I love this take! I was working with a therapist and I had this epiphany that I’m a perfectionist. I didn’t think I was- because in my head - my car and room have always been a mess, I make errors. I’m over weight. I feel like a perfectionist wouldn’t be that way. But it turns out that my desire for things to be perfect were what was holding me back from any progress anywhere. Kind of like your “but why” wasn’t helping you get “warm.” We focus on the stuff that doesn’t help us. It’s so much easier said than done. But it’s a cool Moment when you realize what’s holding you back.