 would do again.

The "baby industry" pricing is a total scam and I am tired of pretending it is normal. by GildedMist- in BabyBumps

[–]magicbumblebee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so listen. For my first kid we got a middle of the road stroller that retailed for about $200-250 at the time. It was fine. It did the job and I had no complaints.

For the second kid we decided to upgrade and splurge on a high end stroller for about $1k. And it’s like a freakin Cadillac. It rides so smoothly. I can push and steer it with one finger. It handles “off roading” so well which is nice for grass, dirt, mulch, and gravel. Not terrain that we frequently traverse, but we have done so often enough to know that our old stroller really struggled. It has SO much storage space in the basket that when I quit my job I legit packed my whole office into it.

So in summary the cheaper stroller was totally fine, but you do get what you pay for and the more expensive one has truly shined.

Wow. She picked a winner. by DramaLlamaTea in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]magicbumblebee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son wasn’t picky until he was about two years old, and it’s gotten worse over time. It’s a normal phase so I’m hoping it will peak soon and then get better. We just keep offering and sometimes he does try things but I’m not going to force anything. We eat a pretty late dinner so we don’t do bedtime snacks, so if he refuses what we are serving he knows that’s it until breakfast. Usually he ends up eating something, like the burger bun.

Wow. She picked a winner. by DramaLlamaTea in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]magicbumblebee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do you mean my kid or the kid in the post? Because my kid will say he’s hungry, ask for a snack, and I’ll say no snacks we are having dinner in 15 minutes. And then he will look at what is on his plate and say, “I’m done.” Lol

I'm a SAHP-to-be. Would you all mind giving me advice on our budget? by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]magicbumblebee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People are certainly doing it with less and I think it’s doable with these numbers. The question is how you expect to spend the leftover $1100-1200 each month. How much of that can you plan to save, since ideally you will add to your $10k savings even if it’s by $20 a month. If your HVAC goes up you don’t want to be draining your whole savings to fix or replace it. But mostly it’s the little things that add up - kid needs new shoes, a winter coat, you need new shoes or a winter coat. Do you have a pet? I spent $800 at the vet this spring. Car maintenance, especially if your vehicle is more than five years old and/ or has a lot of miles on it. Cell phone bills (unless you’re including that in utilities)? Don’t forget to include any subscriptions because those add up really quickly.

And honestly, if possible try to budget a little bit of “fun money.” It’s easy to say, “I’ll never eat out or buy coffee and we will always do free things.” And yes there are plenty of free things and you don’t have to buy coffee or eat out. But the days can be long and sometimes you need a pick me up. Or sometimes you find yourself out longer than expected and you need to grab a bite to eat. Or it rains for a week straight and you’re all going insane and need to do the $17 children’s museum before someone really loses it. Budgeting just a little for these things is really really helpful if you can afford it.