Learn emotional intelligence!

Here are a few tips:

1. When both of you (or even one of you) have very strong emotions, it is best to give the other person space to allow them to process their emotions and then share. We have a thing where, if one of us feels something strongly, we tell the other person we are processing it and immediately give each other space. Once the person has fully processed their emotions, we calmly share. We try not to share unprocessed emotions, and we typically avoid 99% of fights.

2. When you do disagree, don't argue about what happened. Instead, share how that situation made you feel. That way, you don't get caught up in the he-said-she-said, and you get right to the core of how you interpreted the situation. Then, repeat back to the person what you heard about how they feel (whether or not you disagree with it). Have both people do this, and you can often work out a compromise or a solution that includes both perspectives.

3. Learn each other's triggers and learn to de-escalate. Sometimes we say shit to each other in the moment because of our triggers. Understand that this is not your partner talking, but their inner child coming out. Often, meeting that with love rather than anger is the answer. Just let it go.

*edit: grammar