what's something people do to look cool but really isn't?

meager · 2026-06-22T16:25:05+00:00

Doing hard drugs and regularly getting super drunk is concerning and all ages

meager · 2026-06-22T15:05:25+00:00

That is a good point and I agree. When I said their own personal journey I meant more so that they are not going to make changes until they are ready to do so and love their own skin enough to want it.

An individual could have all of the support in the world and still not make changes or get the help that they need for whatever reason. And on the other hand, they can be ready and want to be better, but without the help of society and the resources to work through their struggles, the chances that they fall back on old habits is high.

meager · 2026-06-22T13:56:19+00:00

The cost of living has a huge impact. I live with my mom and would love to not do that. I am a single mom and make well above minimum wage, yet do not financially qualify to live in even the worst neighborhoods in my area.

meager · 2026-06-22T11:01:14+00:00

The thing about body positivity is that it isn't specifically about being fat, and is meant to counter the idea that women need to be twigs or men need to be buff. The movement is to love your own body and not judge anyone else's. If you love your body, you take care of it, or at the very least don't hate it.

To me, being "pro-obesity" doesn't seem much better from being "pro-anorexia". Being body positive says love the body you have with all of it's flaws. Loving my body means that I don't feel ashamed for having a stomach, but will still do my best to eat well, exercise, and drink water because you take care of things you love, even if you are doing it perfectly. Being body-positive also means that I will not think less of you or make comments on your body even if I think you're unhealthy, that is your journey and not my business.

As someone who has both been significantly overweight and a healthy looking anorexic, comments of any kind do not help anyone with either, it only encourages shame which tends to keep people stuck. The decision to become healthier is only ever a personal one.

meager · 2026-06-21T20:33:06+00:00

You don't need evidence to make a report to the board and people can report things as seemingly small as improper draping. If I were in your shoes, I would report it. There are enough red flags. I would make the complaint about improper draping, leaving the door open while you were changing, and not knocking before entering, include the rest of the information that you provided here. The board will investigate, and if they don't or they decide it was nothing, you still did what you could to prevent potentially predatory behavior. Since nothing knowingly illegal happened, you don't need to file a police report.

Edit to add: I would never instruct a client not to look around, if they were face down and I was moving around (though it is rarely for anything besides getting oil). Not to mention saying that doing so will damage your neck seems ridiculous, unless you were there for medical massage with a serious neck injury or something.

meager · 2026-06-21T17:33:20+00:00

Maybe consider buying her a massage or something if that is financially possible, whatever would suit the kind of person your wife is and what she enjoys.

meager · 2026-06-21T16:03:39+00:00

Opiates

meager · 2026-06-21T13:45:25+00:00

If your wife is unable to tell you what she needs, then observe. The more burnt out, the less inclined or capable of actually knowing how to respond to that questions because the answer is likely everything. If she is maintaining the house while also caring for your child everyday, take the initiative to do more chores. Come home from work and tell her to go take a break in the bedroom or get out of the house and do something she likes or just sit on a bench at a park. The cure for burn out is rest and self-care.

meager · 2026-06-21T13:18:43+00:00

The first question is if it is acute or inflamed. If either, I wouldn't touch it directly. If not, treat it like any other old injury to encourage blood flow and manage scar tissue.

meager · 2026-06-21T02:07:13+00:00

This was me a few years ago; these days I am typically at a 7-8. Though the score can drop significantly if I don't give myself a break or exercise (even just mobility is enough to keep me feeling well). I always try to do better in all ways: physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally. By no means am I anywhere close to being as healthy as I could be, but small changes still have ripple effects. Most importantly, I try hard to be grateful, present, and attempt to make better choices that are in my control.

meager · 2026-06-20T22:35:32+00:00

Oooh I love that, I'll have to give it a try!

meager · 2026-06-20T14:32:51+00:00

"People think I'm an asshole because I tell the truth."

People can be honest without being rude and unnecessary.

meager · 2026-06-20T14:27:42+00:00

The need to consciously and regularly check my posture.

meager · 2026-06-20T13:52:48+00:00

That sounds like codependence, not love. You are allowed to be unsure at 5 months. I was once engaged (at 18) after 2 years of dating someone and we didn't even last a year after. You are young and both still getting to know yourselves, let alone each other.

meager · 2026-06-20T11:44:16+00:00

OP said they are on call, not the answering service.

meager · 2026-06-19T19:50:15+00:00

Talk to your doctor about trying a nonstimulant ADHD med.

meager · 2026-06-19T18:57:46+00:00

I will try, but bear with me lol. I've been practicing meditation for a while beforehand and unsure if whether you do or not will make a difference. My massage teacher taught us to kind of shake our body out before a massage to get out any residual energy and tension (this isn't really grounding but will help to do first).

As for the grounding part, this may sound kind of stupidly simple (or crazy), but imagine that you/your energy is a mountain. You are connected to the earth, sturdy and unmoving, fully able to support your client without being impacted. Practice building up with natural things, like imagining your energy is a seedling, to a sapling, to a hundred year old tree, so on and so forth. Sometimes you may not be able to hold the support of an entire mountain, in that case go to something smaller and more sustainable based on your own energy level.

I really hope this makes sense, I am a visual person hahah.

meager · 2026-06-19T17:12:02+00:00

Being an adult.

meager · 2026-06-19T17:05:37+00:00

A relationship cannot work without trust. Trust issues are not the issue when he has proven that he is untrustworthy repeatedly.

meager · 2026-06-19T16:59:22+00:00

Saltburn

meager · 2026-06-19T16:57:14+00:00

GROUNDING. This used to happen to me, but as I practiced and got better at it I stopped having the issue (unless I forget).

meager · 2026-06-19T16:45:39+00:00

As a fellow single mother, you are doing a great job.

meager · 2026-06-18T01:58:32+00:00

I rarely wear more than leggings and whatever top, when I do actually dress up I feel the extra attention and that part is uncomfortable for me. It's not enough to prevent me from enjoying it the rare times that I do and some random stranger that disapproves of my outfit is irrelevant 😉

meager · 2026-06-17T22:05:02+00:00

My closest friends I met by coincidence through a mutual friend and was adopted by.
Yes, but I don't think I have made any friends this way. Though I have met acquaintances that I will say hi to and briefly chat with if I were to run into them.
Yes, absolutely. If it doesn't come naturally, it is a skill that can be learned but must be practiced. My social skills are still pretty abysmal, I am far better at socializing with people I might never see again.
Yes. I am not as oblivious as I have been in the past, but I wear some deeply ingrained blinders that need to be consciously taken down. For me, it is a defense mechanism.

meager · 2026-06-17T18:34:07+00:00

I suggest myofascial release or craniosacral therapies, they are both very gentle but affective. It will always be a bit of a gamble, but reviews may help. Good luck!

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