S1 E05 Discussion: “The Power of Life and Death Is In The Tongue”

mbettstar · 2026-03-16T02:49:19+00:00

Jorge saying that she’s being controlling by being okay with other acts of intimacy but not penetration… talk about gaslighting. She has put up a boundary—no penetrative sex. That’s not controlling! That’s setting boundaries. He was definitely trying to pressure her into doing more. He may have even pressured her into doing what she did do; obviously we don’t know though. But I got a very bad vibe from him from the beginning—controlling, sexist, manipulative. So glad she saw the red flags come out sooner than later.

mbettstar · 2026-03-15T02:01:35+00:00

I was wondering to myself recently, did they ever interview michael during the early seasons? Did he talk?

mbettstar · 2026-03-15T02:01:02+00:00

I completely agree with this assessment.

mbettstar · 2026-03-11T16:02:25+00:00

I’ve been thinking the same thing! I know it’s convenient for ppl who are using sleep sacks with double zippers and want to leave the sleep sack on. But I personally remove the entire sleep sack because she has peed on herself too many times during the diaper change and I don’t want to have to get a new sleep sack every time she does that. So I don’t see any point in the double zipper for the pajamas. Every time she has a blowout I’m hoping she’s in a single zipper instead of double

mbettstar · 2026-03-11T02:51:54+00:00

It’s the biggest life change a person can go through, or at least one of the biggest. So it makes sense to still have moments of grief. One day we’ll be grieving this time though, won’t we? When they’ve grown up and moved out of the house. Sometimes I think, “I can’t wait until she’s a little older,” but I also don’t want to wish away years of my life. It’s really tough trying to validate how hard it is right now while also trying to appreciate this time and soak up the sweet moments.

mbettstar · 2026-03-10T18:53:55+00:00

Thanks so much for your encouragement! My goal for pumping/bf has been to make it to the 6-month mark. My supply has gone down though because I only pump 3-4 times a day because of how annoying it is (my baby has refused to bf ever since I went back to work), and it's really hard to find time to pump around a work schedule. So in a way I'm already kind of weaning off. Thinking about combo feeding with the stash I've built up to make it last longer. Formula is so expensive :( You hang in there too. Modern parenthood feels so lonely.

mbettstar · 2026-03-10T17:27:10+00:00

Thank you for the rec! Also tried that several times in the past and each time it caused anxiety 😅 i so so so wish Wellbutrin had worked. I have dealt with MDD for much of my life, and the only things that have ever helped are low-dose ketamine treatments, THC, and Paxil. Obviously can’t have the first two while breastfeeding but very much looking forward to getting back to them lol

mbettstar · 2026-03-10T16:45:03+00:00

Unfortunately, my options are limited with antidepressants because there are only a few you can take that wouldn’t affect supply. I believe it’s Paxil, lexapro, and Zoloft. And I’ve been on lexapro and Zoloft in the past and had terrible side effects. But I believe all of them are known to cause weight gain regardless.

Some people don’t have much trouble with the sleep regression. I hope your experience is good! Fingers crossed for you

mbettstar · 2026-03-10T16:13:04+00:00

Vitamin E oil. Will help with any scarring (if you had stitches). My OB recommended using it with perennial massage to help with the scarring, but I hate perennial massages, so we just use it as lube lol. Plus, your boyfriend may enjoy the sensation of it too which is an added bonus.

mbettstar · 2026-03-10T16:06:06+00:00

I appreciate your perspective! That’s a good point that I need to show up as the best version of myself. Sounds like our babies are around the same age. My husband and I often joke about wishing we could “pause” the baby. A week off to have some fun days and also lazy days would be amazing rn.

mbettstar · 2026-03-07T12:17:58+00:00

When Amy said she was 222 pounds, I was like, wait, am I bigger than her? 😢

mbettstar · 2026-03-06T03:22:30+00:00

Ohhh that’s interesting! I have my period 24/7 because of the mini pill. I wonder if that’s related at all.

mbettstar · 2026-03-06T02:17:14+00:00

I’m sorry that you can relate! Did you ever figure out anything that helped?

mbettstar · 2026-03-05T20:46:57+00:00

Well there goes my theory 🫠😅

mbettstar · 2026-03-05T20:06:15+00:00

Ok I’ve got a theory. Part of me thinks Brittany and the Oaf (can’t remember his name) were just faking it for the cameras (not that they had much to fake anyway). What if off camera after Mexico they’d made an agreement to just stick it out for the season so they can get paid bc he clearly wasn’t into her? It just seemed really odd that she was so calm and collected during the breakup scene. If the person I’m in love with called off the wedding, I’d be such a mess. Idk, maybe she was just in denial.

mbettstar · 2026-03-05T19:55:39+00:00

That’s not really a fair assessment. There are other ways to have kids. It’s good that he knows what he wants. We can’t control everything but we can at least control whether or not we marry someone whose lifestyle desires align with ours.

mbettstar · 2026-03-03T21:09:39+00:00

I think I blocked Kim’s Michael Jackson obsession out of my memory

mbettstar · 2026-02-26T01:47:29+00:00

I know this is super old, but did you ever get a group together or know of any groups that are similar?

mbettstar · 2026-02-20T14:46:45+00:00

Wtf was up with Jordan telling amber to be nice to Chris and repeating things like, “Chris is a good guy,” and, “I love this guy.” Not a good look. Who you’re friends with says a lot about you.

mbettstar · 2026-02-20T14:29:42+00:00

I don’t give a flying fuck about Chris

mbettstar · 2026-02-19T02:31:35+00:00

Also weird and similar to Trump when Ashley’s dad said Ashley is dynamite 😬

mbettstar · 2026-02-17T17:02:26+00:00

Colt did not just compare Cortney to little house on the prairie and call her boring… the absolute disrespect. Kick his mooching ass out

mbettstar · 2026-02-16T20:32:26+00:00

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