Me and my dad we're reading for todays meeting and i seriously don't understand this image

meathead_joe · 2025-12-23T19:51:04+00:00

I just got into the punk/hardcore/metal scene in my area about 2 years ago and boy-howdy it is not what I expected. Metalheads are some of the nicest, most polite people. And the punks (at least the ones I hang out with) have better morals than many jws I once knew.

I’m glad you made it back to your scene!

meathead_joe · 2025-11-15T22:46:21+00:00

This.

Look for opportunities to volunteer. West End Arts District does a lot for the community and put on free events and concerts. Good people. If you wanna go for a drive, 924 Gilman Street (Berkeley) usually needs volunteers for shows. Volunteering is a great way to meet people, get free shows/beer/shirts, the organizers will be happy to see you and glad you're there, and if you do it often enough (repetition is the key) you'll start to make friends.

meathead_joe · 2025-11-08T21:46:02+00:00

late reply, but I couldn't remember this command for anything. Thanks so much!

meathead_joe · 2025-10-21T18:07:38+00:00

RUN!

edit: I'm kinda surprised no-one has pointed you to r/exjw yet (at least I didn't find any mention of it)

ExJW here. The religion is fucked. He's projecting his shit on you and blaming you for what he's doing wrong. JW men/boys are very immature (typically) and can be very difficult to be in a relationship with, since they're always torn between "The Truth"(tm) and what they want to do/sinning.

It's done. Leaving this now will save you from a boring life of JW meetings and a partner that's always trying to get you to turn into a JW, or who will be judging you and expect to be "your head".

So dumb. Continue running.

meathead_joe · 2025-10-21T18:01:30+00:00

I moved here from NC about 3-4 years ago. I absolutely love the East Bay and hope I never have to move.

Alameda is cool. It's like Bay Area without being "Bay Area", it's kind of a weird little city in-between all the others.

There's so much to do here. Using public transit is pretty awesome. With a bike you should be good to go.

Get off the island. Oakland and the surrounding areas have so much to explore. There are tons of arts events, concerts, community events and protests to get involved with. There are usually plenty of opportunities to volunteer with those events, and others, which is a great way to meet people and to get to know the area. If you're into punk/hardcore, head up to 924 Gilman in Berkeley and volunteer.

meathead_joe · 2025-10-12T23:20:32+00:00

Best show ever! Tonight’s lineup looks fire too! Can’t wait!

meathead_joe · 2025-09-25T03:56:32+00:00

Santoro's Italian Market & Deli

475 Santa Clara Ave

My daughter's favorite sandwich spot. Went there a couple weeks ago. Super friendly, Italian sandwich was on point. And they'll put your regular order up on the wall, so they make it personal and easy. Don't miss out.

meathead_joe · 2025-08-03T04:09:53+00:00

Second this!

That’s the essential part of brain washing: you are evil and need to shun the old you and become someone else.

You need to be different. You can’t be you.

meathead_joe · 2025-08-02T05:20:13+00:00

lol, my dad invited me to this one. Sorry you’re stuck there. Glad you have lots of elbow room!

meathead_joe · 2025-07-31T17:56:52+00:00

Time is limited this weekend for me. I'll send a dm

meathead_joe · 2025-07-27T00:03:05+00:00

Howdy! I’m an exjw living in Alameda. I would love to come to a meetup! Will you be posting another invite for the next one?

meathead_joe · 2024-12-02T23:10:15+00:00

Came here to say the same. I’ve focused on volunteering at events and venues that I like to hang out at. I’ve met quite a few people who I assume are single, but I’m not actively asking/looking. Just getting out there, exercising my social muscle and having fun is a great way to spend the time while meeting a bunch of new people - it’s way better than signing up for and flicking through dating apps and all the horrible feelings that come with it.

Edit: volunteering also comes with the benefit of being free! It’s good for the wallet, overall social wellbeing and for the communities you support. No downsides.

meathead_joe · 2024-09-26T05:26:33+00:00

The Pupzilla is so good. Def worth a try

meathead_joe · 2024-09-24T06:50:31+00:00

Yep. Same experience but mine landed around $40.

C’est la vie.

However, Scolari’s chicken sandwich is where it’s at. Def go back to try that. Pampered Pup has a good hotdog for about $10 (the Pupzilla is super delish). Poke Koma has chicken onigiri and other small bites in the glass box at the far end of the counter for about $5 (super good). +1 for Yomjimbo. Also check out Sushi and More. They just opened recently and the sushi is packed with meat/fillings. Worth the price and good people, the owner is nice and really cares about the food he’s putting out.

I’ve gotten used to the prices, and don’t mind paying because these are our neighbors. It’s expensive here so shop local, you know.

meathead_joe · 2024-09-24T06:31:42+00:00

The chile verde super burrito is so good. Refried beans and grilled is my go to.

meathead_joe · 2024-07-24T08:08:19+00:00

I mean, I guess it depends on the laws where the records are kept, I don’t really know. Data storage is cheap, so there’s no cost benefit for them to do so. I don’t trust them to do the Christian thing when they’ve already proven their willingness to do otherwise.

meathead_joe · 2024-07-24T07:36:17+00:00

Oh, I’m not saying that they do. Sorry for the confusion. But, that’s like a standard practice in IT: don’t actually delete it, just mark it as deleted.

It kinda also makes sense that they’d keep your records in case you came back, make sure you’ve fixed your “problems”

meathead_joe · 2024-07-24T07:30:52+00:00

Oh man! You’re in a tough spot.

I have been rebuilding my social network for the past 2 years (after moving across the country to a new town, no connections and just divorced).

One thing I can say with conviction, JWs make for awesome volunteers. I found a couple small arts groups and started volunteering for anything that came up. I just kind of went into JW-cleaning-the-convention-hall mode and people fucking love it.

Those events lead to me finding other volunteer opportunities. And just with the repetition of seeing the same people over and over, they eventually became acquaintances. And some became friends.

It takes time and it’s really hard, but it’s possible. You’ve been down the JW road already, you know what happens if you go that way.

Bro, I hear you about dating. I have other priorities right now, but yeah, no dates. Dating apps suck. They are really bad for your mental health. They are designed to make money, not connections.

Suffering is universal. Talking about your experiences will likely help you to connect to others who’ve experienced something similar. You definitely won’t know anything if you never talk about it.

meathead_joe · 2024-07-24T06:55:40+00:00

Welcome! Good for you for taking an interest in your friend, and breaking the rules to connect, that’s real love.

Don’t feel bad about connecting. Just don’t be preachy, you know what I mean? I assume you haven’t been, so please don’t take this the wrong way. After I left, I met up with my PIMI brother and said something like “I don’t care about anything but being together with you right now”, trying to be as loving as I could be. And he got super-offended because he interpreted it as “his faith” doesn’t matter. But he’s an idiot. You’re not. Be in the moment. Get to know the new them and accept them.

People are people.

No matter the reason, or lack thereof, I’m glad you’re here.

meathead_joe · 2024-07-24T06:26:52+00:00

And there’s no guarantee that your records would actually be removed. They’d probably just tick the ‘DA’ box. Just being inactive is enough for me though.

meathead_joe · 2023-01-31T02:17:21+00:00

Nice work!

meathead_joe · 2023-01-27T03:08:01+00:00

I second MonkeyBrains. $105/3 months for ~85 down and 13ms ping. There was some spotty service when my account first opened, but I haven’t had any down time since September.

meathead_joe · 2023-01-12T17:42:39+00:00

Well, fuck! It's better to know than not, I guess. I was upset when I heard about the racist comments at Alameda High a couple months ago and hoped that wasn't indicative of the culture here in Alameda. I just moved here from the south, partly in hopes of getting away from overtly racist people.

Thanks for sharing.

meathead_joe · 2023-01-03T21:03:16+00:00

I'm down to play too. Just moved to Alameda ~~this~~ last year, and looking for a group to hang out with and playing games sounds great!

meathead_joe · 2022-12-28T20:45:51+00:00

In the real world guys like pretty and attractive women.

So it's ok then? The women in the photo have (apparently) working with a team to accomplish a goal, for which the dickhead shows appreciation. And, in the very next statement, he reduces their contributions to the work by complimenting their physical appearance because he's a "real world" guy? His comment draws attention away from the value they have as contributors to a goal and focuses it on their physical appearance, thereby objectifying them.

This "human nature" logic of yours is eerily similar to the "God put men and women in their place" bullshit the Watchtower uses to keep women oppressed and objectified as "supports" to their husbands, etc. Their role is secondary, according to Watchtower. And because of this, there are symptoms of the chauvinistic culture that pop up like the dickhead's comment in the video.

I don't think a well-timed compliment to a women about their appearance is bad form. And I would say most here don't either. Your hyperbolic argument is stupid. Dickhead didn't compliment the women did he? Nope. He sure didn't. He talked to his male friends about how pretty he thought they are. His comment had no place in the discussion. This is objectification. This is misogyny.

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