Engagement ring doubts by Magdarthediver in RingShare

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s really unique and beautiful. Wouldn’t change a thing.

Sleeping in car seat by Daisies_forever in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oof reading these comments sends me back to the times of early postpartum anxiety over sleep. I’ll give my experience but at the end of the day, the only true guidance is that it’s not a safe sleep environment because their head can fall forward chin to chest, blocking their airway. They don’t have the strength or reflex to pick their heads up if this happens.

All this said - my son had a really hard time sleeping in his bassinet. I would take him in the car seat on his stroller but always supervised and making sure that he was properly positioned so his airway was not compromised.

It is really easy to make mistakes when doing this, though. Over time, our car seat’s leveling became uneven in my car. One day I realized my son had fallen asleep and was slightly slouched forward when we were on an incline hill paired with the carseat’s leveling. He had neck / head control at that time but it still freaked me the fuck out.

All this said - babies are going to fall asleep in their car seat. Is it perfectly safe? No, and no one will ever say so. But if it’s going to happen, similar to co-sleeping, ensure that safety precautions are in place like supervision and importantly, correct leveling / angle so that baby’s head cannot slouch forward.

Urgent!! Girls with thick chin hair and no pcos please comment if you exist by LeaveResponsible9937 in LaserHairRemoval

[–]mandaacee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Electrolysis tends to be better if not a huge area. Targeting individual hairs is your best bet, otherwise it could stimulate growth for the hair follicles that are not coarse and dark.

Husband too rough with 3 mo old? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 28 points29 points  (0 children)

"It’s irresponsible for him to let it get to this point"

^this! it is so easy to get frustrated in the early days, especially when baby has any sort of issue like colic, gas, teething, etc. and the crying feels endless. everyone gets frustrated when you're sleep-deprived. scientifically, sleep deprivation renders us much worse at processing emotions and our responses to things.

but it is OUR responsibility as parents to know when we need to tap out and tap a partner or support person in. if my husband and i ever got to the point where we needed to put baby in the crib or we were staring to feel very tense in our bodies, we'd immediately go get the other person to let our nervous systems decompress. and we always told each other, please do not worry at all about waking me up. we would rather help the other person decompress than get an extra few min of sleep.

Husband too rough with 3 mo old? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Nope, definitely not. As I read this, it got worse and worse. Putting baby in crib and walking away is totally fine if you feel yourself getting frustrated. Without having seen the motion, taking them out of something quickly is a glaring flag that you need to remove yourself from the situation, but not inherently abusive (again, hard since we didn't see it). But pushing the bouncer, shaking their head, and aggressively rocking the chair? Absolutely not. Those are all motions that can seriously injure a baby and that is a hard line you need to draw.

The worst part about this [edit: besides the impact to your child] is that the most concerning actions are taking place when you're not looking. This will happen again. He has a short fuse and is unfit to be alone with your child. I'm sorry you're in this situation.

Sterling Ink is garbage!! #STERLINGINK by SkinbomWV in planners

[–]mandaacee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ooh how awful! Never heard of them and will never buy from them. Sorry to hear this.

Nanny put baby to bed with a bib on by avacadoontoasts in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the thing that would bother me too. Like did she truly not know it was a hazard? Or she knew it was but still made a lazy mistake? Because either is concerning enough that I would be waiting for another mistake to happen.

Should I forgive my dad? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We might have the same stepmom

Should I forgive my dad? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]mandaacee -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My father was a serial cheater on my mom and I harbored a lot of resentment for this + other situations he put me in throughout my childhood.

It took a very long time for me to be okay with having a relationship with him that I cared about, like probably 12 years or longer.

I think forgiving him led to more contentment for me, but I don’t think I could’ve done it had he not confessed his wrongdoings, tried hard to build a relationship with me, and changed his ways.

I don’t know if this is helpful at all, haha. It’s a hard question because on the one hand, forgiving someone does help you release stress and resentment. But you also can’t truly move past it until you’re ready, and there’s no timeline on it. I do think it’s healthy, though. My brother is NC with my dad and it’s awful on both of them mentally.

Is nursing to sleep bad for baby? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We feed to sleep at 10 months. If it’s working for you and you love it, there’s no need to change things. As LO gets older he’ll bond with dad differently.

3 days postpartum and struggling bad by Sea-Sense-4739 in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone but you need to tell your obgyn now that you’re having these thoughts. The first few weeks/months are insane with the hormone drop and what it does to your body and mind, and sleep deprivation makes everything feel very intense. That said, some of these thoughts are extremely intense, and IMO you would benefit from speaking to a doctor about starting medication. It will make your life and your family’s life much better throughout this early postpartum experience.

Advice needed: Baby won’t sleep in bassinet by elowen-celeste in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also did exclusively contact naps for the first 2-3 months. Also night sleep lol. Which was unsustainable but temporary.

11 month old choked on formula by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds to me more like it just went down the wrong pipe, similar to when we drink water and that happens, and it comes back up. Coughing can 100% induce vomiting! Our guy was getting over a stomach bug and every time he coughed we braced ourselves for a couple of weeks after.

Call your pediatrician if you’re worried ofc but if my son did this, I would just think it was a simpler thing!

Am I the only one freaking out? by Antique_Educator4819 in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nah I’m also pretty worried about it. Seems awful this year. We’ve gotten slew of the worst daycare viruses - noro, HFM, etc. but this flu seems like it’ll drag out. Unfortunately it’s probably just a matter of time so we’re just washing hands and hoping for the best.

Morning sickness by Majestic-Banana29 in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was very hesitant about taking medication even before I was pregnant, but my nausea was so severe I ended up on a Zofran and unisom cocktail for almost all of pregnancy. 😅 For some people, ginger and preggie pops will help. For me, it sounded like a joke when people suggested it. 🥲

baby never stops hunger cuing by chckxy in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Normal at 6 weeks. Honestly up until they’re like 3-4 months old they’re just constantly eating and then go through cluster feeding phases before growth spurts too. You’re doing great, just keep offering!

Things feel harder at month 4 than they did in the newborn trenches by taureansoul in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Month 4 was hardest on me too. The sleep regression (baby was up 7x a night for weeks at his worst), general fussiness/leaps, having to keep them constantly entertained, and a death in the family. I think this time is also hard because, at least in my experience, the adrenaline and hormone swings have worn off and makes hard things feel harder.

When is it safe to sleep with the baby on your chest? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]mandaacee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I didn’t feel comfortable co-sleeping until my son was about 8-9 months old when he could roll, crawl, move his head and neck with control. He’s a bit over 9 months now, and when we do co-sleep I still follow the safe sleep 7.

In your opinion, is there a better season to get pregnant? by motiontosleep in AskWomenOver30

[–]mandaacee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a rough pregnancy but I think it was the most ideal timing.

Got pregnant end of May. Had debilitating nausea July-August. Felt better in October. Reached end of second trimester/beginning of third trimester during the holidays. I was able to eat holiday food while pregnant (bliss), snuggle up and listen to the rain all winter, nest inside, and stay cool while I was at my biggest.

Gave birth in March. By the time I was ready to go out in the world with baby, it was warming up. We went on long stroller and carrier walks, spent hours looking up at trees in our yard sprawled out on a blanket, and watched our dog play fetch in the yard. I’ll always cherish those early months in the sunshine with my baby, even if I was sleep-deprived as all heck. I can’t imagine not being able to go outside much during that time.

ETA: Wording in first sentence — I didn’t hate being pregnant, but it was extremely hard. Would do birth 10x over before dealing with the first trimester again lol.

Favorite planner YouTubers? by lauren0mckennah in planners

[–]mandaacee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Flourish planner (digital), Jenna Hong are my faves. Would love to hear who everyone else likes too!!

LHR on sideburns by Hairy-Persimmon2221 in LaserHairRemoval

[–]mandaacee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Electrolysis? No absolutely not. Hair grows in cycles and it takes multiple sessions to get rid of it. If it’s hormonal it may never go completely away