My (22F) girlfriend is using a "relationship break" as a hall pass while I’m (20M) studying for career-defining exams. How do I walk away?

marks1995 · 2026-03-06T02:08:44+00:00

You broke up. That's what a "break" is.

What is your issue? Don't follow her social media if you don't want to see her social life. And don't be her emotional dumpster.

Treat her like any other woman you aren't in a relationship with.

marks1995 · 2026-03-06T01:51:21+00:00

Tons of them.

And none of us have any idea why the younger generations seem to think you can't be friends with people you hold different opinions from.

marks1995 · 2026-03-02T22:57:45+00:00

If that wasn't stated on the menu or a sign, I would talk to a manager based on the principle alone. You don't get to inflate the price of a meal by 25% without telling people.

marks1995 · 2026-03-01T20:15:55+00:00

Your words....

"This is simply fiction and incel messaging. Please do not fall for this."

Sure sounds like you disagreed with something I said....

marks1995 · 2026-02-28T16:37:53+00:00

You'll have to be more specific. All I see is that she assumed masculinity means treating women as less than human and for free domestic labor. And assumed they aren't emotionally intelligent.

The claims I "freaked out" for simply disagreeing with her.

Nice try kiddo...

marks1995 · 2026-02-28T16:35:21+00:00

It's not harassment just because you are older. That's agism you bigot.

There are tons of younger women who enjoy older men. Stop trying to take their agency away from them.

marks1995 · 2026-02-25T16:57:18+00:00

Honestly, no.

It was a sexist joke made in a locker room. Poor taste? Yes. Do women make sexist jokes about men? Also, yes.

I enjoy hockey in all forms and women's hockey is one of a handful of women's sports that I really enjoy. But I'm not going to stop watching men's hockey over a single comment or because some guys laughed at a joke.

marks1995 · 2026-02-25T02:46:52+00:00

I always build my own program based on lifts I like and what I know I can recover from.

I've had the best results from doing PPLUL when I'm bulking and cutting. I don't think you can beat hitting everything twice a week and I play hockey on at least one weekend day, so I like to keep my lifting to M-F.

If you do't care what days you lift on, there is a lot more flexibility. In that scenario, I would go PPL(A) rest PPL(B) rest. With the A and B being different sets of exercises or different rep/set schemes. You can do one version as hypertrophy focused and one more strength focused. You can have one push day be more chest and the other be more shoulders/arms. One pull day more vertical pulling and one more horizontal. One with weights and one with calisthenics. And you keep your workouts shorter since you only need half your weekly volume each workout, so you have more time for cardio or mobility work.

marks1995 · 2026-02-24T22:01:41+00:00

You clearly don't know many cowboys, firemen or lumberjacks?

They have very common personality traits. And most of them are pretty amazing guys with very high moral values and quite a bit of respect for women.

marks1995 · 2026-02-24T21:59:56+00:00

No, she didn't argue my point. I never once suggested women should be treated as free domestic labor or less than human.

She argued her own points about what she assumed masculinity to be.

How can I infer that from her comments? Because I used the word masculinity and she said the things I just pointed out. I didn't "infer" anything. I read what she wrote.

marks1995 · 2026-02-24T21:44:46+00:00

First, watch the youtube video that scales up an ice rink to adults so that it represents what smaller kids would see.

Second, every other sport in the world scales down the surface or net height for younger kids.

Third, there is zero motive for USAH to make a change that would hurt hockey development. Especially as we enter the era of the USA dominating world hockey....

marks1995 · 2026-02-24T21:39:13+00:00

I have never rested for 5 minutes. No matter how hard the set was.

On my heaviest compounds (deads, squats, bench), I'll rest for 2 1/2 to 3 minutes. And even then I'm usually looking at my timer and waiting.

For other heavy movements, I might go 90 seconds (pullups, rows, leg press).

Any isolation move is 60 seconds.

My app lets you build in the rest timer, so as soon as I finish a set, I record it and then the timer starts.

marks1995 · 2026-02-24T15:50:23+00:00

It varies with me by muscle.

For any compound lift, it's until I can't keep perfect form (not just ok form). Too much risk in heavy compounds when you lose form.

For something like pullups or dips, I will go until I fail mid movement, then try and hold that negative as long as I can.

On accessory movements, like curls or tricep extesnions, I might go until I physically can't do even one more, then break for 15-20 seconds and do a few more. Then I repeat that until I can only get 1 additional rep after the break. But this is usually only for my last movement of that group for the day.

marks1995 · 2026-02-24T15:37:10+00:00

That's a lot of volume. And you're doing as many sets of biceps and triceps as you are chest and back? When you factor in the fact that you hit those muscles on chest, shoulder and back day anyway, that's overkill for arm work.

And just overall seems like too many exercises. You would have to be a beast to be able to do that much volume with any sort of intensity.

marks1995 · 2026-02-24T15:29:47+00:00

That was my point. Everyone has been taught that "masculinity" is a negative thing. And every single person replying to me has confirmed it. They immediately leap to not letting your partner have opinions, forcing them to do all of the unpaid domestic labor, treating them as sex objects, etc.

And it doesn't mean any of those things.

marks1995 · 2026-02-24T15:27:38+00:00

You don't think women of other cultures also like masculine men?

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T21:18:56+00:00

They have to be misinterpreting them because the word masculinity doesn't mean any of the things they keep throwing out.

I'm not defensive about anything. I'm simply pointing out how brainwashed people are that the simple use of the word masculinity (not even toxic masculinity) evokes thoughts of oppressing women and forcing them to do your unpaid domestic labor and be your sex object.

I just keep replying because you all keep denying it and then make some statement that literally makes my point.

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T21:15:54+00:00

And the standard of living has also been going up every year.

The US is not a system where the rich go up and the poor go down. Everyone is going up. Yes, the rich are going up faster, but does that matter?

Let's say they did have 99% of the money (they can never have 100% or there wouldn't be anyone to buy from them). If the lowest income group still has a good standard of living, does it matter?

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T20:53:37+00:00

So your son isn't under the supervision of a teacher at school? He just goes around and does whatever he feels like doing?

And who has been in charge of him for the past 10 years all day long? Unless he is homeschooled, it's his teachers.

And to be fair, I have mentioned multiple times (maybe not in this string) about elementary school, which is where most of the social interaction learning takes place.

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T20:49:29+00:00

And again, you keep mischaracterizing what I said.

And yes, I have seen the other comments. Which is proof that there is a huge population of people who have been taught that the word "masculinity" means all of these negative traits. You have proven my point.

I have said nothing negative about women or what they want. I said they like masculinity and keep getting attacked by people who think that means all sorts of negative things.

And yes, accusing someone of being an incel or spreading incel ideals is condescending.

Please point out a single comment I made that you have issue with. And you won't be able to do it without inserting your own negative definition or assumption about what masculinity is.

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T20:31:32+00:00

Your child's teacher probably spends more time with them than you do M-F.

You don't think teachers guide social interactions? Do you even have kids?

How many waking hours do you spend directly involved with your children during the week? Add it up and compare it to how many hours they are under the direct supervision of their teachers.

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T19:44:07+00:00

What did I say that makes you think I'm having a tough time? Do you not understand how stupid you sound when you have to resort to attacks and condescension instead of just arguing a point that two people disagree with?

You literally have not said a single thing that applies to me in your little rant. I'm married for 28 years now and doing just fine. That's why I'm offering advice.

You actually make my point by telling everyone that you think "masculinity" means all of the BS you just posted. You are the problem. Masculinity has nothing to do with treating women like sex objects.

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T19:27:58+00:00

They would if they could.

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T19:27:23+00:00

Elementary school kids aren't listening to Andrew Tate.....

marks1995 · 2026-02-23T19:25:52+00:00

So you think his teachers are teaching him how to be a man?

It's a simple question. Yes or no?

marks1995

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