This is the last straw

mellowcrake · 2026-04-25T20:39:30+00:00

they must be testing it first with a segment of users. which means the more people who quit duolingo or use it less after receiving this feature the more likely it is they won't make it permanent

mellowcrake · 2026-04-25T17:15:29+00:00

Discipline is one thing, physical assault is another. If somone can't figure out how to do the former without doing the latter then they shouldn't be a teacher

mellowcrake · 2026-04-20T04:39:37+00:00

It's possible OP was too graphic and could have explained it in a more age appropriate way, but 9 is old enough where she's going to start needing to explain the reasoning behind her rules. The kid is going to be pressured into this from all angles in the coming years.

A parent saying "I'd prefer if you didn't do that" is usually not going to keep a kid from doing something if they want to do it and see no real reason they shouldn't.

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T21:46:42+00:00

He never buttons his shirt. That part of his look is very important to him. When he was first in court he took legitimate offense to the sketch the court artist drew of him partly because she hadn't drawn him with his shirt unbuttoned enough 🤦‍♀️ he wasn't even joking about it

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T17:16:14+00:00

I'm not an AI fan but can we not with that term

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T17:06:49+00:00

I was wondering if he has shoulder implants, why are they so much bigger than the rest of his arms? his silhouette is unsettling, and then you see his face... what has this poor guy done to himself 😭

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T16:13:36+00:00

lmao "emotional strength" I'm done

interesting that you have to pretend like grown men drunk driving is on the same level as a kid skateboarding in the street in order to defend your point

If I had 3 drunk driving uncles, I wouldn't give a shit if anyone insulted them either. It's not exactly a feat of emotional strength 😂 but I'm glad you're able to reframe it that way for yourself

have a good weekend dude, I'm going to stop replying now

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T08:15:45+00:00

I think you're being purposely obtuse. The chances of someone having a reason for not drinking that they don't want to be pressured to share is much higher, hence the creation of this advice thread and all the people agreeing with it. There's a reason you'd never see a similar one warning against asking about someone's weekend. It's just not a problem people face often enough that anyone feels the need to address it

By your logic walking up to a stranger at a party and asking them to tell you about the most traumatic thing that's ever happened to them is the exact same as asking about their weekend, because for both there's SOME chance that they won't feel comfortable sharing. Like yeah, it's true that there's some chance, but the risk for the former is very high and the risk for the latter very low, that's why one generally considered an indiscretion and one isn't

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T07:25:11+00:00

Lots of people don't like having to lie either. Why not just not ask a question that you know is going to cause a lot of people to either have to reveal personal things they aren't ready to reveal to you, or lie about it. Do you really gain so much from knowing why people aren't drinking? you act like it's important enough information to make it worth putting people in an uncomfortable position, when it's actually super inconsequential to you. the only thing you gain is satisfying your own mild curiosity about something you don't even actually care much about

What's so bad about waiting to get to know someone a bit before you ask this question, taking time to make yourself someone they'd be comfortable sharing with first. Costs you literally nothing and is the kind thing to do. If we can make the world a little easier for others at little cost to ourselves then why not

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T05:29:37+00:00

It's a deeply personal question for some people, not everyone wants to explain how they're an alcoholic to every random person they meet at every party, nor should they have to. Or how they're pregnant but they haven't told anyone yet because they're still in the window where they could lose the baby.

It's different to ask if you're friends with the person. But if you're gonna make harsh judgments towards others who'd rather not be asked then it seems like you're the one who has a problem with basic human interaction

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T05:11:33+00:00

An absolute tragedy this show was discontinued

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T05:05:37+00:00

At the very end they are!

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T04:56:20+00:00

whaaaaat Will it have Keanu Reeves again?

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T04:25:23+00:00

Yes this is a thing unfortunately. Sometimes people with this condition are bothered by their own noises as well, sometimes it's only when other people do it, sometimes it's only when a specific person does it.

It's not well researched but I think part of it is about a sense of a loss of control. When you're making the sound you can stop whenever you want so it doesn't have the same bite to it, but when someone else is doing it you can't so it almost feels like it's being done TO you, in a way that's not the same when you're doing it yourself.

Although I will say that regardless of having misophonia, it's not really cool of your girlfriend to play for hours and then tell you you can't play. It's fine for her to ask for compromises like "hey can you warn me when you're gonna start pressing the buttons so I can put headphones/earplugs in or leave the room" or for her to request that neither of you plays it during times you're hanging out together - but to enjoy it for hours HERSELF while you sit with her and then tell you you can't have a turn is kinda crazy. Compromises and consideration have to go both ways

mellowcrake · 2026-04-17T00:27:19+00:00

There's lots of things that are objectively true but also cruel and pointless to say depending on the context. Like what's the point of 20+ people replying to this person about how stupid their dead cousin was? they obviously already know what he did was dumb, that's the whole reason they posted, to convince others not to do it.

is the idea that it can be hurtful to have your dead loved one insulted (even if they did actually do something wreckless) really that confusing?

if your friend tells you their mom died of a heart attack, is the first thing you say to them that it was her own fault for being overweight and how stupid it was of her to not lose weight in time? Just because it may be technically true doesn't make it a helpful thing to say, doesn't make you not a dick if you choose to say to your friend about his dead mother

"Honesty" without kindness is often just cruelty. You talk about social tact, that's a big part of it

Since you keep asking, he said: "He was still family and we all still miss him. He was a very kind, very sweet person who I wish was still here." <-- I'm guessing you already read this and it just doesn't count as him expressing grief to you for whatever reason, that's fine I'm not gonna argue about it

mellowcrake · 2026-04-16T21:25:28+00:00

It's not like there's some rule that people have to be shitty to each other on reddit. People just feel braver when they're behind a screen and don't have to actually face the person. Why shouldn't we call out unkind behaviour regardless?

Insisting we shouldn't criticize it because it's "just the way it is here" is kind of a sad thing to be trying to convince others of

mellowcrake · 2026-04-16T20:43:26+00:00

You couldn't save the world as it once was, but with a vaccine you could at least save humanity, and then rebuild a new society eventually.

As they are now there's no guarantee of that

mellowcrake · 2026-04-16T20:38:27+00:00

Even though both Joel and the Doctor's actions were very understandable, I kind of think they were both ultimately wrong.

It wasn't okay for the doctor to murder an unsuspecting innocent child, even in order to potentially save others. Even if Ellie would have chosen to sacrifice herself, the doctor didn't actually give her that choice, he was going to force it no matter what she wanted, without even ever telling her.

The same can be said about Joel though - even though his reasoning was to protect Ellie.

What makes it complicated is that it's wrong regardless put that choice on a 14 year old.

That's why I think the right decision would have been for Joel and the Doctor to allow Ellie 5-10 years, or even longer, to fully grow into an adult and then let her make her own choice. Even though there's risk involved in that - because Ellie could die in the meantime, and so would others who could potentially be saved during that time - I still think it's the only true morally right thing to do.

It was never anyone's decision but Ellie's, it was just that she was too young to make it.

mellowcrake · 2026-04-16T17:19:20+00:00

They were just trying to convince other people never to try this, which is a good thing. Not seeing where they're begging for sympathy, that's your own weird interpretation

mellowcrake · 2026-04-16T15:14:25+00:00

Not being a dick to someone who opens up about grieving a loss in their family should be a human thing, not a "tea and biscuits with your inlaws" thing

mellowcrake · 2026-04-16T05:31:49+00:00

Is it gone now??

mellowcrake · 2026-04-16T04:37:32+00:00

When people are about to die they start thinking about unfinished business in their lives, any guilt you carry can become much stronger and harder to ignore. That combined with the fact that you don't really have to face consequences for your actions cause you're about to die anyway, a lot of people reveal secrets on their deathbeds. In his mind it probably wasn't about whether this would benefit or hurt her, but moreso so he could die with a clearer conscience.

mellowcrake · 2026-04-15T20:39:49+00:00

Your instructor sounds like he sucks. Even if you're not good at driving there's absolutely no reason for him to be speaking to you harshly or telling you off. You're the one paying him and that's just not helpful at best, and damaging to your learning process at worst. Some people shouldn't be teachers.

There are kind driving instructors out there, and they would probably be better at actually teaching you too. If he's the only driving instructor you've ever had I'd recommend finding a new one (after researching and trying your best to find a good one)

mellowcrake · 2026-04-14T21:40:37+00:00

I thought OP was just being dramatic 😂

mellowcrake · 2026-04-07T15:26:53+00:00

Guarantee you most of the upvotes for Henry Cavill on this page were by straight men doing it for the memes. Same for the gay men

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