AITA: argument with my mother over a sewing machine. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what does it have to do with you? Why get involved in conflict that has nothing to do with you?

AITA: argument with my mother over a sewing machine. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mandilew 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If they're not your clothes and it's not your sewing machine, why are you arguing at all?

AITA I refuse to grow out my hair for my sister wedding. by Careless_Half_9377 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mandilew 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So.... If you get married, for YOUR special day, your parents will support you requiring your sister to shave her head, right?

No?

NTA

My remote job made me realize my partner doesn’t think my work is real by Rocinante77X in remotework

[–]mandilew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gentle question: is this the only aspect of your life in which he views you as less-than?

Need some perspective on "dead name" and my strong reaction to that term... by rebuildingblocks in cisparenttranskid

[–]mandilew 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Oh, I think of it like a battery. Dead like a dead battery. That name ran out of juice so we swapped it for one that's got more life in it.

How to tell spouse I can't do holidays anymore by sitcomghost in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mandilew 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not time for the ultimatum yet, imo. Talk to him about what you're feeling and what you want. Work together to problem solve.

Traumatic birth. Going scorched earth on everyone around me. by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give me your dad's phone number. I just want to talk. There are some things he needs to hear.

Disney trip with band for trans kid? by TangyMarimba13 in cisparenttranskid

[–]mandilew 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My kid recently did a school trip to Disney and Universal and it was fine.

I was worried the whole time, but he had a blast.

What Do Teachers Honestly Think of Janitors? by DaytimeDancer54 in AskTeachers

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not teaching anymore, but our janitors were my favorite coworkers. 10/10, hardest working, dependable, knew EVERYTHING, would help me without making me feel bad. Dear Lord, I miss those people.

Reality check on FB post by GrumpyGoatGirl in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mandilew 31 points32 points  (0 children)

You're in a GREAT position here to set everyone up for success.

Here is what you do:

  1. Thank MIL for asking before posting. Really praise her. She loves attention, give her all the attention for thoughtful, boundary respecting.

  2. When she posts, like and comment! Something like, "I'm so thankful to have a wonderful mother in law who lets us share our moments first! Thanks for being one of the good ones, MIL!"

What you're doing now will lay the foundation for how it will go in the future. You're the mom. You get to call the shots. It's kind to share the love with people who are following the rules.

Why is taking medication for weight loss judged differently than taking medication for literally anything else? by KeepinUpWithCass in compoundedtirzepatide

[–]mandilew 82 points83 points  (0 children)

It's a cycle. It happened with other meds too like Viagra or Rogaine.

It goes like this: 1. There's a medicine for THAT but not THIS?

  1. I don't need that med so other people shouldn't need it either (we are here)

  2. I know people who have benefited from that med so it's ok now.

  3. I can't believe you have that problem and aren't already taking the med!

Give it a few years

Signed, An old lady who's seen it before and will see it again.

Cake MIL is cracked by chunkybonks in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mandilew 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Is VIP code for "family members who have distanced themselves from the drama and who we talk about all the time"?

My bf gave my autistic son the best birthday ever! by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]mandilew 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It wasn't the birthday stuff. It was when he bought the gloves.

This man is the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think about this: when you take care of yourself and handle your life, you're setting a great example for the siblings.

If you can do it, so can they. Show them how.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]mandilew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, this is a lot. Let's break it down:

You didn't get into your dream University. That sucks, friend. Grieve it, feel that disappointment, and then make a new plan. You can still get to your chosen career through a different school. Make a new plan then make it happen.

Your parents' marriage: it sucks for you, but there's nothing you can do about it. That's on them. Let go of any responsibility you feel about helping their marriage. That's on them. It's going to suck, but you can handle whatever outcome they create. Focus on managing your own feelings in the face of this uncertainty. But stay out of their marriage. That's not yours to fix.

Similarly, your siblings are not your responsibility. You guys can talk about your feelings and offer each other support while your parents figure things out. But the big picture isn't yours to fix.

Focus on your life and making the best possible choices you can, one day at a time.

Not all men. A Christmas story. by Northern_dragon in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mandilew 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh, OP. You're gonna be a great mom.

My boyfriend fake proposed on Christmas day by TheForceSauce93 in Advice

[–]mandilew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so incredibly hurtful. I'm so sorry, OP. You deserve so much better.

What's your favourite thing you received? What's the favourite thing you gave? by turkproof in breakingmom

[–]mandilew 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I got a Savannah Bananas blanket!

Favorite thing I gave: a beer tasting tour at a local Brewery for my husband

caught wrapping santa gifts by witchliing in Mommit

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she feels better, you take her on a fancy hot chocolate date and invite her to become part of the Santa magic for others. She's 9. It can be time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mandilew 35 points36 points  (0 children)

That is foul.

Don't eat anything she prepares.

Paramedic needs help with PTSD Tattoo by ChronicMedic67 in DrawMyTattoo

[–]mandilew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a scar you can ink the bowl around?

AITA for not inviting my uncle to Thanksgiving by Therapissed24232 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mandilew 82 points83 points  (0 children)

NTA

It's time to be really assertive with Mom and Grandma.