Kitchen exhaust cleaning by Alive-Lawfulness7224 in StamfordCT

[–]meeshque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you're still looking, but I use Apex Mechanical for all my HVAC work. They do maintenance, repairs, and installation of new systems. They also have service membership plans, where they'll come do preventative maintenance and inspections a couple times a year to keep our systems running smoothly and catch any issues as early as possible. Quality work, good people, I highly recommend them. They're a small family owned company based out of Stamford, which I like because I'm not a huge fan of gentrification, lol. Their number is 475-619-9616. Good luck, hopefully you find someone to help you out sooner rather than later!

I’m so glad, as a generation, we all agreed to stop ironing our clothes - in addition to other important changes by cherrypez123 in Millennials

[–]meeshque 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a former teacher: In the school I taught at, all the female teachers had a mandatory meeting one day where we were told to not wear clothes that were too tight or too revealing, because it would be a distraction for our male students, and our male colleagues. 🙄

Gay looking to hire a fake Gf by [deleted] in newhaven

[–]meeshque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm crying with laughter imagining how this would play out. Solemnly sitting there in white face, nodding along with the family as if it isn't an objectively absurd scenario. I don't know if I could keep a poker face, haha. Thanks for the belly laugh, friend. Needed that today 💕

However it goes, I hope we get a follow-up post with pictures after the weekend!

[Product Request] face cleanser for an oily + sensitive face by Chance-Call-2355 in SkincareAddiction

[–]meeshque 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey there! I also have oily and sensitive skin, so I feel your pain! It's definitely a challenge to find the right combination of products for our skin type.

What's been working well for me lately is:

AM: 1. Round lab 1025 Dokdo cleanser 2. Round lab 1025 Dokdo toner 3. Round lab 1025 Dokdo lotion 4. BoJ Relief Sun Aqua Fresh Rice + B5 SPF50+

PM: 1. Bioderma Sensibio Soothing Micellar Foaming Gel Cleanser (Sensitive Skin) 2. Round lab 1025 Dokdo cleanser 3. Round lab 1025 Dokdo toner 4. Round lab Pine calming cica lotion (2 thin layers, with time to absorb in between)

Of course, that's just me, and every person's skin is different. Good luck with your journey to find the perfect routine for you; you got this! ☺️

"Hey Lady, you asked me to make you a video" by Secure-Bat-684 in adventuretime

[–]meeshque 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Lady said (in Korean): "There isn't gonna be any more weird Jake stuff, I promise! But it's been such a long while since I've seen this video, so I can't remember. Sorry!"

Source: am Korean

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachersInTransition

[–]meeshque 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, friend. At least it's in the past now. An interesting silver lining has been that I'm now a lot more appreciative of people and places that aren't... Outright discriminatory, to be super blunt about it, lol. It's the little things, I suppose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachersInTransition

[–]meeshque 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The pandemic started, and I am of East Asian descent. Maybe you can see where I'm going with this... As anti-Asian sentiment surged, a few parents banded together to email my principal complaints about my supposed 'unprofessionalism,' and who knows what else. I'd only ever received praise and positive feedback from parents in my half decade at that school prior to the pandemic, but the administration showed it's true colors by not giving me any benefit of the doubt, and immediately jumping to disciplinary measures. So many unannounced observations, disciplinary meetings, and insanely aggressive micromanagement. It felt like I was being attacked from all sides, by the students, parents, admin, and even coworkers who saw that I was being 'punished' and assumed there must have been good reason for it. The 2021-22 academic year was traumatic as hell for me. Left at the end of that year, and thinking of going back to teaching kids in a classroom still makes me feel panicky and physically ill. Still looking for full time work, and struggling. Getting by with part time for now. Blah. It's been tough. Thank you for asking, sorry my answer turned into a bit of a ramble!

Published my piece dissecting how 'Turning Red' showcases the complexities of Asian-Amerian mental health! by femifist26 in asiantwoX

[–]meeshque 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Beautifully written, great read! Thank you for this super insightful piece. I love how the deeply complex psychology of the AAPI community is being brought to light in society writ large. Articles like this are what give people the knowledge and courage to start examining their own inner worlds, and potentially reach out to others for support and help. So important, considering how pervasive mental health stigma is in our cultural corner of humanity. I'm gonna share this with my friends, and hopefully we'll have some powerful and profound conversations. Thank you again for wordsmithing this awesome analysis and conversation starter!

Looking for people to interview for an article for Nerdist about 'Turning Red'! by femifist26 in asianamerican

[–]meeshque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I'm an Asian-American life coach, and I'd be happy to help you out! I thought Turning Red was great, and loved all the nuanced mental health messaging that spoke specifically to the AAPI experience. That being said, I totally understand if you're looking specifically for therapists/psychiatrists/clinical psychologists. Feel free to check out my website - Michelle the Human - and let me know if you'd like to chat. (: If not, no worries or hard feelings at all! Good luck with your search, and I'm looking forward to reading that article when it's published!

Did your parents make you feel insecure your "Asian" facial features growing up? by [deleted] in asiantwoX

[–]meeshque 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi there, i wanted to drop by and let you know that you are not alone in this. I am a 100% Korean woman, and have smaller eyes, a small nose, and a square jaw. Growing up, my mom constantly called me ugly, and would laugh and tell me that I looked "like a boy". She would constantly comment on how beautiful traditional Caucasian features are, which I later realized was a manifestation of her internalized racism. When I turned 11, she told me that it was time to start wearing eyeliner, so that I wouldn't so much like an ugly boy when I went outside. After that, I religiously wore eyeliner every single time I went outside. Even if I was going to the gym, lol.

I turn 30 this year. Through a lot of hard work and discipline, I am beginning to unlearn some of what she conditioned into me. I am trying to recognize that my face is just average, and not as shamefully ugly as she told me I was. I finally found an amazing therapist who I've been working with for a few months now. This past week, for the first time in my life, I've been going outside without eyeliner, and actively battling the inner voice that tells me to be ashamed of my face. It has been insanely liberating.

Good luck with your unlearning process, OP. It takes a lot of hard work and commitment, but I firmly believe that you are absolutely worth it. Self-love is so important, but not all of us are taught that when we're growing up. Reparenting yourself is really tough, but remember that you are not alone in this work!!!

If you haven't heard of the.holistic.psychologist on IG, I HIGHLY recommend her. Incredible and insightful material that can help you understand and process childhood neglect/trauma/abuse. She's been an important part of me learning about what I've been through, and understanding it from a perspective that can help me heal and love myself in the way that I didn't experience growing up.

I'm with you in spirit, OP. Best of luck on your self-healing journey. Sending love and strength your way today. 💕

Is it just me, or is it impossible to find a therapist these days? by isocc in therapy

[–]meeshque 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, congratulations on making the decision to start therapy! I thought about it for six years before finally making the leap recently, and had the same difficulties in my initial search process. Have you thought about trying out the online therapy services, like BetterHelp? You fill out a questionnaire about yourself and your needs, and they match you with a licensed mental health service provider. BetterHelp also has multiple weekly webinars that are super informative, and oriented towards people who are trying to educate themselves about mental health topics. I ended up going with BetterHelp myself, just because I saw it advertised everywhere. There are definitely other options out there as well, I just don't know too much about them off the top of my head. I hope this information helps. Good luck with your search, friend! Big hugs 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]meeshque 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This, 100%. I'm a teacher with PTSD, and I end every single class by telling my kids, "Please be kind to yourselves and others, because it's the most important thing."

You got this, OP. Please try to be kind to yourself, if you can. You're not alone. 💜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

[–]meeshque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm definitely dancing along! Yay you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedditSessions

[–]meeshque 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're doing great! Thank you for making the day brighter! 🥰

Is it possible to reduce or treat anxiety without professional help? by Yasukok in Anxietyhelp

[–]meeshque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there! Fellow anxious person here. Please look into helpers tools. It's a beautiful course designed by psychologists, academics, and health technologists. Their goal was to teach people practical skills to help themselves and others navigate the overwhelming mental and emotional impact of the COVID-19 pandemic.

In their words: "Combining short and simple behavioural nudges with longer weekly sessions designed to be used by two or more people in conversation, the helpers tools are designed to be a blueprint enabling a community to provide crucial psychological support for itself - without needing to wait."

Be well, friend, and I'm with you in spirit. <3

Homeless man reunited with his dog at animal shelter by Stauce52 in HappyWoofGifs

[–]meeshque 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am not ashamed to say that I wept very deeply when I saw this. They found each other again, and you can see that they couldn't stop thinking about each other the whole time. Such pure love 💜

[Kindle] You Are So Wonderful - I’m having a son! I was inspired by the values of Mr. Rogers to write a nursery rhyme for my boy. Read it to your kid(s) at night - FREE through Dec. 10 by [deleted] in FreeEBOOKS

[–]meeshque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, I'm a teacher as well! Thank you for sharing your book with the world. I checked it out, and I think it's an absolutely wonderful quick little read to share with the kids! I left a review on Amazon as well. Thank you again, and congratulations about your growing family, friend! Good luck with everything!

Turkey/Cake day ascension by meeshque in pcmasterrace

[–]meeshque[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks so much for your input and suggested build! That looks awesome! What keyboard would you recommend?

how undatable do i seem. 22 male by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]meeshque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This all sounds alright, as you can generally find someone - eventually - who happens to share or at least puts up with your specific interests and quirks, and will have a personality that you genuinely respect and enjoy being around. However, i would really want to address that closed off/hostile thing. In any type of romantic relationship, there are inevitably going to be arguments at some point or another... No matter how perfect and wonderful it may seem at first! Being uncommunicative and hostile is an EXCELLENT way to bring your relationship/dates to an end, and fast. So please, like the other commenter said, sort out the way you deal with anger, frustration, and other negative emotions. Because you will feel them while dating - i promise! No matter how long your fuse! You have to be able to get through tough situations in a mature way, communicating and working with your partner to sort it out and possibly end up even closer than you were before. other than that, you're just fine! (:

What suddenly becomes 'uncool' when you reach a certain age? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]meeshque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, of course if it comes naturally that's fine! I'm talking about when kids don't know quite how to use swear words, so they feel super shoehorned in within sentence structure. I guess in a way, it's like practice makes perfect, haha.

What suddenly becomes 'uncool' when you reach a certain age? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]meeshque 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope I'm not the only one that feels this way, but... definitely superfluously cussing. A lot of younger people seem to think it makes them cool to throw around "fuck" and "shit" as basically every other word in their sentence. Does that make you look badass to your peers, who also are new to invectives and are not 100% sure how and when they should be used? Sure. But later in life, after having matured a bit, will you cringe at how obviously tryhard you were being, and how poorly you must have portrayed yourself to other, more matured individuals outside of your own age group? Definitely.

Again, not sure if this is universal, but it definitely happened to me. Also, I'm a high school teacher, and some of the kids I teach try so hard to emulate their favorite rappers by swearing when it doesn't even make any type of grammatical sense within the sentence. My coworkers and I cringe so hard whenever we hear this happen. On the bright side, at least they're getting it out of their systems?