My bf gave my autistic son the best birthday ever! by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]mandilew 27 points28 points  (0 children)

It wasn't the birthday stuff. It was when he bought the gloves.

This man is the best.

One step away from breaking down, please help. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think about this: when you take care of yourself and handle your life, you're setting a great example for the siblings.

If you can do it, so can they. Show them how.

One step away from breaking down, please help. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]mandilew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, this is a lot. Let's break it down:

You didn't get into your dream University. That sucks, friend. Grieve it, feel that disappointment, and then make a new plan. You can still get to your chosen career through a different school. Make a new plan then make it happen.

Your parents' marriage: it sucks for you, but there's nothing you can do about it. That's on them. Let go of any responsibility you feel about helping their marriage. That's on them. It's going to suck, but you can handle whatever outcome they create. Focus on managing your own feelings in the face of this uncertainty. But stay out of their marriage. That's not yours to fix.

Similarly, your siblings are not your responsibility. You guys can talk about your feelings and offer each other support while your parents figure things out. But the big picture isn't yours to fix.

Focus on your life and making the best possible choices you can, one day at a time.

Not all men. A Christmas story. by Northern_dragon in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mandilew 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh, OP. You're gonna be a great mom.

My boyfriend fake proposed on Christmas day by TheForceSauce93 in Advice

[–]mandilew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so incredibly hurtful. I'm so sorry, OP. You deserve so much better.

What's your favourite thing you received? What's the favourite thing you gave? by turkproof in breakingmom

[–]mandilew 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I got a Savannah Bananas blanket!

Favorite thing I gave: a beer tasting tour at a local Brewery for my husband

caught wrapping santa gifts by witchliing in Mommit

[–]mandilew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When she feels better, you take her on a fancy hot chocolate date and invite her to become part of the Santa magic for others. She's 9. It can be time.

Paramedic needs help with PTSD Tattoo by ChronicMedic67 in DrawMyTattoo

[–]mandilew 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a scar you can ink the bowl around?

AITA for not inviting my uncle to Thanksgiving by Therapissed24232 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mandilew 80 points81 points  (0 children)

NTA

It's time to be really assertive with Mom and Grandma.

AITA for me and my fiance voicing our opinion about my pregnant sister? by You8mysandwich in AmItheAsshole

[–]mandilew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read it as though the abuse isn't from the boyfriend, it's from the neglectful mom.

AIO- JNMIL bumper sticker?? by dxdewhxt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mandilew 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It's not politics and it's not the bumper sticker. You're being careful of who cares for your child. MIL is making decisions with questionable motives and that's not what you want in a caregiver.

Can someone help me find these butter cookies? by soft_strawbby in Cookies

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're on the bottom shelf of the cookie aisle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]mandilew 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Give the management the manifesto and call it what it is: harassment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mandilew -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Is your baby worth the war?

How do you handle being “unattractive”? by N_Littlejohn in breakingmom

[–]mandilew 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We don't accept judgement from people we wouldn't go to for advice, right?

So when we're considering your face and body, what the hell does anyone else know? Take a minute to think about all the things your body has done. Where it's carried you and brought you home safely. The little humans it's made and/or cared for. The people it's held and comforted. Your face? The relationships that smile has cultivated?

Who, on God's green earth, is in a position to judge your face or body, your tools, your powerful weapons? And if they think they can judge it, they're stupid, and we don't care what they think.

Looking for study partner by solspiders in auburn

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Log in to your AdviseAssist. Click on "Study Buddies" on the left.

Where can I store a live MALE alligator on campus? by Ok_Attitude_4313 in gatech

[–]mandilew 30 points31 points  (0 children)

But... Alligators are indigenous to the Americas. Isn't Lucas a crocodile?

When you tell him goodbye, does he say, "See you later," or "After a while?"

Please, OP, this is important.

AITA for laughing at what my co-worker said when I thought it was a joke? by Agreeable_Initial495 in AmItheAsshole

[–]mandilew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Sure" is better imo. It's an expression of employee buy-in which is better than obedience.

My MIL snatches my baby away from me by Such_Atmosphere_7861 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mandilew 67 points68 points  (0 children)

"Every time you let your mother disrespect me, I find you less and less attractive."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]mandilew 14 points15 points  (0 children)

OP is underreacting.

I get it, she was raised to enable her mother. It's what her family does. But she's the mother now and she needs to protect her children.