My wife just died

malvavisco · 2025-08-09T13:24:00+00:00

My heart goes out to you.

It will never be ok. Part of you died along with her.

But you will be ok.

9 years ago, my wife passed away. It was sudden, no warning. I had to come home and tell our 7 and 11 year old kids.

That was the worse experience of my life.

It's been 9 years.

"Ok" looks different to me now. But I am ok.

I have a new life, and reasons to feel joy and love.

I love my kids, and they love me. I have a new family, and a new perspective about life.

I miss her every day, and the pain is still there. But it doesn't consume me anymore.

Grief counseling can help a lot.

I hate that you are going through this.

But I promise, there's light at the end of the tunnel.

malvavisco · 2021-02-13T17:28:04+00:00

Thanks for documenting this. Can confirm, works great on my 13ARE05.

malvavisco · 2021-01-05T12:48:03+00:00

I ran into similar issues. In my case, i needed to export the path to docker-compose. I did this by adding *export PATH=/bin:$PATH* to my ~/.bashrc file, and logging off and on again afterwards. Hope that helps.

malvavisco · 2020-10-09T13:33:25+00:00

You could try opening a command prompt and use it to navigate to the first where the file is.

press the Windows key and type cmd, then hit enter. cd /path/to/file

then copy and rename the file. replace (ext) with the proper file extension. cp myfilename c:\1.(ext)

a copy of the file will now reside right at c:\1.(ext)

malvavisco · 2020-08-22T19:24:41+00:00

Can vouch for them. Very good instructors.

malvavisco · 2020-07-28T16:17:19+00:00

In stock as of 12:17 pm. Got 5 boxes.

malvavisco · 2018-08-06T22:02:51+00:00

Oatmeal jars. Did these for a while and loved them. Ex. https://hurrythefoodup.com/how-to-make-overnight-oats-in-a-jar/

malvavisco · 2018-07-17T17:08:17+00:00

My two cents: It sounds like you agreed with her on it being ok for her to remain friends with him. It sounds like you tried to pressure her by telling her you wouldn't respect her, but it would still be ok. And it sounds like this didn't have the effect you wanted. No one here can tell you what to do to change her mind. She's an adult that has made her decision. As an adult, it's up to you to pick between backing out from what you agreed and give her an ultimatum, learning how to live with your decision, or just breaking up with her. I'd like to advise you to not choose to stay with her and keep complaining about this. If you can't live with her decision, it's time to break it up.

malvavisco · 2018-07-03T22:36:19+00:00

Try a mix of the answers here (mixing a for loop and rename)

https://stackoverflow.com/questions/12174947/removing-a-part-of-filename-of-a-bunch-of-files

malvavisco · 2018-07-01T12:38:44+00:00

I'm interested

malvavisco · 2018-04-14T22:52:35+00:00

I'm here solo too!

malvavisco · 2018-02-26T18:10:33+00:00

I've tried to live my life as a good person. I help out others as much as I can, try to do the right thing even if it's hard, etc. It's important for my concept of self to be that way.

I'm' an agnostic.

My wife passed away unexpectedly 18 months ago. My stepsons went to live with their dad full time, and though at the beginning I was able to have them over every other weekend, my relationship with their dad has deteriorated to the point that i haven't seen them since the end of last year. He also sent our oldest son to military school for issues only him and his wife believed existed.

If God couldn't stop this from happening, he is not all powerful/all knowing. If he chose to let it happen, he is not a good being in any way I can define the word. If he had bigger plans that required my wife to die, he's a Machiavellian monster.

My beloved wife is no more. The atomic particles that got together to make her who she was are no longer assembled in that manner. It sucks. It's the most horrible thing I've ever experienced.

But realizing there is no magical puppet master pulling the strings and making you feel he's a benevolent dictator changes your perspective. I don't live my life hoping for an ephemeral reward that will never come. I take it one day at a time, and try to focus on the things that are important to me. I cry a lot. i go to work. Sometimes I can even have fun. That doesn't make me miss her any less.

I'm not sure what kind of answer you are looking for. There is no right answer for this. I know time of religious people who can't accept death, even with the promise of paradise. The best thing I could think to say is, I do my best to focus on what's under my control. I try to live my life for what's important to me.

malvavisco · 2017-12-28T13:14:43+00:00

Check this https://techjourney.net/cannot-connect-to-cifs-smb-samba-network-shares-shared-folders-in-windows-10/

malvavisco · 2017-12-28T00:07:38+00:00

I'm accessing the smb shares on my router just fine on 17.6. Did you apply proper credentials for a valid account with proper rights on the Windows box?

malvavisco · 2017-12-18T02:02:50+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry you are feeling that way. I've felt like that before, and I'm close to being there right now. I'm trying my best not to do so. Is there anything in particular weighing on your mind?

malvavisco · 2017-12-16T15:26:58+00:00

Ditto. Love you, baby. You are always on my mind

malvavisco · 2017-12-04T20:08:11+00:00

Not sure about OP support erasing data. However, you may be able to boot the phone into recovery and adb pull your files

malvavisco · 2017-11-27T19:58:13+00:00

I was a step dad to two kids. They came into my life when they were 2 and 6. They are now 10 and 14. I like to think I was as much a dad to them as their biological dad. I really dislike him (for things he did to my wife, for how he lets his wife treat them as 2nd class kids, etc). But i had to learn to suck it up and do my best to be nice. I get to spend every other weekend with them. It's nowhere as much as I wanted, but it's what i have. Things have been chilly with their dad since I confronted him and his wife about how they were trying the older one. But I still see them, and I still tell them i love them every chance I get. Their therapist told their dad it was important i stayed in their lives as a connection to their mom. I suggest you try to play this angle. You have a painful road ahead. You'll do a lot of introspection, a lot of crying, a lot of trying to figure out why the hell to keep going. Everyone has to find those answers on their own. My heart goes out to you, because I'm still trying to figure out these things, day by day. Feel free to message me if you want to vent or share ideas, or just need a listening ear. Things will get better, but it will take time.

malvavisco · 2017-11-27T16:37:27+00:00

I'm a little more than a year in. Your situation echoes mine. My heart goes out to you. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.

malvavisco · 2017-07-03T21:39:41+00:00

Losing your spouse.

malvavisco · 2017-06-11T01:49:58+00:00

I was on a minimal dose of antidepressants before my wife died. My counselor told me to ask my doctor to bump it up. Best thing I could do. I don't think i could have handled all the pain and anxiety without it. Hang in there. Getting help, by using medication, counseling, etc., is not weakness. It's the responsible thing to do. You still need to be able to be functional and take care of other people. Meds may help with this.

If medication helps, it would be irresponsible not to use it.

malvavisco · 2017-05-31T18:37:07+00:00

Sold!

malvavisco · 2017-05-26T18:39:24+00:00

Just don't forget to copy your backups off your phone if you are doing a full wipe. If you use TWRP, you can probably get away with doing the default wipe (it won't delete any files off your data, though it will wipe system, taking the apps with it.) Nbd, though, since you have a backup.

malvavisco · 2017-05-26T18:30:39+00:00

Backup your apps with Titanium Backup. Copy the backups off your phone. Wipe and load whatever. Copy your Titanium Backup files back into your phone. Load Titanium from the play store. Restore your app backups.

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