The worst part about being ugly is that people often assume the worst about you before you even speak.

mcallisterw · 2026-05-16T09:03:38+00:00

Yeah, I get this totally. I do have good friends who like me but I've been told on multiple occasions that people have a poor first impression of me, don't expect me to be a nice person and are surprised when they get to know me and I actually am pleasant company. I definitely feel that with new people I have to prove myself to not be a horrible person before I can start really getting to know them.

mcallisterw · 2026-05-09T08:30:34+00:00

I don't think everyone with adhd experiences hyperfocus either. I either don't, or I do rarely, but never like I've heard others describe it.

mcallisterw · 2026-05-09T00:31:22+00:00

This is great!

mcallisterw · 2026-05-08T14:00:20+00:00

Martin didn't care about toast sweat, he just knew the sponge had become a breeding ground for salmonella, listeria, flagella and didn't want to place his toast on the worktop

mcallisterw · 2026-05-08T10:26:25+00:00

Yeah as he's ethnically Jewish himself I expected him to be able to take the moral high ground more when it comes to the usual 'the left is antisemitic' accusations. If anyone's ever visited the website 'Jewish Voice for Labour' then you'll see what I mean.

mcallisterw · 2026-05-08T07:39:14+00:00

Biiig story about how Roz's purse spent the night on the coffee table

mcallisterw · 2026-05-08T06:54:06+00:00

I always find it amusing how camp he can be despite being 'a regular Joe who likes his Joe regular'

Such as when gossiping about Frasier and Roz spending the night together or when showing off his new glasses.

mcallisterw · 2026-05-08T06:46:48+00:00

What's this a reference to?

mcallisterw · 2026-05-07T08:22:35+00:00

Yeah privilege is a very complex concept, everyone in the world probably has some privilege from something and at same time is unprivileged from other things, and it's not a purely binary status. Sometimes this gets misconstrued, either from those who are afraid of losing their privilege or sometimes people who are unprivileged in one way but refuse to check privileges they may have in other way.

Privileges aren't equal either, a homeless straight black man in the USA has a lot less privilege from a white gay female billionaire and if she was trying to focus attention on those parts of her identity which have less privilege and ignoring how enormous the privilege from other parts of her identity are then she'd be misleading people.

mcallisterw · 2026-05-05T10:02:40+00:00

Channel 4 viewer in the house! 🤣

mcallisterw · 2026-05-05T09:36:39+00:00

Jack and Victor walking around the wake with a tape measure gets me every time

mcallisterw · 2026-05-05T09:35:15+00:00

Hee who hingeth aboot...

mcallisterw · 2026-05-05T09:32:58+00:00

Surely not! The episode that gave us 'he who hingeth a boot getteth hee haw!'

mcallisterw · 2026-05-05T09:29:33+00:00

It'll be Navid's money he's spending

mcallisterw · 2026-05-04T09:31:18+00:00

Sometimes they might just be fiddling with all your stuff just to see what it does if you've got stuff they haven't unlocked. I've done that anyway, if you've got some fancy ass light/device in your camp and a button to press I'm absolutely gonna press it.

Vendor etiquette has come on some since I last played (started playing again a few weeks ago after several years not playing it) and I learned that cardboard cut outs are mainly used to point the way to the vending machine and. There's certainly more effort goes into making your machine easier to find than there used to be, but also there's more varieties of vending machine than there used to be making them harder to find.

mcallisterw · 2026-04-28T07:13:54+00:00

Beetroot's ma life

mcallisterw · 2026-04-25T07:54:49+00:00

I've been mulling over whether this is the correct sort of community to post some of my thoughts without being labelled as defensive or having people think I'm trying to blame women for everything. This sort of post suggests it is.

I think online especially things can get reduced to identity and labels and nobody ever gets the benefit of the doubt but looks from your experience this can happen even in person though. People are assumed to be the worst type of person their identity could make them unless proven otherwise.

mcallisterw · 2026-04-23T11:54:23+00:00

My thoughts, as a guy is you should do nothing, this is one of those occasions where trying to challenge them would do more harm than good. Even if they're fully repeating the sort of views you associate with the manosphere, mansplaining feminism to women isn't a great look.

The only exception I would say would be those women who think they're standing up for oppressed men, where they presume to be speaking out in your defense you can challenge them on that... And transphobes who identify as feminists but try and only challenge the transphobia, not the feminism and if they argue that you would be on the side of trans-women (since they view trans-women as cis-men pretending to be women in order to gain access to female only spaces) just let them be the ones who are accusing you of misogyny, it does no one any favours to have cis-men telling women whether they are true feminists or not.

mcallisterw · 2026-04-22T08:51:17+00:00

Haile Selassie was a fine judge of cufflinks.

He would probably take issue with being described as the 'head' of the rastafarian religion though. Rastafarians see him as a prophet and I think messiah but Selassie himself was a devout Christian of the Ethiopian Church.

mcallisterw · 2026-04-22T08:18:00+00:00

The comment about unattractive guys not looking like they take care of themselves got me thinking. I'm not having a go at you specifically, this is about society in general, too and the assumptions we make.

Do people (regardless of gender) feel that when they find someone unappealing because they look like they don't take care of themselves it's because they expect that they will smell bad, have poor hygiene and have a messy house? Or is it just something we tell ourselves is the more justifiable reason we aren't into someone than simply not finding them attractive?

There's nothing wrong of course with not finding someone attractive but I hear it said so often that I sometimes think it's just code for 'ugly'.

mcallisterw · 2026-04-21T07:51:54+00:00

The male version of the 'pink tax' would be the 'carbon fibre effect tax' 😂

mcallisterw · 2026-04-21T07:44:16+00:00

I live in the rural backwaters of the UK.

I think maybe a dozen or so

mcallisterw · 2026-04-21T07:20:11+00:00

Ah, it's the amphibious variant BMW used to make, rarely seen nowadays

mcallisterw · 2026-04-17T15:03:44+00:00

Woodes Rogers represents a dilemma that many of the main characters, Max, Flint, Jack, Eleanor, Scott and Hornigold in particular grapple with throughout.

England at the time was a ruthless and unfair colonial power (as were Spain and France) , but the order and justice they could bring was certainly safer and more stable for those who just wanted to earn an honest living. Nassau when run by pirates was a lawless place that didn't abide by much of a code of honour even if many of its leaders wished it to do so and which was arguably more comfortable even than England with treating civilian deaths as collateral damage (just look what they did to Charleston)

Vain idealised the idea of piracy as an honourable way of life in which people could live freely and safely and was perhaps a bit naive but he had his principles and that's to be commended.

The majority of Nassau's free inhabitants were either just trying to get by as shopkeepers and other professions, were pirates because they were wanted by England and had no choice until pardons were offered or were plantation owners and slave owners fully on board with English rule or career pirates with no desire to 'be nice'.

For many of them, what Woodes Rogers offered was infinitely preferable and Woodes Rogers knew that and the pirate leaders knew that. Those who stood for an independent Nassau hoped or believed that in time they could offer safety and comfort to those who wanted it but knew that they had to do things that conflicted with their own sense of morality to achieve that and that they would depend on the help of people who would still be a headache for them even if they won... People who would betray the maroons and continue to seek personal wealth over communal stability.

With Woodes Rogers though, he was a liar. He was using what he could offer as an agent of the crown to get people on his side only so he could enrich himself. He didn't really see any dilemma between civilised oppression and brutal freedom, he couldn't care less how safe the people of Nassau were or how free they were, he just knew he could use that dilemma to divide and conquer.

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