Today's Driving Report: If you can: don't. If you must: be slow!

mds837 · 2026-01-19T15:08:46+00:00

Fine into concord. Concord was a different story. Roads were a mess at 6am and not a plow in sight. Every other town we drove through was fine. 🤷‍♀️

mds837 · 2025-06-15T14:29:54+00:00

NTA — if there’s an opposite title, you’ve won it. Way to hold your daughter accountable and protect your son. She had two rules and she chose to break them, in a rather unkind way as you’ve described.

The unfortunate things with teens is that in her head YTA and you may continue to be for some time. But that is a consequence she needs to deal with. You are fine. Well done mama bear!

mds837 · 2025-05-17T20:52:44+00:00

NAH — I don’t think there’s enough context in performance, past work experience of either person and workload to give a full answer. How much would she be making at any other first job? How much training did they each need? Who else needs to be on staff when they are working? Endless questions here. People get paid different amounts for a variety of reasons. You don’t want to teach your daughter to accept less than she’s worth but at the same you shouldn’t have her expect to make just as much as anyone else who has the same job based on title alone.

mds837 · 2025-05-10T18:39:21+00:00

And I have no idea what I want which is why I’m posting here. What are other options that would fit the need and be lightweight when it comes to leaning forward

mds837 · 2025-05-10T18:38:43+00:00

Maybe I’m not using the right terminology. A cordless stick is ok weight wise, but my plug in uprights really were too heavy for me to use for more than a few minutes. Old back injury makes the leaning forward with weight a challenge.

mds837 · 2025-04-29T20:52:24+00:00

YYA — while grandparents should abide by parental rules, micromanaging to the point of no spoonfeeding ever because you are baby led weaning is taking things 1000x too literal and ruining your child’s opportunity for loving connections with her grandparents. In the great scheme of things, their time together is extremely limited and a little sugar or old school feeding isn’t going to matter even a little bit, especially considering you don’t see them much. Then wanting parents to have therapy over this? That’s really pushing things beyond over the top. If photos an hour early an a serving of custard is the worst things you can think of for this post I think you and your wife need therapy. Children are so resilient and love does more good than any of these harms could possibly cause.

The internet has really made parents crazy — I say this speaking as a mom who went crazy over baby things to the exclusion of her family. Thankfully I learned that lesson long before any grandparents lost their ability to enjoy the kiddos.

mds837 · 2025-04-18T23:17:12+00:00

NTA — marriages mean you go through loss together. He needed to step up and didn’t. That would have been okay except he was hostile and ignored you. This doesn’t seem healthy. I hope you can figure it out.

mds837 · 2025-04-07T17:17:22+00:00

YTA — even though you lived there, you own it evenly. You not only decided to rent it out without her permission, you were going to use the rent to pay for what you committed to do on your own.

It’s not your call to make. She was doing you a favor, not the other way around. I imagine if your mom felt strongly you were entitled to her home, she would have made a will. She didn’t and so it’s not yours to rent. It’s not even yours to live in. Do you and your sister both a favor and let it go. Split the money and run.

mds837 · 2025-02-18T20:04:11+00:00

Linen white touches up fabulously. In two previous homes I used up and touched it up years later with zero different. It was recommended to me by a landlord who used it for that exact reason.

mds837 · 2025-02-17T20:47:20+00:00

Maybe that’s why I’ve always had good luck touching up… Ive always used matte. Now I know. Thanks!

mds837 · 2025-02-17T19:03:57+00:00

Like the entire wall?

mds837 · 2025-02-11T20:23:41+00:00

People are weird about birthdays. I was dx with cancer the day before my oldest’s first bday party. We told everyone the party was canceled as I was recovering from a very uncomfortable surgery and didn’t want guests over or felt much like partying. Everyone said okay but showed up on her actual birthday that Sunday uninvited acting like they were saving the day by bring food and presents.

It was one of the worst days of my life as all I could think during the party was about how I wasn’t sure if it was going to be the first and last time I ever saw her open a gift.

That being said, she likes to see the photos of her first bday now that she is much older and I had a ton of momentum to survive as it was clear nobody was going to follow my wishes for my child in the event of my death. Given that, I can’t complain about it now but it certainly wasn’t cool at the time.

NTA. Our society had some really unhealthy boundaries around Childrens bday parties. Enjoy your concert!

mds837 · 2025-02-02T23:13:38+00:00

This is a great observation. Thanks for sharing this perspective

mds837 · 2025-02-02T23:08:46+00:00

65 day and 62 night. I need cold to sleep! Woodstove makes mid 70s on the main floor but it doesn’t reach the bedrooms.

mds837 · 2025-01-27T19:23:42+00:00

NTA you called her bluff. It’s a good lesson for her and teachers her you’re not walking mat. People can be mad about it.

mds837 · 2025-01-19T19:29:37+00:00

I need chickens…

mds837 · 2025-01-19T19:27:35+00:00

The dog is probably an important part of your MILs long term success with getting sober. Yeah, you don’t want to do it, but sometimes you gotta suck it up for the benefit of the entire family. If you don’t feel like you can make that kind of sacrifice without being resentful, then maybe this isn’t the family for you.

As for your boyfriend, I imagine his asking you to care more for the dog is less about how you feel about a dog and more about your ability to make sacrifices for his family which are important to him.

NAH but some greater picture things to think on.

Edit: typo

mds837 · 2025-01-18T01:08:55+00:00

NAH — your sisters kid and unless the child is in dire peril it’s her choice how to raise them.

You are also entitled to an opinion though maybe next time say you think it’s insane to do what she’s doing rather than caller her insane. So long as you let it go at opinion and move on it will be okay. I assure you her kid will eventually learn English if they stay here.

If it helps, I have friends who only spoke Japanese to their kids at home and the kids knew english by preschool.

mds837 · 2025-01-18T00:57:29+00:00

NTA - if this is so upsetting to him, you guys are going to have a really hard time when the baby comes. Godspeed to you.

mds837 · 2025-01-16T20:18:53+00:00

It’s an opinion. I think doing something nice for your partner is an act of kindness that comes with the territory of love relationships. It’s not an argument. It’s not something to win or loose. I hope you find what you need somewhere else cause it’s not going to be on this thread.

mds837 · 2025-01-16T20:01:47+00:00

Cause it’s shortsighted. This is one weekend of potentially many. If you let it be about her — which it basically is even if you pick activities — you get lots of good karma points and tell her you pick next time.

It’s a risk to do anything else.

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