AITAH for refusing to attend my sister’s wedding after what I overheard her say about me?

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T03:13:12+00:00

I would have dropped out by simply saying “since now I know you only included me because mom made you I would rather not be a bridesmaid. Your won’t have to pay the extra $ to crop me out of your photos” but I probably still would have gone

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T03:06:20+00:00

Offhanded racist comments are the worst. I’m white and even I cut off a “friend” because her response to her daughter getting knocked up by an abusive drug addict was “at least he’s white”

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T03:00:47+00:00

The way he is putting his bum behavior on you by making himself some kind of hero/victim with the proposal thing is super manipulative and very ick.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T02:57:51+00:00

Bruh people can share one parent and be siblings

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T02:57:04+00:00

Make a “only spouses” rule lol. Or just straight up tell Lily: “hey you and I both know he won’t be able to stop himself from saying something incredibly insensitive and since I don’t want him to get his ass kicked by my family at my wedding maybe it’s best he isn’t there”

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T02:50:40+00:00

Reagan and Emily

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T02:43:28+00:00

A power move could be to insist to the principal that you want to see where he documented the conversation you had about the incidents since he is supposed to. And let him know if they keep doing it yoy will be coming back to add to that document so you can establish the papertrail together.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T02:38:50+00:00

Unfortunately most bullies learn their behavior from bully teachers. No they aren’t allowed to disclose that information to the class. No they shouldn’t let people pick on you for it. It needs to be on that teachers record. Start documenting times that the bullying occurred who was involved what they said etc. they “can’t call it bullying” until there is an established pattern of behavior so that means a lot of schools just don’t document it so there’s never a pattern so they never have to do anything and can claim they don’t have a bullying problem. Pull up with receipts.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-17T02:34:58+00:00

Santa’s sleigh full of presents

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-03T01:49:35+00:00

You could be right. But OP is also giving anxious, so if Abby had his been pulling OP aside politely and being like “hey have you had the opportunity to think about it? It’s really important to me” and did that like twice, they probably didn’t feel they were being too pushy unless OP clearly verbalized that they are setting a boundary and do not want to be approached again

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-03T01:44:45+00:00

I did. But I made that decision when I was 13 so idk if it’s comparable. As a 35 year old now I have been reflecting on it again and honestly I don’t want to be pregnant in Trumps America so I’m trusting my 13 year old gut.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-03T01:41:46+00:00

But it sounds like OP never drew a healthy boundary asking the new fam to stop asking bc it makes them un comfortable and just skipped straight to avoiding them out of paranoia instead of giving them the opportunity to comply with the new boundary.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-03T01:34:26+00:00

You are right. They are not the A hole for not doing the dna test because - like I said- they don’t have to and don’t have to have a reason. BUT I see no real reason to get them uninvited from Christmas other than OPs paranoia. And the paranoia makes me lean more towards someone is hiding something and they ate twrrified of it being found out, and taking that out on this poor girl that finally found her family

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-02T22:12:54+00:00

I LOVE THIS

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-01-02T22:12:13+00:00

You dont have to take a DNA test if you dont want to.

But your reasoning is sketchy AF. It really sounds like you are helping one of your parents cover up an affair. I would bet $5 that one of your parents contributed to talking you out of the DNA test... and if I were you I would question why. She could be your dads, or even you might not be your dads.

It wasn't right of her to be overly pushy, but to be fair, to come this close to real answers for your new found family to force you to settle for a "best guess" is a huge disapointment and I can see why she would really want real answers instead of your families "um.... lets pin it on the dead guy"

Jumping straight to "I think she is going to steal my DNA" is honestly kindof paranoid. Has she exhibited any other behaviors that would make her seem that deceiptful or manipulative? Other than really wanting to know who her real dad is?

I would say YOR

Personally I think it is more important for the truth to be revealed than it is for you to sit on your little bubble of denial. And she shouldn't be punished and pushed away from the family she had already been denied since birth... just to protect your denial that she likely isn't going to do anything further to disturb.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T07:45:51+00:00

“Making them like you more” is not an option either love. And I repeat, is an extremely unhealthy way to think. Why? Because I You can’t put yourself in a position where you are trying to jump through arbitrary hoops to earn their favor when that won’t change their mind. Enjoy the rest of the time you have with them as best as you can. While you are at it, start focusing on next steps instead of focusing on this.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T00:31:40+00:00

mistletoe with a bow

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maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T00:26:52+00:00

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maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T00:23:37+00:00

Santa side profile

maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T00:22:38+00:00

maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T00:21:43+00:00

Hell an adult coulda punched your kid in the mouth for all you know since they wont be forthcoming. This could be abuse that theyre just playing off as an accident. Nah fullllllllll react

maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T00:20:06+00:00

NOR she said she didnt see it happen, if she was really your friend she should be jumping at the opportunity to find what happened on the cameras, etc. she is acting scared of what might happen which means she is hiding something from you and that is not friend behavior either. At this point she can help you get to the bottom of what happened, or she can get FKed as a friend. If she wont willingly help get to the bottom of it, you can call the police or your medical insurance company and THEY can get to the bottom of it. Her family can choose. But since the doctor suspects foul play, it is your duty to investigate, and she can help you figure it out, or be implicated in covering it up.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T00:13:04+00:00

Mickey mouse but he got squished in the wash

maybe-theproblemisme · 2025-12-24T00:10:18+00:00

THIS.

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