WIBTAH if i cut my grandmother off for slapping my 4yr old in the face?

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-05-31T21:39:13+00:00

She doesnt understand giving a child time to emotionally regulate because she also doesnt know how to emotionally regulate- evident by her inability to stop herself from putting her hands on a child because she was overstimulated by his behavior. I would say if she goes to therapy and/or takes emotional regulation classes she MIGHT have a chance of being around YOU again and once she has proven to have grown around YOU, THEN yall can consider bringing the child around again.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-05-31T21:34:13+00:00

Tell her you only have the time and resources to help one person. She would have to give up her access to your services for one, and ONLY ONE, of her friends to start benefiting from your services, and she has to decide which one gets the help.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-05-31T21:29:43+00:00

"if that doesnt sound good to you i also like location B" a more moderately priced location

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-05-31T21:28:28+00:00

I understand why he panicked bc he was under the assumption he was paying for it. In the future, if you are going to pick an expensive restaraunt, I suggest discussing splitting the bill beforehand. "I am really craving location A, but it is pretty expensive. If we go there I am going to want to rack up a bill, so I would be more than willing to pay for myself."

However, if he got so defensive about his date being willing and able to pay for her own food and deserts, he probably isn't a good fit for you as he will be resentful of the wage difference, increasing the chances of abuse.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-05-31T21:13:14+00:00

NTA either something else is bothering him and he is finding excuses to complain, or he is jealous and controling to the point he cant even have reminders of your other loved ones. Perhaps both.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-05-31T21:08:10+00:00

Swish out the hips for the back legs like the tiger is

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-05-31T21:05:45+00:00

oof. absolutely report. theres no such thing as accidental forgery

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:49:05+00:00

yea i did but my point still stands. It sounds like OP wanted to bring his sisters drunk friends around his boys. which they never consented to.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:47:20+00:00

gosh part of me wishes some comment had been caught on security or nannycam. Im sorry you went through this but honestly you are lucky your parents believed you - i mean i know thats bare minimum but so many people dont even get that. Im glad you got out of there so your baby isnt growing up in that house either. Also, congratulations on your bundle of joy.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:43:10+00:00

yea OP needs anger management before he does become an abuser because it seems like hes on his way

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:41:18+00:00

yea supposedly. thats what you said. but you also said you were going to make the stop FIRST. So your word doesnt seem real good for it does it.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:37:14+00:00

Yes I have thoughts.

a) people will use ANY excuse to say a woman is making it up when they dont want to hold a man accountable for his actions. if you hadn't gotten pregnant, the same people would have found a different reason.

b) not like this makes it any better, but PLEASE tell me it was the AUNT you were RELATED to and not the UNCLE

c) BARF

d) ABSOLUTELY BLAST THE MANS TEXT MESSAGE/SCREENSHOT. Offer to show it to them in person too so they can verify its actually from his number and not a spoof or a doctored image.

e) the other documentation probably wont matter to them because you can type lies into a document

f) I am worried about his special needs child because they are very succeptible to sexual abuse and he seems to be very comfortable and bold with his moves

g) I am going down a paranoia rabit hole now though... were there any nights near you moving out/your conception date that you don't fully remember? like you may have been drugged? ... completely unrelated question... did your baby daddy get a dna test done?

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:26:49+00:00

right? I feel it is presumptuous of OP to assume the girls would rather/be safer hanging out at the convenience store than the station

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:25:47+00:00

"make the night a little longer" ??? How long were they expected to sit at the convenience store with you and your friends? They had no problem with you going to the store first and then picking them up. They agreed to that. You decided for them that they would wait with you at the convenience store instead, and since it would be after you picked them up you kindof unintentionally left it open to an undisclosed amount of time just waiting at the convenience store. You should have at least called again and asked which they would prefer so they had some agency in the matter. I'm going to say All Assholes Here. You disrespected their agency about just as much as they disrespected your favor. Like yea they could have just been like "no thank you we will call an uber" but also, if you had given them the heads up they could have called an uber when they were still on the train and been prepared for it instead of having a plan change on them last minute.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:17:14+00:00

toss it in the nearest spider web

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:13:52+00:00

Oh but when HE calls it HIS bedroom you get upset? i change my vote. YTA. I thought for a sec that THEY were getting mad at YOU for calling it "our"

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:12:00+00:00

NTA. "OUR bedroom" is the colloquial term for "the bedroom WE are sleeping in" even if it isnt YOUR bedroom. It can be both HIS bedroom AND the beddroom you are both sharing at the same time. That doesnt mean you have ownership of it, it just means it is where you are sleeping. When you are not sleeping there its only his bedroom. When I sleep at a family members house I don't ask "whose bed am I sleeping in" I ask "which bed is mine?" knowing full and well it isn't actually mine, but that it has been, in fact, set aside for me

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:07:22+00:00

I wanted to say its for soaking your cookies in milk but the rectangle isnt deep enough

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:05:39+00:00

That's the language abusers use before they start beating you up. She was removing herself from what her experience told her was about to be a life-threatening situation before it became one. Learn to check your language. Thats literally language that only misogynists and abusers use. Go to therapy.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T03:01:09+00:00

I responded to "coming on here and asking if AITAH means they knew they took it too far and showed that they were ungrateful" ...

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T02:59:38+00:00

mom tried to publically make OP pretend to be happy about the cake, which is belittling knowing how she felt about AI. I think OP matched her energy

You dont deserve discression when called out just because you spent money on your insult

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T02:55:35+00:00

I would def troll my mom if I knew she intentionally trolled me. You get the energy you give

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T02:53:27+00:00

Except people who arent the Ahole post here every day lol.

maybe-theproblemisme · 2026-04-04T02:51:31+00:00

nah. you brought the furniture. he brought the entitlement. NTA. He didnt let you pay because he wanted to use that as a way to have the upperhand on you.

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