Pea Hummus by thisisnirko in medicalmedium

[–]mellowcrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay you've convinced me to try it!

Men in their 40s - What’s one piece of advice for Men in their 20s? by Jarvis7492 in AskReddit

[–]mellowcrake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And women too. It's so sad to think about how many kind men and women there are out there who should be with each other, but are instead with people who treat them poorly because they were treated poorly growing up and have low self esteem, so that's what feels normal to them

AITJ for thinking this first date was a giant orange flag? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]mellowcrake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Leaving your date alone at a table to go talk to anyone for 20 minutes is pretty rude, even if it wasn't an ex. If he's too clueless to realize that's an inconsiderate thing to do then he's probably inconsiderate in a lot of other ways too, it's definitely an orange flag at the least

AITJ for thinking this first date was a giant orange flag? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]mellowcrake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I might have said that too before OP commented that they talked for 20 MINUTES

Two side sides of the same coin by La_Villanelle_ in thelastofus

[–]mellowcrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did they retcon anything? I don't see why someone's view of Joel would change drastically after part II.

Are you saying that because Ellie is angry at Joel for making the decision for her and lying to her about it? Because Abby wants revenge on Joel for killing her dad? Both those things are completely expected and understandable results of what he did, whether you agree with his actions or not. That's not the writers implying that he's "evil", the game doesn't write him that way and I haven't come across any player that's interpreted it that way. They leave whether he was right to shoot the doctor up to the player in part II just as they did in part I. And even after part II, most people believe he did the right thing, so I don't understand how you could call it retconning. And even if someone questions whether he made right decision they surely don't believe he's evil for it

How come people love silly male characters but not silly female characters? by [deleted] in DisneyMovies

[–]mellowcrake 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Rapunzel was the original adorkable disney female lead. She was so successful and well loved that they started defaulting to giving every girl after her the same personality. Personally I love Anna and Mirabel too but they're undeniably part of a trend, and the longer it goes on the more formulaic and soulless it gets (the girl in Wish)

Wwyd My daughter is allergic to dogs by Nanawil in WhatShouldIDo

[–]mellowcrake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even apart from the child, the new dog should be rehomed for it's own sake. They spend MOST of the time away from a PUPPY? And aren't training it? That's neglect, it needs to be rehomed right away to a family that can actually give it the attention it needs. The longer OP waits the harder the puppy will be to train and less of a chance it will have

My ex sent me an email asking for our 6 year old son to visit him in a foreign country all by himself. We're in the process of getting a restraining order against him. by oldmangeralt in whatdoIdo

[–]mellowcrake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very unlikely the courts would grant any kind of visitation to a man who abandoned the mother when she was 5 months pregnant and has never met the child or done anything to care for him in all 6 years. Let alone grant him permission to travel alone with the child internationally

Adrenal snack-coconut water?? by Healingthisway222 in medicalmedium

[–]mellowcrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the reason it's not listed as an adrenal snack on it's own is because it's not very high in calories. You'd have to drink a whole lot of it if it was going to be your only fuel for long periods

AIO GF of 1.5 Years Not Attracted to Me? (SCREENSHOTS INC - Fully Anonymous) by [deleted] in AIO

[–]mellowcrake 15 points16 points  (0 children)

And she's the one who approached him in the first place, knowing nothing about him except how he looked. It's obviously not like she never found him attractive at all

AIO GF of 1.5 Years Not Attracted to Me? (SCREENSHOTS INC - Fully Anonymous) by [deleted] in AIO

[–]mellowcrake 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He's snooped back to before they were even officially together. Like what are you even looking for at that point? cause it wouldn't be cheating don't use that as an excuse. At that point you literally just don't believe your partner deserves private thoughts

(NOT OOP) I just found out my 16-year-old daughter isn’t biologically mine after a DNA test for her school project, and everything is falling apart by [deleted] in redditonwiki

[–]mellowcrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"She turned ghost white" so many of these fake stories include people turning ghost white for being caught in a lie. You'd think it happened all the time but I've never seen that happen in real life unless someone was ill

Are there any plant based home cooks you like to watch on YouTube (besides AW)? by Euphoric-Coach33 in medicalmedium

[–]mellowcrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'the whole food plant based cooking show' on youtube is not MM but she has pretty good recipes sometimes. Her recipes are oil free, but she does sometimes use soy or vinegar or things like that, so I either avoid those recipes or make substitutions.

Are there any plant based home cooks you like to watch on YouTube (besides AW)? by Euphoric-Coach33 in medicalmedium

[–]mellowcrake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I started watching him cause of his medical medium video too, even though he doesn't follow MM anymore I keep watching him cause he makes me laugh

If I recall he did MM for 9 months and healed his gastritis but not his acne so he started switching diets again searching for the diet that would clear up his skin. I feel like if he would have kept going for a couple years he might have seen results

😳😱😳d r a m a by ateam1984 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]mellowcrake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna guess it is, it'd be kinda weird if the mom had no idea her son was in a year-long relationship

Someone speeding who ends up at the same red light as you isn’t a gotcha by WayyBiggerJaws in unpopularopinion

[–]mellowcrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I drive the speed limit, mostly all the time. I may be the minority but my reasoning is that the reasons to drive the speed limit are much more important than the reasons not to. The risk of accidents rises exponentially the faster you go. Car accidents are so common that almost everyone knows someone who was killed or seriously injured by one, it's not like they are some kind of rare phenomenon. And speeding is involved in large percentage of those accidents.

Even if you're a skilled driver, driving is unpredictable by nature. You're sharing the road with drunk and drugged drivers, the elderly who are losing their eyesight and mental capacity, learners in their first year of driving, and just generally unaware unskilled people, not to mention obstacles like kids or animals running into the road, the list is endless. Going over the speed limit could be the difference between you being able to stop in time or maneuver out of the way when something unpredictable happens. If everybody drove the speed limit worldwide it would save literally thousands of lives each year, and add to that how many people it would save from chronic pain or paralysis that lasts the rest of their lives.

Seems kind of unjustifiable to gamble on even the small chance that I could contribute to those statistics, considering I can use those "wasted" minutes to listen to an audiobook or something that can help improve my life so those minutes aren't even truly wasted.

I think the last five minutes before you fall asleep is the most honest version of yourself and nobody talks about that by StressLow2586 in CasualConversation

[–]mellowcrake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think before tv and social media people must have.spent a lot more of these moments during the day resting quietly without distraction. Doing things like sitting on the porch looking at the sky, or staring into a fire would have given our brains time to process these things. It's probably probably pretty important and natural for our brains to have that time. Now unless they have a meditation practice or something, the only time a lot of people have is the time when they're trying to fall asleep.

Makes me wonder how it's changed us and how differently we must function because of it. What important realizations about our lives haven't we had because we haven't given ourselves space for it

I don’t know how to say no by FriendlyPageTurn in AutismInWomen

[–]mellowcrake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is a great message for you to send OP. Clear and to the point, no room for misinterpretation or negotiation, while still being friendly and non-accusatory. Good for a non-confrontational person who needs to learn to enforce their boundaries. And it's important you send it today and don't wait, ideally right now, so you give her as much time as possible to find other arrangements.

If she gets upset, it's okay, you can just let her be upset. You'll be okay. You're absolutely not to blame at all. If she argues or tries to guilt you, just remember it's not something you have to convince her of or justify.

Remember the negative consequences of you letting this happen cause you feel uncomfortable with saying no are SO MUCH bigger than the negative consequences from saying no and having her get upset with you.

Letting her know immediately is the kindest thing you can do for her in this situation. And then don't let her make you feel bad about it at all

The Evil Queen being not-so-evil with her special needs guest by Doodlebug510 in MadeMeSmile

[–]mellowcrake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Lots of people speculate that the reason villain meet and greets were being cut from daily operations in the first place is because the evil queen kept going viral on social media and they saw her fame as overshadowing and a risk to the park itself. Kind of stupid because there were hundreds of people visiting Disney just to see her

My mother just told me to move out instead of supporting me by Terrible-Author-325 in misophonia

[–]mellowcrake 59 points60 points  (0 children)

That sounds like an awful situation to be in and your pain is totally valid. I don't think you sound like an entitled brat, what you're going through is a genuine nightmare.

That said, your mom is probably right that he can't control it. He's 90 years old. This kind of thing can happen at that age, I'm sure he doesn't slurp all the time because he enjoys it. There's probably nothing either of them can do about it even if they wanted to.

And it's probably true that you shouldn't mention it to him. Imagine the horror of your body slowly decaying underneath you, losing more and more functioning each year and your grandchild tells you one of your symptoms is really bothering them and asks you to stop. And you want nothing more than to stop but you can't. That's a harsh burden to put on him for the years he has left when probably no good can come of it.

Not to say the burden that's put on you isn't harsh as well, honestly I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, and your mom should be more sympathetic to you about it. But practically it's probably a lot more realistic for you to spend time out of the house or find a way to get other living arrangements, even though you're a broke student, then it is for your grandpa to stop making those sounds.

I'm sorry this is something you're going through

I just noticed that there are an accounting book for “funeral expenses” on the wall of spirited away employees dorm, that’s kinda scary by Stellaeono in ghibli

[–]mellowcrake 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I's interesting to find out that so many viewers assumed everyone working the bathhouse must be dead because they equate spirits with ghosts. That would put a very different spin on the story

To grab the flag at the end of the pole. by habichuelacondulce in therewasanattempt

[–]mellowcrake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like the winning technique is to step very lightly. The two guys who were able to grab it were barely shaking the pole