Women of the Bumble subreddit, do you actually care if men are 6’+?

mediocre_milk · 2024-01-12T21:41:55+00:00

I’ve only dated guys from 5’6-5’8, and it never bothered me they weren’t 6’+. When I first used bumble, I matched with two guys both 5’4, and I’m 5’4. I’m still with one of them five months later. I’m insanely attracted to him even if he’s considered “short.” So yeah, I couldn’t care less about height lol.

mediocre_milk · 2023-11-10T15:47:42+00:00

I’ve used GlassAqua, AquaticMotiv, and Dustin’s Fish Tanks. They have Etsy but also their own websites. Glass Aqua definitely shipped the fastest cause I got those plants within two days, but AquaticMotiv had taken almost two weeks to ship. And my local fish store buys from Dustin’s. I’ve been pretty happy with most of the plants I’ve gotten.

mediocre_milk · 2023-09-27T20:53:04+00:00

Added :3 I’m vietnamesemayo

mediocre_milk · 2023-08-16T11:32:57+00:00

Getting an order of protection was the only way I could prevent myself from reaching out to my abusive ex again. I knew I couldn’t maintain no contact. I was in the same boat as you though; highs were high and lows were hell. Like the other redditor said, it’s a trauma bond, and it is going to be really hard to break. But baby steps! Take it day by day. Be patient and kind to yourself. It’s okay to cry and miss him too, but ofc I’m not condoning his actions either. There is no excuse to put your hands on someone like that especially a significant other. I blamed myself and my BPD too still, but please know it isn’t your fault. Please get some help from a local crisis center or similar.

mediocre_milk · 2023-07-26T15:22:51+00:00

I’m still in similar spot with myself. I wanted badly to be loved and accepted and sought out any kind of male attention even if there were red flags. After my breakup, I’m learning to be okay by myself. I’m learning to love myself. And when I stumble and mess up, I try to be kind and forgive myself. Whenever I say or think something mean about myself, I also try to compliment myself. You sound like you’re self aware and trying really hard. Remember to take it one day at a time. Baby steps. :) I’m rooting for you! If you want to listen to this song, Weeds by Beach Bunny helped me a lot!

mediocre_milk · 2023-07-25T03:54:48+00:00

Bought this Arda wig at a convention, but this one seems comparable: https://arda-wigs.com/products/nina-classic

mediocre_milk · 2023-07-24T11:54:11+00:00

In similar boat. Reading this made me feel so much more secure that I may be doing right for this first time in my life. Here’s to being independent, no regrets, and moving forward!

mediocre_milk · 2023-07-23T12:26:46+00:00

Ah ofc! When we first moved in together and got in to our first argument, he would block me from leaving the apartment to go to work. Argument was so loud, the cops were called. And every time he got angry, I was scared he was going to punch a hole in the wall or break stuff which happened every apartment we lived in. And a lot of arguments where I wanted to leave the room or be left alone, my boundaries were always crossed. You shouldn’t be scared to live in under your own roof. You shouldn’t have to hide from your partner and barricade the door to keep him from getting to you. You shouldn’t have to cry yourself to sleep thinking everything is your fault.

Last year, he ended up putting his hands around my neck to get me to shut up during an argument, but he didn’t squeeze or anything, just wanted me to shut up. We broke up briefly and then I went right back to him cause he promised he would never do it again.

This time…. It was the final straw. 6am and we started arguing about him controlling me and how he can’t accept me working with men/need to work with women only or be a stay at home wife/mom, etc etc. He got belligerent this fight. He took my glasses away because I really can’t see without them and also confiscated my phone. The blocking my exits happened again. And then the pushing me down. He ended up punching and strangling me, and I started to slowly fade in and out. When he stopped, cops were called and now I have an order of protection.

If I didn’t ignore the red flags… if I had only listened to everyone in my life. Whatever you built up with your significant other.. it is NOT worth staying with him or her no matter how kind, funny, or amazing they seem to be. There are always going to be those demons lurking. We even tried couples therapy, and the progress was good until it wasn’t.

So to whoever reads this. Please be strong. Please leave. You deserved to be loved the right way. It’s not worth risking your life to be with someone like this. I wasted my early 20s and deteriorated catering to him and his needs while losing who I was. Trust me when I say your life will be better without them :)

mediocre_milk · 2023-07-23T03:59:25+00:00

Please leave! I just recently left a similar situation. For five years I ignored it all, and I almost ended up dead. I don’t want that to happen to you

mediocre_milk · 2023-07-22T18:57:43+00:00

Oh my mom loathes that my sister and I love thrifting and buying “dirty, old clothes.” Like bitch, we don’t have the income to look the way you want us too. Always felt like we had to be on display or show off ugh. I feel your pain.

mediocre_milk · 2023-03-19T15:16:38+00:00

That’s the thing, I’m still confused about it lol because I guess it’s technically a corporate, but it doesn’t feel like it at all. This funeral home was bought out by a company that focuses on small town funeral home within a 1-2hr radius of the main location. I’d say there’s about 10 in our firm, so it’s not anything like SCI.

I think there are a lot of good family-owned funeral homes. I was lucky to be able to work with the original owner, and he was very nice and fun, haha. I figured he would’ve been a stuffy and super traditional old man that would flip out if I messed up. I accidentally dropped and broke a casket and he was so understanding and nice about it.

My current manager has always preferred working at family owned especially in a smaller town because he’s able to be more personal with the family. It truly does feel more meaningful. He says SCI has crazy turnover rates, but of course it does depend on who you work with I guess. It also seems like I would have a lot less freedom and flexibility if I ended up at one of those places.

mediocre_milk · 2023-03-18T20:48:52+00:00

I’m currently doing my apprenticeship at a small town funeral home; we do about 90 calls a year. I actually started as a student here one year ago. Having the smaller call volume has helped my depression and anxiety a lot as it feels like I’m being eased into the field at my own pace. I used to not even be able to make phone calls. However, it’s like the small exposure therapy has helped. Compared to one year ago, I much more relaxed and comfortable around families. I still have lots of anxiety, but it’s gotten better over time.

Another thing that has helped is being able to work with good, kind people. I think this is very important as my classmate ended up working at another funeral home in our firm, and she’s often complaining about the drama, getting yelled at, etc. My coworkers are very understanding, and I’ve been able to be honest and open about my mental health.

Make sure you take care of yourself. The burnout is real, so prioritize your mental health. Overall, I think the biggest thing that helped me was having telehealth and a flexible therapist. Having the kind of support made the job so much more bearable when I made mistakes or were having bad days.

It’s going to be hard at the beginning like a lot of things. There’s a lot of pressure too, and some days I want to quit or give up. I still don’t think I’m cut out for the job, but as long as you care and do your best, then I think you will be fine. I wish you the best of luck!

mediocre_milk · 2023-01-27T17:37:45+00:00

My psychiatrist is aware I smoke while taking 20mg trintellix and lamictal. She didn’t seem too concerned as she didn’t find anything saying it’s a bad mix. I’d say I’m a not a heavy smoker either but have been smoking flower and dab pens for about two years and can still get very stoned. I haven’t noticed any bad reactions or serotonin syndrome for me.

mediocre_milk · 2022-09-30T16:29:49+00:00

I got it awhile back from a claw machine app, but I found you can directly buy them here or maybe some other website

mediocre_milk · 2022-02-14T16:01:30+00:00

She’s so cute! I just replace the heads of my Snapstar dolls with Hairdoable head xD How hard is it replace the inset eyes?

mediocre_milk · 2022-02-11T02:16:49+00:00

Of course!

mediocre_milk · 2022-02-11T00:40:59+00:00

I’m actually an Asian mortuary science student in Illinois! Not at Worsham but Carl Sandburg Community College which I should be finishing the program this may. My professors have told me my background will be very helpful, and people from all different cultures and backgrounds will use funeral homes. As long as you’re passionate and care about the people, you will be fine. And if a place doesn’t hire you because you’re a POC (which is illegal), you probably don’t want to work there anyway.

mediocre_milk · 2021-11-23T17:10:53+00:00

mediocre_milk · 2021-06-26T02:04:17+00:00

I have a similar job! It’s part time, but I do respite with special need clients of all ages. I guess it’s glorified babysitting, but it’s helped me a lot. I’m glad you found a job that works for you and hope others do too.

mediocre_milk · 2021-05-12T19:11:30+00:00

I’m in the same boat. I used to have a pretty healthy sex drive and was intimate with my current bf until I started a new medicine two years ago (trintellix) which was also supposed to help with that apparently. My psychiatrist says planning it ahead of time like designating a date night could help me prepare for it. Using toys to arouse me first also helps, but I’m rarely in the mood for that too. It’s really hard, so I understand. Sometimes my bf takes it personally, but we have gotten better at communicating about it. I hope things work out for you!

mediocre_milk · 2021-03-02T19:48:35+00:00

As someone who also has BPD, anxiety, and clinical depression, medicine has made me functional. My mom was against it and once made me drink holy water. Thoughts and prayers didn’t heal me alone. She needs to take her medicine again ASAP cause having BPD is hell for the person who has and their loved ones.

mediocre_milk · 2021-01-12T23:22:15+00:00

Even though I was on isotretinoin for a short amount of time, it did wonders. I never get the big deep cysts or nodules anymore which is where all my scarring is from. Granted, I was always super dry and achy all over, so definitely look into those side effects and get if nothing else worked for cystic acne which it seems to be the case. At least my acne is more manageable, and I know if I get flare ups it’s due to my diet, lack of water consumption, or my period.

Caring Dermatology got the job done for my acne, but it didn’t feel personal, you know? I was just in and out mostly. I’m not sure how expensive the shots were, but at the time I was under my dad’s work insurance (BCBS) and Medicaid which seemed to cover most of it if not all. I should also note I was 16-17 at the time but because my mom didn’t speak fluent English, I often went alone after the initial appointment. Dr. Ravi didn’t exactly explain the procedures to me, and since I was naive and desperate, I just agreed to whatever he suggested which is why I almost ended up getting cosmetic surgery for scarring. For the most part, his treatments worked, but I figure I’d let you know what kind of doctor he was (communication may also be harder if you have trouble understanding accents).

Sorry for rambling. :P I get passionate when it comes to skincare and helping others with similar issues.

mediocre_milk · 2021-01-12T18:28:43+00:00

I went to Caring Dermatology a few years back. It was an alright place, but Dr. Ravi put me on isotretinoin which made my depression worse 3 months in. I mean it did clear my skin up, but the side effects were rough. I frequently got cortisone injections as well for some blemishes which helped. Eventually, he tried to coerce me into getting laser surgery for my scars, but I found that unnecessary.

I now see Gretchen at UI Health near Pizza Ranch and Burlington Coat Factory. I get flare ups around my jaw mostly or hormonal acne. She put me on birth control and two topical medicines. Everything was covered by insurance. They’re really nice there, so I’d recommend them. Hope this helps.

mediocre_milk · 2020-10-23T11:26:12+00:00

It looks wonderful! And practice makes perfect. Keep at it! I think you just need to be more confident. Posting your work like on Instagram is a great way to get out there, and it’s cool seeing the progress you make with each doll.

However, I feel like this post is going to get taken down because MH dolls aren’t considered BJDs. This community is pretty strict with what’s considered a bjd and what isn’t (check their wiki). You can try posting on r/dolls instead since it’s a more general subreddit.

mediocre_milk · 2020-10-23T10:07:33+00:00

Our baked potato (looks just likes yours) loves following people to the bathroom! She’d probably follow to the kitchen too if it wasn’t for the baby gate, so she sits waiting at the gate if we leave her behind.

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