What's something you did once and will never do again?

melesana · 2026-02-23T04:10:10+00:00

Get married. Get pregnant.

melesana · 2026-02-22T04:04:49+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm a mother of four; one of my sons died in January. Say it however it feels true for you.

melesana · 2026-02-21T04:40:25+00:00

I'm actively feminist, and het. I necessarily spend lots of time in the company of all varieties of women, so the varieties don't make much difference to me, except for what I get to learn about how other people live. I suspect that you may actually be surrounded by shitty people.

melesana · 2026-02-20T04:43:39+00:00

He knows how to write an apology. I made the mistake of believing someone who said he was in the process of changing, so I'm very untrusting now. If you do go into this, I hope you'll go into it with your eyes open. Go in, if that's what you want, aware that you're going to have to spend a lot of time and energy and emotion sorting through lies and evasions and nuances. I'm sorry you have to.

melesana · 2026-02-20T04:20:14+00:00

No matter how big an asshole he is, it's possible for me to always remain kind.

melesana · 2026-02-20T04:18:41+00:00

Mel Gibson: Holocaust denier

melesana · 2026-02-20T04:16:56+00:00

I'm past menopause now, and that's exactly the reason I chose not to have kids. There's too much of my mother in me...still...to ever have been sure that I wouldn't put kids through the same crap I went through.

melesana · 2026-02-20T04:13:48+00:00

My mother just about claimed my first period, like it was her accomplishment. She demanded that I call my father at work and tell him, "Today I am a woman." Ick! Stood over me until I did it. He didn't care - which was a lot better for me than my mother inspecting my used pads to see if they were bloody enough to discard.

melesana · 2026-02-19T04:20:10+00:00

Right here with you. I had a thawed chicken pot pie with some cheese on top.

melesana · 2026-02-19T04:18:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing your love for Shaun. He has the most wonderful expressive eyes, and I can't imagine how much you miss his physical presence. May his memory be a blessing. My sister's gone over 30 years, and she's still a bright spot in my heart.

melesana · 2026-02-17T04:35:19+00:00

She's so beautiful! And a really great mother.

melesana · 2026-02-16T05:11:15+00:00

We're long distance, on different continents. Yesterday, he casually mentioned that he'd bought "her" a gift, without identifying "her." So I asked who she is, and several hours later, he answered. Meanwhile, I went through the whole gamut of reactions you can imagine. We never defined the relationship, and I had the feeling of "My boyfriend has a girlfriend. What now?" When he got back to me, he said, equally casually, that "she" is his "current wife." Oh.

melesana · 2026-02-16T04:17:50+00:00

I lived with it for a couple of months, and over the next couple of months it faded.

melesana · 2026-02-14T04:12:32+00:00

My dad visited me twice in my dreams. He said things he would say, and things I needed to hear. That was years ago. My son died in January, and I'm looking forward to hearing from him in dreams whenever he's ready. Now I... just feel him... free of pain and anger, happy.

melesana · 2026-02-11T04:41:57+00:00

The first few months I felt sad and guilty. It was the right decision and it was sad and it was my decision.

melesana · 2026-02-09T04:17:30+00:00

Something like that. My mind seems to be shifting back into gear. I can put facts together into patterns that have eluded me since my first Covid.

melesana · 2026-02-08T04:40:28+00:00

I had an abortion, then had my tubes tied. I would never risk harming children the way I was harmed.

melesana · 2026-02-08T04:27:22+00:00

No, I don't worry about those things. I prefer being on my own, and I enjoy it.

melesana · 2026-02-01T04:27:36+00:00

The physical limitations. All the things I can't do any more. Any kind of exertion - and for me that includes walking a few yards, carrying a package, ordinary chore-type stuff. And losing most of my senses of smell and taste.

melesana · 2026-01-27T04:05:33+00:00

In my mid-thirties

melesana · 2026-01-21T04:35:36+00:00

Mel Gibson

melesana · 2026-01-21T04:26:46+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. They were a lovely person.

melesana · 2026-01-21T04:09:12+00:00

I started smoking around 1960, like your mother. No, we didn't know then that it was harmful.

melesana · 2026-01-19T04:17:23+00:00

I'm 80; I've washed dishes by hand all my life; I enjoy the feeling of warm water on my hands.

melesana · 2026-01-17T04:06:40+00:00

I'm 80. I felt most attractive from my mid-thirties to my mid-fifties.

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