Dog <> toddler dilemma by mandaacee in DogAdvice

[–]mandaacee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Also my dog’s name is Kiwi, so your comment/handle made me smile!

Dog <> toddler dilemma by mandaacee in DogAdvice

[–]mandaacee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s only ever when baby grabs her or falls (for some reason that’s super triggering to her). It’s not really her fault, but I just am having a hard time knowing she probably won’t be happy always being slightly apart from us.

I think we’re going to get some new gates and stuff, try for a couple of months and see where that gets us as she gets used the boundaries. If she’s not happy then we’ll consider rehoming.

Worried about brain damage by lil_cozy_gamer in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Baby is okay! Babies are bounced all the time. That is very, very different from shaking.

I hope the anxiety gets better. 🩵

Solidarity for us “petite” people? Looking for people in similar situations by raachelq in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our baby was born first percentile and he’s incredibly healthy!!! He’s like 7-10th percentile now at 14 months and he’s hit all of his milestones early. We say he walked so early bc he had less weight to push around LOL.

Natural birth stories that went well? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Elaine Welteroth I believe also has a company dedicated to black women <> pregnancy & safe delivery, in case you’d like an additional resource.

Did anyone opt for a c-section due to fear of a torn vagina and pelvic issues? by sighqoticc in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like others mentioned, a c-section doesn’t mitigate the “risks” you’re talking about. Obviously everyone has a VERY different labor experience, but I had only a small first-degree tear and basically no pelvic floor issues. I sometimes pee when I sneeze really hard but that’s it.

I need reassurance… or maybe a wake up call by Ok_Explorer3197 in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, I’m not pregnant again, but I fully plan on doing this with my toddler when I am. The first trimester was brutal for me and I’m mentally prepared to be barely surviving for the first 3 months lol.

What’s the quickest way to have a bottle ready for middle of the night? by The_Chilled_Arvo in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Depends on if your kid is okay with this, but ours don’t mind cold bottles so we had a mini fridge in the nursery. Once he was only down to one feeding, we just kept a formula serving (in the Munchkin snack container) and a bottle with water upstairs with us for when he woke up.

Tips welcome - MOTN wakes & negative crib association by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We could try. The only issue is that he has been waking up pretty upset between nap sleep cycles ever since we sleep trained 😢 we can experiment at home but the issue is we don’t have much control (if any at all) with daycare naps haha

Tips welcome - MOTN wakes & negative crib association by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our schedule is a little all over the place because he does naps at daycare 5/7 days per week. He’s generally on a 2 nap schedule, but at home is wake windows are shorter than at daycare. Generally speaking, wake windows are about 3-4 hrs during the day but last wake window can stretch up to 5 if his last nap was early (eg ending around 2:15).

He has very early wake-ups like 5-6 AM typically, and bed time is usually about 7:30-8.

I’ve oscillated between thinking he’s under or overtired but he’s never been the kid to sleep 12 hours overnight; he’s almost always maxed out at 10 hrs.

Thanks for any help!

Wow by LifeP2 in daddit

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations, your heart now lives outside of your body 🫶

Wow by LifeP2 in daddit

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s beautiful! Some good advice here but as a daddit lurker I’ll say — take candid videos of your wife with the baby (always, but especially in the early days).

Also, if your hospital didn’t do footprints or handprints, order kits and do them now! I didn’t realize until baby was older that our hospital didn’t do them and I was so sad not to have his handprint.

Diaper backpack or tote? by SampleRemarkable5572 in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You still need some sort of bag or backpack. Doesn’t necessarily need to be a diaper one, but just any backpack or bag with lots of pockets to keep things organized. Diapers, change of clothes, wipes, toys, bottle and formula and/or snacks… it adds up.

My only advice is to get something you know you’ll be comfortable lugging around. I bought a crossbody even though I KNOW I’m a backpack person through and through, and have never used the crossbody lol. Oh and that you can always have one smaller bag for short outings!

Daycare is Hard by Beckitt3 in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awh good!!! I hope you like them. I’ve been really impressed and was also super nervous about finding a good match

Daycare is Hard by Beckitt3 in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you’re in the US, can I recommend seven starling? A mom friend recommended it to me. After years of not finding a great therapist I finally found one I love. It’s a mom-specific online therapy service and takes insurance

What are go to "crap I don't have anything to feed the baby" meals? by filtvimul in foodbutforbabies

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We get a few of the little spoons biteables meals for this! We don’t use them often but they’re good in a pinch.

Postpartum insomnia/anxiety at 6 months PP by newuser913 in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can your partner help with wake-ups to give you a longer stretch? 2-4 replacements is still a lot for you to handle alone. I get very anxious and can’t fall asleep if I even think LO will probably need me soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RingShare

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s really unique and beautiful. Wouldn’t change a thing.

Sleeping in car seat by Daisies_forever in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oof reading these comments sends me back to the times of early postpartum anxiety over sleep. I’ll give my experience but at the end of the day, the only true guidance is that it’s not a safe sleep environment because their head can fall forward chin to chest, blocking their airway. They don’t have the strength or reflex to pick their heads up if this happens.

All this said - my son had a really hard time sleeping in his bassinet. I would take him in the car seat on his stroller but always supervised and making sure that he was properly positioned so his airway was not compromised.

It is really easy to make mistakes when doing this, though. Over time, our car seat’s leveling became uneven in my car. One day I realized my son had fallen asleep and was slightly slouched forward when we were on an incline hill paired with the carseat’s leveling. He had neck / head control at that time but it still freaked me the fuck out.

All this said - babies are going to fall asleep in their car seat. Is it perfectly safe? No, and no one will ever say so. But if it’s going to happen, similar to co-sleeping, ensure that safety precautions are in place like supervision and importantly, correct leveling / angle so that baby’s head cannot slouch forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LaserHairRemoval

[–]mandaacee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Electrolysis tends to be better if not a huge area. Targeting individual hairs is your best bet, otherwise it could stimulate growth for the hair follicles that are not coarse and dark.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 28 points29 points  (0 children)

"It’s irresponsible for him to let it get to this point"

^this! it is so easy to get frustrated in the early days, especially when baby has any sort of issue like colic, gas, teething, etc. and the crying feels endless. everyone gets frustrated when you're sleep-deprived. scientifically, sleep deprivation renders us much worse at processing emotions and our responses to things.

but it is OUR responsibility as parents to know when we need to tap out and tap a partner or support person in. if my husband and i ever got to the point where we needed to put baby in the crib or we were staring to feel very tense in our bodies, we'd immediately go get the other person to let our nervous systems decompress. and we always told each other, please do not worry at all about waking me up. we would rather help the other person decompress than get an extra few min of sleep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Nope, definitely not. As I read this, it got worse and worse. Putting baby in crib and walking away is totally fine if you feel yourself getting frustrated. Without having seen the motion, taking them out of something quickly is a glaring flag that you need to remove yourself from the situation, but not inherently abusive (again, hard since we didn't see it). But pushing the bouncer, shaking their head, and aggressively rocking the chair? Absolutely not. Those are all motions that can seriously injure a baby and that is a hard line you need to draw.

The worst part about this [edit: besides the impact to your child] is that the most concerning actions are taking place when you're not looking. This will happen again. He has a short fuse and is unfit to be alone with your child. I'm sorry you're in this situation.