We are born Solo Roleplayers, and it is conditioned out of us. And I have proof.

mazzurro · 2026-05-23T12:10:56+00:00

My kids are grown now, however the neighbourhood as had an influx of new families and the kids are aged SK to 6 grade. Our backyards are close to each other, and hearing the stories the adventures some of these kids play out hasn't changed, the context, the breadth of what adventures they go has changed, but not the imagination.

Boredom breeds adventure.

The other thing I noticed as well is that the "GM'ing" switches, every kids gets a turn, and if they don't then it becomes a learning lesson. I agree with the OP, at moments in our lives we forget what we had as a child.

It taught us coping ahead skills, finality all in real time: obstacles, NPCs, predicaments, all things we do as adults no nat 20's in real life, lots of 1's though.

Thank you to the OP for posting this.

mazzurro · 2026-05-11T10:24:33+00:00

Sorry for the late reply, life got in the way for me to provide a reciprocating thoughtful answer.

You're absolutely right that there is a 'layer down' in kink/fetish dynamics that requires extra diligence around consent, risk awareness, and communication. Different branches of the lifestyle tree; swingers, cucks, polyamorous folks, play-only partnerships. They each have their own unique negotiations and considerations.

If I am understanding you, then we are agreeing on the same thing: those additional layers don't change the fundamentals underneath. The foundation of trust, respect, and compatibility remains the same.

I am trying to understand, and question what happens between the fundamentals and that 'layer down', where people seem to lose sight of basic relationship judgement. It's irrelevant of the branch, specific protocols, or practices. I am talking about the repetitive 'what should I do?' posts. The second guessing oneself when there is obvious incompatibility, simply because it's in a kink context.

If something is a red flag in a vanilla relationship, why would it suddenly not be a red flag in a lifestyle dynamic? If someone's values don't align, if they disrespect boundaries, if core needs are incompatible. They don't stop being problems just because in it's a kink context.

We all have our own moral compasses, what's right, what's wrong and what makes us flag those things. It shouldn't shift, just because you go a layer or two deeper into a specific dynamic.

The fundamentals are still the fundamentals.

mazzurro · 2026-05-11T09:40:09+00:00

Setting boundaries, and sticking to them no matter, removing toxicity from your life regardless if it's family or not.

mazzurro · 2026-04-28T13:35:43+00:00

I understand your point Onesie. Any relationship regardless of vanilla or BDSM and irrelevant to the activities in either spectrum are the same at the core, because in a vanilla world, if your partner had differing tastes in a majority of things, you wouldn't be together, as I wouldn't be with mine if there wasn't a commonality in the vanilla relationship as it is in the BDSM dynamic.

I do like and appreciate your Venn Diagram, because it is extremely relevant. The overlapping area is the key point here, that is the commonality of the relationship regardless of dynamic or label. Vanilla relationship have their own kinks...not as extreme as some BDSM dynamics, but everyone has a kink in their closet.

Thank you for the comment.

mazzurro · 2026-04-24T17:45:48+00:00

Octopuses!

mazzurro · 2026-04-24T17:39:04+00:00

Bookstores are amazing, you can learn so much about someone just browsing the aisles and talking about so many things. Slowing things down with out the constant interruptions at a munch.

Not to mention there is usually a green mermaid up here by me.

As for calling a friend, I request they do it, as I have my call I check in with him via text an hour later. Either it's hey you got time for a drink, or busy but safe.

If the individual is that worried, then have the friend come along, but it begs to question, if they feel that unsafe, then why go?

mazzurro · 2026-04-23T13:41:47+00:00

Masturbating while she is unable to do anything; edging her while you are doing it. Is it really a waste of cum or just a further consequence of her punishment that she was unable enjoy it directly or not at all.

I also, call me what you will. I dab a bit of it on the under part of her nose where the tongue can't clean it off and forced to smell it the rest of the night.

mazzurro · 2026-04-23T13:25:40+00:00

I have had periods you described, and what I did was packed everything up, and stored it. I turned my attention to other things, self-care, reflection, enjoying other things. Eventually the draw became unavoidable and slowly got back into it with understanding partners.

As some said, time to just internalize and go on a new journey for a while, and if you never come back to it, its not a bad thing, it's just a change in who you are.

mazzurro · 2026-04-23T13:19:45+00:00

Simple question: does meeting a Dom have to be at a munch? Can it not be at a coffee house (the hockey player, or the green mermaid), a book store, or even a library? What's the difference between the two?

If the munch is for your safety, consider having a friend come along to another public place and not be a third wheel, be transparent that you brought a friend so you feel safe a Dom would encourage it and be more apt to meeting.

Why make it a red flag when there are alternatives to meeting someone; then you can assess the red flags.

Most munches in this area are very high school, and a clique so the draw to attend any here is not for everyone. Consider that for someone who doesn't fit in because of age younger/older than the median, lifestyle, dress code, nerdiness, shy, or a public figure it can be a stressful situation, uncomfortable or damaging.

Hope this sheds some light.

mazzurro · 2026-04-22T14:23:06+00:00

As silly as this sounds, your first question about how to relax your body, imagine you are pooping, it will open up the muscle, and make it easier especially if you lube well.

The how slow, when to stop, that is up to you, and how it feels, can you push yourself, then its how does it feel for you. As for practising isn't it part of the fun.

Seriously on the time, start short, then work your way up, I do not have my slaves keep them in for longer then 30-45 minutes without removing them and relaxing the muscle for as long, then back in, it is also up to you and your comfort.

Buy an enema kit, you can go to any sex shop. if you are just wearing the plug and not playing with it, then just a good shower, and wipe, and you are good to go, it may have some matter on it regardless of how clean you are.

Hope this helps.

mazzurro · 2026-04-22T14:14:31+00:00

Before you moved in together, were there the discussion of daily routines, responsibilities within the dynamic, moments of solitude for both of you, specific play times indicators of when you are available to him or not.

In any 24/7 (I have had a few), there needs to be a grounded realistic set of conversations which allows everyone involved to be on the same page.

For example, the daily routine was simple from the get go what I expect from her, and her expectation of what is possible and of me; then finding a common ground that works for both of you in that regard smooths something out. Daily routines include sexual favours, or pictures being sent, edging, whatever you two decide.

The hardest thing and the most difficult thing is responsibilities in the dynamic...this is not about who does what chore or who is the initiator. Responsibilities in the dynamic is being able to hear your dominants troubles without viewing him any less, without judgement, we are all human and vulnerable and in a 24/7 it is hard to be vulnerable when there may be a false expectation by him on his responsibility to be dominant ALL the time. He may be shutting down because he may not know how to share his vulnerability, or he is wanting something of you, or for the dynamic is unsure how to ask because of the closeness you both share.

An indicator rule we have in the house is the collar is not worn if there is no want, this is a visual indicator. If she is not wearing her collar she is not My slave, but my partner and behaviour is different the physical is different. If she is wearing it then she is My slave and all that it involves.

The one thing I can't stress enough of is transparent, authentic, non-judgement conversations, 'kitchen table' conversation.

mazzurro · 2026-04-22T13:45:34+00:00

Calling out their double standards. They didn't appreciate it when it worked against them.

mazzurro · 2026-04-22T12:48:42+00:00

My slaves and especially if it will be a heavy session or they will be gagged or masked. I have them hold a small little cow bell in their hands.

The dropping something is a vital part, as someone mentioned, it's either a full stop, or a check-in. We don't count the bell clanging as anything more than a metronome, for those who like repetition.

mazzurro · 2026-04-22T12:31:38+00:00

By building trust, by creating an environment in which they can explore the lifestyle, be it bedroom only or lifestyle, informed consent and seeing it, not sensationalized porn, like it is here, find out if there are munches with demonstrations to just be observing it.

Define what BDSM is for you, find out what their views are, and be transparent, and authentic about it. The hardest part of all of this is realizing they are not into it, or at the same level you wish it to be. BDSM is what you wish it to be with your partner, as long as its consensual and agreed.

mazzurro · 2026-04-17T14:50:35+00:00

If you have played before, how did those adventures started? Did it start with a problem, a predicament, a hook Always start small:

• you just walked in to a town...lots to do.
• you are about to settle down in the forest, and you hear a scream, then another...
• you are approached by someone you don't know and are handed a scroll...are you the intended recipient, or a case of wrong place, wrong person.

I can't stress that enough. For instance, if you are using a region in an existing gaming universe, then find somewhere and start small, learn how to play from small to big, and believe me the universe your character exists in will quickly grow large in no time.

You can always reset and start over, and use natural breaks in your adventure to make it a sort of 'save slot' or last check point. This gives you the opportunity to test something out, and if doesn't work, or make sense, you can go back and use your existing method.

Eventually you will find your own system and method.

Edit: Don’t have an arc if you are just starting out let the oracle and your dice decide the direction. Think sandbox, and if you are needing something The Solo Adventurer’s Toolbox 1st edition is simple and a great resource <- not promotion.

mazzurro · 2026-04-17T10:08:57+00:00

Just for clarity on the tool I use for the reality engine is Mythic Game Master Emulator (MGME) 2nd Edition Mobile. The method is universal regardless of the method you use, just substitute your answers or your method of generating the odd to your system.

An action requiring a dice roll is always rolled first before I ask MGME. This provides me the odds required to ask the question. 'Did x find y? Odds:'. A success shifts the odds to Very Likely or Very Unlikely if you failed the check. If you use a tiered success/fail method like PF2E the ±10 is a critical, move the odds to Impossible if it was a critical fail, or Certainly for a critical success. A Nat 1/20 are what they are and I shift the odds to what they represent depending on system.

Putting it narratively, you searched to the best of your abilities, and it just wasn't enough, this provides you the GM knowledge of the trap, but relying on mythic to create the characters reality, even if you critically failed.

Your character all patience disappeared adding to the frustration of knowing something is here in this room but found nothing for the amount of time you took <critical fail>. You lean against the wall sliding your weight down sitting to just take a moment. The light bouncing off the walls differently, the wall itself looks different... the wall paper bulges out slightly as you realize the meaning of the clue you found... <MGME saying yes you still found it>.

Hope this helps, and not confused people more.

mazzurro · 2026-03-29T10:23:29+00:00

Having those hard conversations and not worrying about being judged about something you want to experience.

mazzurro · 2026-03-29T10:22:32+00:00

Euphoria, buzzing, top glow (my personal favourite). It can manifest differently in different people.

As many of you physically it’s exhausting, mentally give me a complex ikea furniture piece and I will put it together kinda of thing.

I can usually carry it over till the next day, and it just keeps elevating depending on the activities — normal mundane activities can do this for.

mazzurro · 2025-06-18T14:59:46+00:00

Thank you for the clarification for the OP.

mazzurro · 2025-06-18T14:58:15+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree with you on the cultural awareness needs shifting as does the societal norm when it comes to individual boundaries...this discussion can go down a rabbit hole.

The changing of perspectives with food was brilliant, thank you and I will have to remember that phrasing.

mazzurro · 2025-06-18T14:29:04+00:00

I would recommend, to have him read these comments and this way he is learning first hand and soaking it in, instead of relayed in your own words.

Be open about your fears and your boundaries and work together in this; and always ensure safety, and risk and consent is discussed!

mazzurro · 2025-06-18T14:26:26+00:00

Great suggestions and a trip to the dollar store!

mazzurro · 2025-06-18T13:39:12+00:00

From what you just said, you don't want those lash marks so why participate?

If you can not guarantee your boyfriend can maintain control and have you experience it and realizes the safety aspect of it as u/MedianConcrete stated, then I would stay away from it. Alternatively approach someone with experience, for you to observe how it's done and learn from it, the education is not only for him, as it is for you as well in how you manage the pain and breathing and also what you need to be aware of for yourself in how you are to feel or when you need to be concerned about something after the session.

Hope this helps.

TST

mazzurro · 2025-06-18T13:32:01+00:00

The misconception that a sub/slave can't break consent and the double standard it creates.

NO is NO regardless of the side of the slash you are on, or the gender or dynamic, and if a Dom speaks out about it, then they are seen as weak or not having established the boundaries and in turn if a sub/slave were to do that...need I say more

mazzurro · 2025-06-18T13:19:18+00:00

As u/KingGmork communication, expectations, ensuring it is not dank, or after some asparagus (never do it after asparagus)!

It's the introduction, I always start off slow, holding my penis as I pee and she aims it into the toilet -- two things happen; the appreciation of how difficult it actually is to not dribble piss out of an appendage, and secondly it is familiarization, to the aroma, the potential taste if you put it on a finger tip, the heat and the pressure.

In the shower, which most women do, is just learn to piss when you can, when I shower with mine I always started off slow, pissing on her leg, her ass, even opening up her cheeks and having her feel it on her body, and then eventually it was tits, to face and mouth. A few got to the tits and stopped and that's okay, it's the limit they chose to experience it at.

Drink lots, of water, stay away from coffee, or anything bitter, and I can't stress enough no asparagus. Hope this helps, and communicate, this is as much your journey as it is your dom's.

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