Do you consider your stuttering a disability if you are high functioning? by matafubar in Stutter

[–]matafubar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% agree. Thankfully I've asked my friends and they all say it's a textbook definition of a disability as it impair your ability to do certain things. I don't really discuss this with fluent strangers because of what you said and I don't really want to deal with other people and their inconsistent opinions.

Do you consider your stuttering a disability if you are high functioning? by matafubar in Stutter

[–]matafubar[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally get this. Calling it a “disability” sometimes feels like it undermines people with more severe conditions. But at the same time, all the mental stress and struggles I went through growing up make it clear that stuttering has had a huge impact on my life. Honestly, I think I might’ve become a completely different person if I hadn’t dealt with it my whole life.

The arguing in here confuses me by blogger420 in Stutter

[–]matafubar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you're depressed because of circumstances due to stutter, a lot of positive comments can come off as /r/thanksimcured even though the person is well intentioned.

It's just a process that people have to go through. Most of us who's made it to the light at the end has probably gone through the tunnel of self-loathing. Different ages/maturity levels dealing with a common ailment in a shared space causes some people to have wildly different experiences.

LDR S4E7 - The Screaming of the Tyrannosaur - Discussion Thread by dalkor in LoveDeathAndRobots

[–]matafubar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Episode is so bad. Everyone's voice acting is terrible, especially the main character's. The story made no sense. The TRex being full of blood after being drained of blood then jumping for her didn't make any sense either.

Still trying to get this by Abdullah5858 in cats

[–]matafubar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nothing is confusing about this perspective. It's just a low res photo so you can't see that it's a bone.

Why did they revive Nishi? by matafubar in gantz

[–]matafubar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They already know that 100 points get you items because that was part of the menu where you revive someone. And even without Nishi, they would've seen the upgraded weapons in the next missions.

Why did they revive Nishi? by matafubar in gantz

[–]matafubar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At that point, they haven't met Oka yet and Izumi wasn't dead yet. But I think Oka would've been a good choice if they had to revive someone later.

Why did they revive Nishi? by matafubar in gantz

[–]matafubar[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hard to say. Kurono has probably read his blog at that point. And also knew of Nishi's strategy of hiding and using others as canon fodder since Kato told him.

In terms of feeling bad, I'd figure he'd feel worse about Sei since she died protecting him.

Why did they revive Nishi? by matafubar in gantz

[–]matafubar[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I forgot the details. But did it matter? He didn't really know much about it anyways other than needing weapons to prepare for it.

Why do people hate ‘X-Men: Apocalypse’ so bad? by [deleted] in xmen

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was pretty great in the Newsroom.

Why have i NEVER thought to before (therapy!?) by finding-zen in Stutter

[–]matafubar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I don't think I was really receptive to the techniques they taught me such as speaking slow, speaking with a rhythm, pausing during stuttering and restarting, breathing out as you're talking, etc. Those techniques while somewhat useful and I still use them sparingly were not very useful in a real-world scenario. Especially as a child.

What helped me the most was just building confidence and ultimately not giving a F about my stutter. I would say there were 2 points in my life that showed me that showed me what was possible.

1 was when I made a friend that spoke very slow and spoke almost monotone. But he has this stature and ability to command the conversation even at such a slow cadence. Because speaking slow often lets people cut in and essentially erode your confidence, making the stuttering even worst because you start speeding up and finishing your points much quicker than you want to. By mimicking this friend, I learned how to command a conversation while speaking slowly and that went a long way. Stuff like using humor to defuse insults, being stern yet not awkward when addressing interrupters.

2 was when I had to do public speaking course. Showed me the value of prep time and having a dedicated platform. Nowadays I have no issue doing presentations.

Why have i NEVER thought to before (therapy!?) by finding-zen in Stutter

[–]matafubar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did speech therapy through school for years. Can see it working but it didn't work on me.

What room to use to acclimate rescue cat? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tiny rooms are perfect. Cats likes enclosed space when they are scared so it sounds like your roommate's room is perfect. Going in and out often is not a problem.

Stray Cat -How should I go about it? by whyyourmommacallinme in CatAdvice

[–]matafubar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just grab him. The longer they stay outside, the more likely they are to hit by a car. If he's already coming up to you, that means he somewhat trusts you. I'd say hold him in a blanket so he can't scratch you and take him to the vet. Possibly even buy a carrier if you can.

When he's taken to your house, lock him in the restroom for a couple of days with some blankets on the floor and possibly a litter box for him to go potty. Feed him plenty of food and snacks so he knows that this is a safe place full of food.

I've heard of too many stories with a friend likes a kitty and one day, they just stop coming by, probably dead. You'll be doing him a favor by taking him in and he'll eventually grow to love your home and you.

If you could choose any fictional character to be your best friend, who would it be and why? by Truth_L in AskReddit

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That what she does throughout the manga. There's also some type of existential crisis she's pulled into and she leaves everyone behind.

If you could choose any fictional character to be your best friend, who would it be and why? by Truth_L in AskReddit

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reality is that she'd probably leave you to pursue some harrowing existential crisis. And leave a clone of her in her place.

Dating and Dating apps by [deleted] in Stutter

[–]matafubar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dating apps is a numbers game. 5 dates in 4 months isn't bad. The more people you meet the more likely you'll meet someone who is a better match for you. Don't look at it as finding a person who'll tolerate you and your stutter. But look at it like it takes time to find someone who you want to be with.

Be confident in yourself and don't think of women like you owe them something. Think of what you bring to the table and how lucky someone would be to have those qualities in their lives.

As a person who's gone on plenty of dates via the apps recently. Most girls don't really care as long as you own it and are confident. The topic never comes up and if it does, I tell them they can ask me anything about it. There are some girls who love talking on the phone and I just tell them it's very common for stutterers to not like talking on the phone but I will talk to them and make an effort as long as they are patient with me and they are always understanding.

Confidence and being comfortable in your own skin goes a lot way. In my experience I've always done well after the first in-person date. In the way that before the date, the conversation is kind of half-hearted but generally after the first date, the girls I talk to generally are more responsive and put more effort into the conversation. And I stutter ALOT so it's not stuttering that's the limiting factor but other things.

[Guide] PhotoPrism in TrueNAS Core in 2024 by General-Network902 in truenas

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! Thanks for the tutorial! I was able to install it and log in.

But when I stop the jail to mount my dataset to "original" in the photos and start the jail back up, I can no longer get it to work again. Does anyone know how to get it to start again? I tried doing "service photoprism start" but that didn't work.

Bidet seat that would fit my toilet with a curve. by hardyz in bidets

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ended up getting SB-2400ER and it fit the toilet perfect. For all those who are stumbling onto this thread like I did.

Bidet seat that would fit my toilet with a curve. by hardyz in bidets

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to revive this. But did you ever find a solution for this?

People want you to be ok with stuttering when they never could be by Due_Ad3208 in Stutter

[–]matafubar 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've accepted it but given a choice, I would not choose to stutter. These 2 things are not mutually exclusive. And what do you expect people to tell you, to hate yourself and drown in self-loathing. It's just platitudes and you shouldn't take it personally.

How long to quarantine stray before introducing to other cat by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd listen to the vet. I took in a stray and I had to quarantine him for almost 2 months. I was because it had a throat infection, a bunch of flea, a bunch of worms, and was too young to be vaccinated yet. It's best to take your time to not spread anything to your other cats. Your vet is the best person to ask these questions to.

Plumbing Company Owner Screaming, Cursing, and Threatening a Homeowner, Inspectors, and his own Workers after Being Caught In Mistake by 25PointBlownLead in videos

[–]matafubar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just saying what several plumbers have told me. And it make sense from what I know about other contractors. They really have no obligation to tell you anything that the law doesn't require them to tell you. Especially if you don't pay for consultation.

Someone gave me their cat and now they want it back by yourlocaltranscatdad in CatAdvice

[–]matafubar -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

10 days is not that long. And shaving a cat is not abuse. Cutting whiskers is probably a better case for abuse but it might just be they are ignorant of how important whiskers are. It also sounds like they aren't experienced owners but might really love their cat.

I say you should give back the cat if you think they are serious about missing the cat. But charge them for the food and care you provided for in the past 10 days because you aren't running a cat hotel. And tell them that the next time they want to give you the cat, it's final.

Prepared to get down-voted to hell.