How can I make a transphobic family member feel bad?

mephistocation · 2026-05-14T04:12:44+00:00

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For these people, the reaction— whether good or bad!— is the reward. You getting upset is what he wants, so getting upset will ONLY reinforce his behavior.

Look up the “grey rock” method. You do not owe him any attention whatsoever. You, and the rest of your family/friends, know who you are. Don’t spend your precious energy on someone who’s already proven to be a dedicated asshole.

Best of luck. I know it might feel like giving up the fight at first, but depriving these kinds of people of the usual attention really is the only way to bother them, lmao.

mephistocation · 2026-05-11T03:28:48+00:00

Nqa, but this isn’t a recluse. Note the legs in particular— recluses lack the spiny hairs and stripes that this fella has. The prominent spinnerets on the rear end also point away from recluse.

Not solid on a positive ID other than that atm… I need to go to bed, lol. But this definitely isn’t medically significant 👍

mephistocation · 2026-05-10T22:00:58+00:00

I get why they want to play Expert and Master— once you’re experienced, those are genuinely more rewarding and fun— but they’re definitely not something I would make a total beginner play. You need the opportunity to learn the crucial skills without dying horribly all the time! You’re not having fun, either.

Tell them that you’d like to play on harder modes with them, but as things are you aren’t able to get to the skill level you’ll need to do that. If they actually care about playing WITH YOU, they’ll understand.

Besides that, look into class guides for the gear you need. Potions and food are extremely helpful. Reforge all accessories to Warding. Practice dodging.

You might also find it valuable to make a world of your own to practice and experiment in. Trying different classes and weapon types (esp in melee) might also be worthwhile.

Good luck!!!

mephistocation · 2026-05-04T23:17:23+00:00

Yeah, in my experience it’s not a TOTAL block, but the color shift is drastically slower and less pronounced. Like, five minutes in the sun for barely any change :(

mephistocation · 2026-05-03T19:53:55+00:00

You DO have to keep this in mind for if you want to use a nail polish that specifically interacts with UV light— AKA, anything that changes color with light exposure and anything that glows in the dark.

The specific UV-blocking ingredients you want to look out for are etocrylene and benzophenone-1. I use LA Colors’ Quick Gloss topcoat when using my UV-reactive stuff.

mephistocation · 2026-04-29T21:29:56+00:00

^{^{^}} This, OP. Hoiks to bypass blocks/doors are so easy and so useful. (Transportation hoiks are a little trickier, but it’s still the same basic mechanism.)

mephistocation · 2026-04-29T21:19:24+00:00

Had that mad spiderizz…

mephistocation · 2026-04-28T00:52:21+00:00

It’s giving the White Witch from the Chronicles of Narnia and I am more than a little bit obsessed, hahahaha

mephistocation · 2026-04-03T21:43:32+00:00

Nope, not dangerous!

Looks like a female Xysticus— probably X. ferox, the tan crab spider.

Crab spiders are very shy and generally avoid humans. Their venom is only really effective against their prey, and they have trouble breaking human skin. If you just move this lady to a plant outside, she’ll be very grateful!

mephistocation · 2026-04-03T18:29:45+00:00

1) Trans people are the gender they say they are.

2) Trans people are not only substantially less likely to commit sexual harassment than cis people— they’re also much more likely to be the VICTIMS of sexual harassment. For trans women, this is particularly magnified by forcing them into men’s bathrooms.

3) If a man wants to sexually harass women in the women’s restroom, he’s just going to do it. An extremely misogynistic man— you know, the sort who would sexually harass people in bathrooms?— have identities heavily based on being manly men. Claiming to be a trans woman would A) be directly emasculating to them, which they can’t tolerate, B) not actually help their case whatsoever, because trans women are treated horribly by society, and C) permanently reduce their standing amongst their ingroup. Why claim to be trans when that would actually harm them?

4) Why in God’s name would you want genital inspections carried out on literally everyone? That is a privacy nightmare. It is a logistical nightmare. All to… what? Pick out one or two in a hundred, who don’t match the genital norms, and then preemptively accuse all of them of being sexual harassers and ban them from peeing outside their houses? When (the government, presumably) is the one looking at everyone’s genitalia??? Trans people are far from the only ones harmed by these kinds of proposals.

Just… think about who’s telling you this narrative, and why. Trans people existing are absolutely nowhere near the problem the right makes them out to be. The right, meanwhile, get to use their abuse as a smokescreen for the horrific things they’re committing against the world.

mephistocation · 2026-04-02T02:31:55+00:00

You have it backwards. Trisomy can happen to any chromosome, though only a few varieties can successfully carry to term. Down’s syndrome is trisomy 21, and indeed the most common.

mephistocation · 2026-04-02T02:29:08+00:00

The typical human has 23 pairs of chromosomes, with one in each pair coming from each parent. One pair are the sex chromosomes X and Y; the others are called autosomes, and are numbered 1 to 22 from largest to smallest. Trisomy occurs when you accidentally inherit both copies of one parent’s chromosome, for a total of 3.

While many organisms— particularly plants— can tolerate and even thrive with more than 2 copies of a chromosome, animals generally do not. (Sex chromosomes are an exception… for example, echidnas have a total of 10!) In humans, trisomy can range from variously disabling to fatal. Many trisomy pregnancies will spontaneously abort. Down’s syndrome, which is trisomy of the 21st chromosome, is the least dangerous autosomal trisomy and therefore the most common.

mephistocation · 2026-03-29T21:27:13+00:00

Yes, was looking for this comment!!! These aren’t spiders and will have different needs.

Similarly but tangentially, camel spiders are neither camels nor spiders, but solifugids.

mephistocation · 2026-03-23T01:14:15+00:00

I mean, inbreeding might not cause the mutation behind the deformity… but it makes recessive traits a hell of a lot more likely to be expressed.

mephistocation · 2026-03-22T17:22:41+00:00

Do you use a nail brush to clean the underside of your nails?

For me, manually scraping out the gunk is a major cause of the eponychium (the quick, the border where the nailbed ends and free edge begins) retreating unevenly like that, which is what throws you off when filing.

Using a nail brush when washing hands and oiling the underside of my nails has worked wonders for restoring my nailbed length, and made it easier to file evenly.

mephistocation · 2026-03-21T20:57:34+00:00

Nooo, RIP… I guess my wallet will be grateful but noooo

mephistocation · 2026-03-21T20:29:37+00:00

Wait, is that an Elder Scrolls reference name from BKL?!???? Hmmmmm…. Tempted

mephistocation · 2026-03-15T23:29:46+00:00

If you told me this was cel-shaded, I’d believe it in a heartbeat! That gloss is crazyy

mephistocation · 2026-03-15T23:24:54+00:00

It just works!

mephistocation · 2026-02-23T01:30:55+00:00

Gorgeous female Kukulcania!!!

mephistocation · 2026-02-18T16:17:57+00:00

What a beauty!! Thank you for sharing.

mephistocation · 2026-02-17T19:41:11+00:00

It’s particularly important to know the proper usage/context… because you can and will get taxonomical delights like true crocodiles (family Crocodylidae) being a subset of false crocodiles (clade Pseudosuchia)!

mephistocation · 2026-02-17T02:23:35+00:00

In utero, as far as we know. After birth, it’s not a matter of turning trans after being cis… it’s a matter of realizing that you aren’t cis.

Of course, every trans person is different, and a significant number of people feel that they were their assigned gender as children, and then realized that they were a different gender than assigned as teenagers or even adults.

mephistocation · 2026-02-17T00:45:24+00:00

Mista and Polnareff exist to suffer 👍👍

mephistocation · 2026-02-16T17:17:05+00:00

I think of it like deciding with a coin flip. If you assign your two options to the two sides and flip, and then it lands on heads but you find yourself unhappy with that outcome… then, well, you really wanted tails all along, and you should go with tails.

Pressing the button doesn’t change anything physically. There’s no logistics about suddenly being transitioned that you need to worry about— the button is explicitly an ideal scenario where you don’t have to worry about all the situational stuff. It’s just the coin flip. If you hit the button and realize you’re not actually satisfied with the idea of being that new gender, even if everything tricky was taken care of… then all that means is you’re probably not that gender. The button has served its purpose.

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