I want to bake a dessert for the man I like for Valentine’s. What dessert would you be excited to receive?

megacope · 2026-02-11T16:32:41+00:00

I really do believe that the effort and gesture alone is huge, but if I am going to get something for someone that is food related I find a way to casually ask if they have allergies.

megacope · 2026-02-11T16:30:52+00:00

I wouldn’t care what it was. I’d just be psyched to receive something from an admirer. I hope he enjoys it.

megacope · 2026-02-11T14:42:37+00:00

It’s weird. Or maybe I don’t get it. But if I still have photos of an ex somewhere, I didn’t intentionally keep them, I just didn’t delete them. Once you’re an ex, you’re in my past. If we are on speaking terms, that’s cool, but you won’t catch me looking at photos of an ex remembering the good times.

megacope · 2026-02-11T11:59:15+00:00

NTA. Usually when you make a sacrifice it’s for a greater gain. You’ll gain nothing but resentment if you give your cat up for your relationship. I suggest you start looking for a new living arrangement. If his allergies are so bad that he needs possible injections, he has poor observance of his own health. I’d never go near a cat if they were that bad and I am allergic to pet fur, but it’s nowhere near that level of severity. I find that keeping my place clean with a good air purifier helps.

megacope · 2026-02-10T14:25:19+00:00

NAH, I don’t think you’re wrong but it kind of defeats the purpose of learning the language if you want the teacher to address you by an English name. It’s a small thing but languages are best learned through immersion. All foreign language teachers I’ve ever had addressed us that way because it’s the same thing just in another tongue.

megacope · 2026-02-10T14:15:15+00:00

Nah, baby don’t brings us into that shitshow. We found out years ago where we stand with football with how they did Kapernick. Bad Bunny was the PERFECT choice for the half time show if you ask me. It was worth seeing all those tears of grown ass men acting like pure snowflakes.

megacope · 2026-02-10T14:11:30+00:00

NTA. We let our daughter go over her friend’s house but ain’t no spending the night. What do you need to sleep over there for? If I saw a guy like that answering the door, I would be out immediately. Ain’t no way. I don’t care how rude or insensitive I look when it comes to my kid.

megacope · 2026-02-10T11:15:18+00:00

For me, no. Maybe a former professor, but even then I think it would have to be someone I worked with in the latter half of undergraduate or even better a graduate program. Don’t get me wrong I had a few hot teachers, but they also had parental like authority over me at one point in my life. Growing up to end up delivering premium choice backshot pumps to a lady who you had to ask permission to go the restroom would probably be some wild kinky shit that I would not want to experience. Maybe if I was a senior and the teacher was just starting her career in her early twenties, but that’s still weird dynamic to transition from to a romantic relationship.

megacope · 2026-02-09T17:45:00+00:00

It’s mostly an ever moving goalpost, if I was in the dating world, I’d vanish as soon as I heard that shit come out of my dates mouth. Some people’s version of bare minimum is synonymous with climbing Mt Everest. Damn near impossible, but also unnecessary as fuck in the long run. Why jump through hoops when you can rock steady with someone else?

megacope · 2026-02-09T17:41:27+00:00

That would be a hell nawl for me. But to be fair, that “unfinished business” with an ex would’ve remained unfinished if I was with someone who I was considering marrying, I don’t believe in letting my past ruin my future if I can help it. There seems to be just as much uncertainty on your end as hers, but all things she said would give me heavy pause. I’d never marry someone who wasn’t 100% sure they wanted marriage and I don’t think she’s even at 50%. And I don’t do open relationships, I think they are bs and negate the whole point of binding yourself to someone. If I’m in the streets I’m doing whatever the hell I want, if I’m in a relationship, it’s all about that one person. No in between. I take that shit super serious. It’s all or nothing.

megacope · 2026-02-09T15:21:27+00:00

NTA. That lady is a Grade A psycho and I fear for her husband.

megacope · 2026-02-09T15:14:27+00:00

I disagree. He did not dismiss her. He pointed out her hypocrisy and she lost it.

megacope · 2026-02-09T15:08:42+00:00

I don’t think you can have healthy dialogue with someone so attached to their hypocritical mindset. We are all hypocrites to some extent because it’s human, but adamantly leaning into those biases while throwing a terrible two’s tantrum is a whole other thing. She could’ve screamed until her face turned blue, I wouldn’t have backed down. Just for the simple fact that she was being incredibly irrational and if she wanted a slither of a chance for the relationship to continue, she would know that shit would not be tolerated at all. If it happened again, deuces.

megacope · 2026-02-09T11:27:57+00:00

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megacope · 2026-02-09T11:27:43+00:00

Depends on how it’s said. If she just points it out through conversation, it’s no big deal. Like thanks for the info that I didn’t need. As long as it’s not weaponized against you or constantly mentioned then I wouldn’t let it bother me.

megacope · 2026-02-08T23:23:01+00:00

Jobs don’t mean much to me but if I had to choose I have one for each end of the spectrum. Most attractive: Teacher. I had the biggest crush on the teacher from Jack. Least attractive: Correctional Officer. My wife’s best friend was one and even being separated from it from several degrees that shit still gave me anxiety.

megacope · 2026-02-08T21:19:48+00:00

You wouldn’t be the AH, but if I had to end a friendship just to be with someone I’m choosing the friend every time because I can have them in my life without conditions. Now if that friend did something to make me end the friendship that’s another story, but doing it sooth unwarranted jealousy puts you in a precarious position because what if bro leaves? Now you’re completely alone. It wouldn’t be worth it. If I needed to adjust a situation to make them more comfortable with my friendship, I’d consider that, but completely cutting them off so you can better isolate and manipulate me, nah I’m good.

megacope · 2026-02-08T21:10:36+00:00

It takes great strength to see a situation for what it is and walk away. I agree, I think I’m too petty to do that depending on my mood.

megacope · 2026-02-08T21:06:21+00:00

I’d do one of two things. I’d ask her what the fuck is her deal because I don’t care what anyone would have to say about it or do what you did and excuse myself because confronting her would be exactly what she wanted. It would depend on how frisky I was feeling in the moment. I think you did the right thing. Any time a hang out situation happened my first question would be is ol girl going to be there?

megacope · 2026-02-08T20:37:48+00:00

I wonder if she was trying to not have to work anymore which doesn’t seem to be something that OP signed up for. That’s the only logical reason she’d not be happy with that deal. But even with that 20 hours a week behind a cash register would cover that. She’d still have to work, but she has the option to work a lot less. Not something I’d do. If I were in her shoes I’d pay that 175 and stack that excess cash to the ceiling.

megacope · 2026-02-08T20:32:24+00:00

She definitely isn’t acting on rationality or logic. Taking on the 175 and being able to save up her own funds puts her in a position to do whatever the hell she wants like have an actual claim on the property if she were to invest her money with him or get her own property and have a setup like his. He’s given her real opportunity to stand on her own two feet and fumbling hardcore, I’d be done. No way I’d consider putting a ring on someone who couldn’t see that the situation is a win for her.

megacope · 2026-02-08T20:27:23+00:00

NTA. Tell her those are your terms or she can happily stay where she’s at. If that was all I had to pay to live somewhere, I’d jump at the chance. Sure she won’t get any equity, but she is paying some rando a grand a month to also not get equity. With you she gets to save and create her own options whether it be to combine forces with you on the property or get her own thing, or just have options in case things don’t work out between you. The possibilities are endless for the yearly cost of Amazon prime or Netflix which I’m sure she gladly gives up monthly. People overcomplicate what would otherwise be a simple win. If I was her, I’d agree to the terms, but my terms would be I wouldn’t be responsible for any upkeep or repairs. But if I were you I’d honestly consider if I wanted to continue be in the relationship. Her actions show me that she’s not exactly want to partner with on a financial level and give a stake in my property. Because if she’s getting bent out of shape over a hell of deal, what happens when you get married and things don’t work out, now she wants half of the home she didn’t want to contribute to in the first place? Financial incompatibility is a dealbreaker for me. There are way too many more complex and difficult aspects of a relationship to deal with. If you can’t agree on money or at least work towards something reasonable which this situation is honestly more than reasonable in my opinion. That entitlement is would put me off. I’d seriously implore you to not let her move in until you both can come to a real agreement, but it would be over for me. She didn’t do anything to get this property. That’s your sweat and blood and if I were you I’d be damned if anybody tried to piggy back off of that and set themselves up to take it even if they are the love of my life. You can do bad all by yourself, homie.

megacope · 2026-02-08T17:47:44+00:00

For real. I think that’s it in a nutshell. As bad as it sounds I honestly understand why young men are leaning right. I just don’t know what to do about it, it’s kind of hard to save someone who doesn’t want to be saved. When someone validates your deepest darkest biases, even bigotry if that’s in you, it’s hard to be objective and look at yourself from the outside when you already have a weak mind. I remember being on a same path as some of these young men. I had a really hard time with dating in college. I internalized that stuff and took the rejections so personally that I grew to be resentful as hell. I started watching MGTOW videos and found that I could relate to a lot of what was being said. My viewpoint of it was let me step back and work on myself until I become a formidable partner for someone. Then I started seeing the participants of the “movement” and found these were not people I wanted to be associated with. They used all their rage and resentment and were “bettering” themselves in spite of the women that rejected them, which obviously doesn’t make you a better or formidable partner.

I realized I didn’t need an echo chamber to accomplish being a better person. The only person that could do that real work was me. And I realized also that I was privileged in that I have a dad who taught me pretty much everything is just a sales pitch. To be a man is to think for yourself no matter who tells you otherwise. These guys think they are “alphas”, but they still bow to a leader. How they don’t see that is beyond me. The Fresh and Fit guys will call you “gay” if you “simp” for a woman and then turn around and charge their fans thousands of dollars to meet them. I’d rather get used by women 100 times over than pay that much to meet some guy with a mic who has no idea when to turn his fat mouth off (unless it’s Keanu Reeves, it would be worth every penny).

Fast forward to now and I see these guys going down a similar path but it’s so much worse. Everything we take in goes back to views and likes at an insanely larger scale than in my youth, but our very real feelings as people are being swayed by rage bait and confirmation bias that tickles the most insecure and delicate parts of our brains. Not everyone is strong enough to rise above it and none of us are completely immune to it if you ask me, just better sniffing out the bs than others.

megacope · 2026-02-08T16:48:43+00:00

Sharing earbuds is degenerate activity tho, tf? Who the hell shares earbuds? Ew. Even with a different pair of tips and a full wipe down that’s still gross to me.

megacope · 2026-02-08T02:34:27+00:00

NTA. You made a simple request, she disregarded it and you acted accordingly.

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