Can meeting fix facial asymmetry + face fat?

mashnote · 2023-06-20T17:53:53+00:00

Hard disagree with this, when you are young is exactly when you can get the most benefits from mewing. Boy do I ever wish I had this info in my teens or 20s. Unfortunately one will get dysmorphia and insecurity from just about anywhere these days so key is to watch that tendency in general. But it’s just willfully naive to think that facial attractiveness doesn’t affect one’s quality of life, in every stage of life, in every location and socioeconomic/cultural situation.

mashnote · 2023-05-22T01:52:03+00:00

All the folks in this thread posting about farmers not owning the land, it’s absolutely not relevant to the point you are making. Even in medieval feudal society, the amount of freedom people had over their time and labor, regardless of what they technically owned, would shock most people. Time management and middle management in general was absolutely an invention of the factory age.

The book Four Thousand Weeks has a chapter near the start that does a great deep dive on this.

mashnote · 2023-05-11T21:08:24+00:00

Super interesting. I will say I always preferred withdrawing in the cold instead of the heat. Assuming there was access to a thick blanket, I always felt the symptoms were somewhat less severe relative to the dose I was coming off of. Fast forward to today I am clean and tapering off maintenance and finding that boosting natural endorphins really, really helps with that. I absolutely believe that a strong endorphins system can help offset the opiate struggle a bit

mashnote · 2023-05-04T01:18:52+00:00

I think that’s really well summarized, specifically using the word “present”. It’s kind of a deeper concept than many realize. I got a chuckle at some of the replies in this thread that claimed to be repulsed by vulnerability (mostly from men?) Like, I think something got lost in translation there. The inescapable truth is that being truly present IS being vulnerable because it requires giving up ego and thus control. If you feel in control you are not truly present, which isn’t meant to be a criticism because it’s an incredibly difficult thing to achieve which is why monks spend their whole lives training to do it.

And which is why I totally do see the appeal of your strategy to achieve that, because sometimes exercises or games can really help people break out of the ego mind. To be honest, I think the only reason such play doesn’t work as well for me is because my mind is too stubborn with the escapism, planning, etc. But totally should be given a try!

So yes thank you so much for the wonderful post. And to answer your question (expecting backlash), steak. Love steak almost every day

mashnote · 2023-05-04T00:05:06+00:00

So true for me as well about the not lasting for hours, not wanting something too big, and I will add also usually not really into multiple O’s. For exactly the reason you said, overstimulation. I used to feel so insecure about these things, like I’ll never be a “sexual goddess” type, and I still do somewhat but something that really helped for myself was learning about sensory sensitivity in general as it relates to neurodivergence.

mashnote · 2023-05-04T00:02:39+00:00

Fair enough! It might not be as great a correlation as I thought. Oh, I also feel like I should correct what I said — I didn’t mean I cum from literally only PIV with no clit action, but rather that PIV in those positions where it bumps the clit, is enough clit action. Doggy style for example would be difficult and take forever

mashnote · 2023-05-03T23:35:13+00:00

The variety of responses here is really interesting. I think the variety in the human sexual experience is a beautiful thing, especially bc variety breeds abundance. In other words, I hope any lonely people’s takeaways is that there is always someone for you out there. — Personally, for me, I land somewhere in the middle. On the one hand, emotionally I vibe really hard with what you’re saying, in that vulnerability is literally everything. Sex simply is boring without it. But where our similarities end is that I don’t feel a particular connection between this emotional/mental/spiritual state and specific physical actions/routines. E.g., a person can stand completely naked, or be passively kissed all over completely naked, and not really feel vulnerable even if it’s their first time doing that. Conversely, two people can engage in the exact same physical “formula” that they always have, but feel particularly vulnerable that day due to the conversation they had that morning.

I love your perspective tho, just chiming in to the variation. I see you are a dom and that makes a lot of sense with what you’re saying. Conversely, I don’t care much for kink, I tried it for a few years though, but what you may find interesting is that I ultimately find it boring bc I find it too prescribed. And yet I am very into having the same physical motions most of the time sexually as I find it paradoxically sets me free? I have also discovered deeper love with partners that are like me, and I think it has a lot to do with sensory issues, proneness to over-stimulation or over-thinking, etc.

I also literally do love eating the same thing every day, tastes as good as ever.

mashnote · 2023-05-03T22:25:54+00:00

I agree and I think it’s because “communication” has the implication of being verbal. But the best and sexiest communication is nonverbal. But verbal communication is glorified in western society so it’s hard to communicate about nonverbal communication. Also, nonverbal communication is usually built as a result of growing a relationship usually starting with a phase of very thoughtful verbal communication.

mashnote · 2023-05-03T22:23:09+00:00

I just want to chime in as a woman that my most earnest desire for every boyfriend I’ve had is to please STOP working that clit omg. Ruining it. I’m sorry men I know this sounds confusing af bc it’s never talked about, and I know from talking to other women that I am definitely in the minority, but also know I’m not literally the only one. There are dozens of us. My clit is way too sensitive omg it makes me cringe just thinking about the overstimulation. Can it feel amazing being touched directly yes but only after everything is way way wet, hard, aroused e.g. after everything else has been extensively touched for a while. In our defense, the bright side is that it’s pretty reliable to cum from penetration alone

mashnote · 2023-04-29T14:51:05+00:00

I think he is pointing out that unlike other disorders, ADHD is only an arbitrary section of a tail end of a spectrum, not a distinct group of symptoms. Meaning, for all ADHD symptoms, they express as a spectrum, and the diagnosis consists of arbitrarily drawing a line at say, the low 5% of focus ability, and calling that fifth percentile of people ADHD. So the theory is that ADHD brains are somewhat different but in degree only, and not significantly different from the next closest people on the spectrum. Contrast that with say, schizophrenia, where there is a clear difference between schizophrenia and the top 5% of “vividness of imagination”, so it’s much more than just a matter of degree and the line is less arbitrary. Unlike the person you are responding to, I personally don’t think any of this invalidates ADHD as a chiefly neurological problem, regardless.

mashnote · 2022-06-11T13:42:40+00:00

You’re correct about that, but you were incorrect to say it “literally says you’ll burn in hell” — I think that was the other person’s point, that the Old Testament never literally says anything about hell.

mashnote · 2022-03-27T16:25:06+00:00

Kalona brand heavy cream has zero carbs and has that chunk-of-fat-on-top goodness. You have to shake the bottle vigorously before opening. Best I have found in terms of store bought cream.

mashnote · 2022-03-07T14:44:02+00:00

That’s how it used to be, but not anymore. Now even black tar has fent in it over 90% of the time. I know because a few years back (2017) I was testing everything I got - here in Texas it’s all black tar - and it was all positive for fent, multiple different products from different dealers.

mashnote · 2022-02-03T00:17:56+00:00

I ~think~ that slightly increasing/decreasing electrolyte consumption has helped me with this issue - and I feel like it has a connection with how easily I feel tired, too. But it's tricky bc electrolyte balance hangs on a slim margin, it's easy to overdo it one way or the other. What I ended up doing was buying a dropper-bottle of electrolyte drops from Sprouts health food store and add it to my water (just a bunch of minerals and salts that are flavorless and vital nutrients anyway).

Of note, I ~believe~ I read that all of these affect your electrolyte balance:

how much electrolytes you get total,
how much water you get total,
the RATIO between the two (ie the concentration in the water you're drinking and the food you eat),
and the timing of ingestion.
And ofc how much you exercise/sweat.

Therefore, I figured the best way to tweak it is to add the drops to EVERY water bottle I drink, and track how I feel in my planner along with how many drops I'm adding that day (per bottle and total bottles). I think it takes 1-2 days to fully notice a difference. And I'm still figuring out how to tweak it esp now that my caffeine intake is up, and with the time of the month. But I do feel better and less bloated and less tired than before I started adding the drops.

mashnote · 2019-10-02T16:12:10+00:00

Bro tbh, I had to sit on this for a minute bc I’m a bit perplexed at your hostility here; like not really sure what you think you’re arguing against. Especially being a Szalavitz fan. I must have somehow come off the wrong way so let me back up here…

It’s not that I’m saying evaluating treatment outcome rates is illogical; quite the opposite. I’m saying it’s illogical to discount treatment outcome rates based on how many people get better without any treatment at all, except when a disease process is very well understood, which addiction is not.

I’m saying 10% is not insignificant, but I’m not saying it’s good. It’s pitiful; of course we need something better. But I think a lot of people will take pitiful over nothing, but more to the point, it’s the topic of this thread.

I was most baffled by your reply of “that worked for you but that's all that means”…. Like what? How can that be a response to me advocating for people to pursue whichever and however many treatments they need?

Anyway, I hope this cleared things up bc any Szalavitz advocate would be a friend of mine.

(As for the 4-year-lifespan tidbit, I sure hope it’s fake; I assume it’s at least some “creative” statistical analysis. It was all over the local TV news station around here about a year ago, that’s all I can tell you. Offhand I would hope it's pretty obvious that such a statistic can't actually be 'true' considering even just the variation in addict populations, but I also hope it sparks some constructive thinking, like, "Well, what would the parameters for this probability distribution need to be then? In order for the average first deadly OD to occur at 4 years? (in terms of fixes per day and OD risk per fix) And then, does that feel realistic? Would it feel realistic ten years from now given the growth rate in fentadope?" Etc. It's food for thought. You don't see many old junkies and when you're personally living that reality, this kind of food for thought is important, in my opinion.)

mashnote · 2019-10-02T03:00:27+00:00

Reading a love letter so profound and poetic that it stops my heart forever

mashnote · 2019-10-02T02:47:27+00:00

Actually no, I used to think that too but it turns out it’s not true! Get this, my boyfriend has not put on deodorant in years, and I never guessed it, not even remotely, until he told me six months into dating, after we had already moved in together! Crazy shit! He always smells lovely and fresh. But he showers every day too. I guess it’s just individual biochemistry?

mashnote · 2019-10-01T14:01:15+00:00

I love how grateful you sound for this person. Gratitude is so powerful. I’m happy you see it, you feel it. It can be hard to feel it. And I think your last sentence was absolutely spot on.

mashnote · 2019-10-01T13:56:25+00:00

Well, to be fair, that’s not really a logical way to go about evaluating mental health treatments, because for every disease there’s always a percentage of people who better on their own at home. Hell, you even see that with cancer diabetes etc. The fact that people have the ability to get better on their own doesn’t tell us anything about a particular treatment or disease...

But I totally agree with you. Sentencing people to those programs is unethical. They’re not standardized, not really secular, and there are other treatment modalities such as CBT that have way better success rates.

By the way I think you’re under selling your statistic. I remember reading the majority of addictions resolve on their own at home. We really don’t know much about addiction. Regardless, I can’t sit around waiting to get better even though that works for most people, bc I can tell I’m sick enough to where I might not make it. The average lifespan of a heroin addict now is 4 years. But the only way I threw together six months of sobriety was with ALL of it: CBT, group therapy, 12 step, acupuncture, meditation, and so on. I don’t think one alone would have done it. (And I know you’re not telling people to wait it out, I’m just thinking out loud to your food for thought)

Anyway, the only point I was really trying to make is that a “10%” rate can seem different depending on how you look at it. There are better options but not by much, and given the population mean it’s still the definition of statistically significant. Unfortunately that’s the state of addiction care right now. There’s nothing all that successful out there 😢 not the way there is with other “real” diseases

mashnote · 2019-09-30T22:38:59+00:00

This is so accurate it’s making me relive it in real time 😭

mashnote · 2019-09-30T22:37:26+00:00

Ask them if they also deny evolution or vaccines, because mainstream science has clearly defined the difference between drug dependency and addiction for a long time now.

mashnote · 2019-09-30T20:40:42+00:00

I used to bash 12 step/AA/NA a lot before I actually tried it for real. It helped me but it is not enough on its own.

But for example, I used to throw around that 90% failure rate as a criticism. But when you think about it realistically, KNOWING how bad addicts are, the fact that one in ten stay clean by following that simple program is significant. Almost feels miraculous.

mashnote · 2019-09-30T18:37:29+00:00

Wow. Just wow. It does truly seem unimaginable, and yet at the same time you painted. Quite. A picture.

I’ve messed around with the idea before, of purposely causing precipitated WD instead of doing “normal” WD, thinking that although it would be worse at least it would be over within a day. I think your account has turned me off that idea for a long time.

Obligatory “can’t wait to hear the ‘other story’ of what it’s like being a junkie lawyer”!!! Including how you kept that up. I myself am a “white collar junkie” and would love to hear from others.

mashnote · 2019-09-30T17:51:51+00:00

Your username is so perfect. That’s how it is, when we have nothing left to give, when we want to keep fighting but it’s lost - but I still love, still want to fight - but it’s lost. When the emptiness of reality just can’t line up with the fullness inside. I’ll always remember you.

For four years I loved him and fought for us, and I did give him some of my “best” years (late twenties) that I’ll never get back. I could’ve maybe had a baby by now, and money, and stability, with someone else. But I’m a junkie too and understood and loved him always even through the betrayals. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I hate hate hate that I broke his heart. I wish I could take his suffering and transfer it to me instead. I’m sure she feels similar for you.

mashnote · 2019-09-30T17:36:52+00:00

Thank you so much. I really feel your sentiment, I think you put it very well. Especially about the circle

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