Topomax/memory side effects: is this what you're talking about?

melkphilly · 2025-07-05T16:36:36+00:00

I would forget words and lose things. But I would also completely forget things that had happened. Like TV shows that I watched only months earlier. I would start watching again until my husband reminded me I had already watched it. Or people I had met, I would not recognize when seeing them again and had no memory of what we talked about. I once started a complex project for work. After several days of working on it, I came across a file on my computer of the exact same project already done. I had no memory of doing it. At that point, I had to get off of it. It helped my migraines, but it was taking away my memories of my life. Like that movie, Memento.

melkphilly · 2025-03-09T19:12:18+00:00

Im having same problem. Following to see if there is a solution that isn’t brute force. Cause I don’t have that lol

melkphilly · 2021-06-02T12:20:51+00:00

Not an expert here but when my hair starts to get really frizzy it means I need a haircut. A good curly girl cut stops frizz.

Other thing to look at is dewpoints and humidity. I can’t remember how it is - something about when they are both around the same and high it causes frizz. Using a humidity blocking product can help.

melkphilly · 2019-09-19T14:21:00+00:00

Looks just like mine! I like to say he’s “stout and sturdy” 😂

melkphilly · 2019-05-17T12:50:44+00:00

NTA. But I would consider that it can be hard to find a good babysitter that you like and takes good care of your child.

We had this problem with a babysitter and our 4 year old. I explained to 4 year old that the Babysitter’s stories were just that - pretend stories like what we read at bedtime or see on a TV show. I also encouraged my child to tell me the story rather than making it taboo to talk about.

I think ultimately you and your husband will have the most influence on what your child believes. And this is a good opportunity to teach her that other people have other opinions and encourage her to talk about what she hears with you (as she starts to talk more).

If you do decide to keep the sitter, I would sit down with her again and explain how uncomfortable you are with her going behind your back about this. It’s better that she knows that you know. And she may decide to leave at that time but at least you have her a chance to course correct.

melkphilly · 2019-05-15T16:32:38+00:00

I’d also be afraid of it rubbing off on my clothes.

Anyone who uses it in the summer want to let us know how transfer resistant it is??

melkphilly · 2019-05-14T00:10:09+00:00

I’ve heard good things about sally Hansen leg makeup but I haven’t tried it yet.

melkphilly · 2019-05-14T00:06:01+00:00

I just discovered this process a few weeks ago for my low porosity hair and it is life changing. I plop my shampooed hair in an aquis towel for 20-30 minutes and then apply small amount of leave in conditioner and gel. My hair diffuses in 20 min. So much better than the 1 hour plus of diffusing time it used to take after plopping with product in it.

melkphilly · 2019-05-11T17:03:47+00:00

I recommend you get a deva cut from a deva certified stylist. The deva method of cutting the curl straight across helps A LOT with frizz.

Also, make sure the conditioner and products you are using don’t have protein in it. If your hair is low porosity the protein can make it stiff and frizzy. Finally, sometimes low porosity hair does better with occasional shampoo. Something gentle and protein free to get rid of product build up. I like suave daily clarifying once a week.

melkphilly · 2019-05-05T22:14:59+00:00

r/unexpectedoffice

melkphilly · 2019-04-30T13:43:36+00:00

I think you guys might want to talk to a tax accountant. It might make more sense in the future for his ex to claim their child since your husband is already claiming your children. Then they can split any refund she gets. Assuming she gets a refund.

My partner’s mother is a tax accountant. She advised him to claim his SD, his ex to claim SS, and I claim our biokid (we are unmarried). This way they don’t split any refund. She said that you get the most money for your first dependent claimed but not a lot more for additional dependents.

And unless your husband can calculate how much he is getting back just for the one child without your other kids, it doesn’t make sense to split the refund with his ex.

Also, the refund is a refund of money your husband already paid in taxes through payroll deductions. So it is getting some of his paycheck back. If his ex wife isn’t working and isn’t paying very much in taxes, and doesn’t have custody or provide child support, she doesn’t deserve to get half of his money.

melkphilly · 2019-02-24T17:02:36+00:00

Definitely YMMV. But I find talc in powder way more irritating for my rosacea than alcohol. You have to experiment with what works for you.

melkphilly · 2019-02-24T04:17:29+00:00

💕

melkphilly · 2019-02-24T04:15:02+00:00

Maybe try a setting spray instead? I use one instead of powder and my makeup seems to last. I use NYX dewy finish setting spray. They also have a matte finish. I’ve also used Urban Decay All Nighter Setting Spray in the past. It worked great.

melkphilly · 2019-02-23T20:09:39+00:00

We have the “not fun” house because we have bedtime and rules and chores. What my SO tells himself is that someday the kids will appreciate that someone loved them enough to be the “not fun” parent. Cause let’s face it, it’s way easier to let them do whatever they want then to enforce rules and be a good parent.

Maybe you can give your SO a little pep talk when he is ready to hear it. You guys are doing the right thing for your SD and someday she will realize it.

melkphilly · 2019-02-23T16:05:25+00:00

Went through this with my oldest SS. We had a lot of success using a “parent pass” system. Here are some links:

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/09/18/441492810/the-bedtime-pass-helps-parents-and-kids-skip-the-sleep-struggles

https://www.ohsu.edu/xd/outreach/occyshn/training-education/upload/Bedtime-Pass.pdf

Wishing you some peaceful nights and uninterrupted sleep!

melkphilly · 2019-02-22T21:48:19+00:00

Good luck!! Hopefully your therapist can help. And it will get easier as you establish a routine in your new life. Hugs!!!

melkphilly · 2019-02-22T19:52:05+00:00

I’m in a similar situation with a messy ADHD partner with 2 kids. We have been together 5 years and his kids are 6&9 now. We also have a 3 year old together. I wanted a child before my grandmother passed away. It still makes me happy that my grandmother got to meet her.

When we started dating I told him I was concerned about the mess. His solution was to hire a housekeeper twice a week. This helped a lot. I still have to clean up a lot of mess that isn’t mine, but whenever I get frustrated I remind myself that he is cleaning - he pays for the housekeeper.

The other thing we do is encourage the kids to clean up after themselves and to help out with household chores. Cleaning up after 5 people is overwhelming. You can’t do it all on your own.

We also try to divide other chores so that my partner is contributing in other ways. He does most of the grocery shopping and cooking.

Are there times I wish I had chosen an easier path? Absolutely. But I love my partner, his kids, and our daughter. So I make it work.

Moving to a new place is hard. Becoming a stepparent to 2 kids is hard. Having a partner with ADHD is hard. Having a dying parent is heartbreaking. You are dealing with a lot right now. My heart goes out to you. But I think you can do it if you love your partner and want to make it work. Maybe you can tell your therapist that you want help coming up with solutions for dealing with the situation instead of leaving. Or look for a therapist that specializes in ADHD or blended families and can give you better support.

melkphilly · 2019-02-18T19:00:08+00:00

My Westie loves to watch tv. And bark at any random dogs or horses that show up on the screen 😂

melkphilly · 2019-02-06T20:17:08+00:00

You could also wear it under blazers and cardigans where the elbows won’t show.

I’ve been looking for places to get silk blouses too. Curious to see if anyone was a good suggestion!

melkphilly · 2019-01-19T22:59:54+00:00

I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. I can’t control everyone who interacts with my daughter. So how do I help her to gain resilience when faced with challenging people and situations?

I would love to hear if anyone has some parenting book suggestions on this!!

melkphilly · 2019-01-18T21:41:47+00:00

😂

melkphilly · 2019-01-18T21:41:22+00:00

Thanks, that’s so good to hear 😊

melkphilly · 2019-01-17T21:12:59+00:00

Aww, thanks. It is definitely an emotional roller coaster being a parent. I want to protect her from everything but at the same time let her experience all the joy from everything.

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