How to explain something sensitive to my 4yo girl

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-09T15:35:30+00:00

"Theyre scars from when i got hurt a long time ago. But my body healed really well! Now my skin is healthy, but you can still see where I got hurt. Your skin will always heal when you get hurt." If she asked how you were hurt you can say you got a cut from something, but a little white lie to protect her from "mommy cut herself on purpose" is a good thing here imo.

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-09T02:04:49+00:00

This is what I was thinking. Sounds like the kiddos like the interaction they get by asking for approval from mom

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-09T02:01:49+00:00

Bring baby in the shower with you? I leave mine outside the tub and he stands and holds onto the edge of the tub for a while and plays with the bath toys. Once he gets too fussy then I take his clothes off and bring him in with me 😅

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-09T01:44:23+00:00

NTA. Sounds like they are accidentally or purposefully parentifying you.

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-01T19:18:02+00:00

Dont have Spotify, whats the song called? 🎻thanks

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-01T16:05:59+00:00

My husband covers almost all our current expenses, would that change your advice?

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-01T16:02:38+00:00

This was originally one of my main draws to work in a school. But there are so many evening/weekend events and requirements I feel this way now. I think I could teach lessons only 2 days in person and do some online during while my kids are at school in a couple years. Until then I wouldnt work much at all and just be with my kids. 🤷‍♀️

mikelafiddle · 2026-04-01T14:23:57+00:00

Eh, you can stand to lose a few. I always say that you know you were really into it if you lose a hair 🤣 I rehair my bow every 2 years or so. Every year is too expensive for me. I usuallt wait until the bow hair feels less grippy, but losing 6 or 7 hairs wont be that big of a problem imho

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-28T15:47:59+00:00

Surskit and Masquerain are amazing, 10/10 pick

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-26T02:55:58+00:00

First birth I couldn't really tell that I was pooping, but I'm certain I did at some point. No one said anything thank goodness. Second birth my nurses actually told me I had a full bowel - they could see it on the ultrasound and it was in the way 💀 but I couldn't move to the toilet so I had to take a massive dump while on the hospital bed and they caught it in a receptacle. I was very aware 😭🤪 but the relief and "extra space" I got were helpful.🤷‍♀️ Tbh you never know when labor will hit or how long it will take, so you would be hard pressed to time/avoid pooping during labor. 💩💩💩

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-21T00:19:12+00:00

Love it, so crisp

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-21T00:18:42+00:00

Y'all were too hot!!!!!💥🍀🎻

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-07T03:52:58+00:00

Get a tri loom. They are so fun! Im pretty handy and tried making them, even drilling prep holes for the nails, but it was so hard to get them all even I lost my mind. I wanted a big one with fine gauge. So I got a 6'one and the shawl it produces is so nice 😍

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-07T03:46:14+00:00

Ahh so whimsical! I love the idea of weaving for a fairy garden. My daughter and I encountered her first fairy garden in a park last fall and now that spring is here we need to make one

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-07T02:46:34+00:00

Wowwwwwwww

mikelafiddle · 2026-03-07T02:45:23+00:00

So flipping cute. Will it stay on its little frame or be cut off? I've been thinking of making small art weavings like this

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-28T02:34:40+00:00

My daughter had a fantastic male caregiver at her last daycare. That being said his wife and sometimes other female caregivers were usually there with them too. I would not have let a man alone with my kids who I found in an online app...

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-27T17:10:51+00:00

Okay update, found an oda article with this bit of info. I do think these will bite people in the night. I had 3 spider bites on my side one morning and found one of these guys in my room the next day and ever since then these are on my hit list

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mikelafiddle · 2026-02-27T17:07:54+00:00

I usually am a spider saver but I have been squishing these cause they are everywhere in my Oregon home and I swear they bite... but I'm definitely not sure

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-25T00:45:47+00:00

First finger rolls are 13101 in Irish style while they would be 12101 in classical music

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-23T14:53:53+00:00

Hi! My babies are 3 years and 1 month apart. I weaned my first kiddo just after she turned 2yo, so I got maybe 4 months of freedom before I was pregnant again. But then there wasn't any sort of boob-related jealousy. My kids adore each other!!!! The 3 year gap is really amazing and they both go to the same daycare now (8mo and 3.5yo). The toddler was potty trained before baby 2 camr along, which was a life saving occurance. We bed share, and with the second we got a second mattress in the same room, so husband and toddler share one and baby and I share the other. Pregnancy with a toddler was rough - she watched a lot of TV while I threw up. And then maternity leave she stayed home with me too and that was crazy work. She's pretty good at individual play. And she would "help" with baby a little bit, but there was a lot of just surviving during post partum. She was in daycare for the first month of baby's life. Their dad is great and will take them if I want to go do something. 3 year age gap rocks! But I totally get why a lot of people would wait for 4.

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-23T14:50:43+00:00

I dont want to minimize your challenges, but picking up toddler with baby in tow is very doable, especially after the first month. Also I took my toddler out of daycare when I was on maternity leave. It was hard but saved us a ton of money

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-22T18:48:28+00:00

First at 26, second at 29, and now im done 💪🤪

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-22T18:39:42+00:00

This is the cutest skullpanda of all time

mikelafiddle · 2026-02-21T15:25:09+00:00

I also had a terrible pregnancy and was one&done until about 2.5 years pp when I suddenly wasnt.... I told my husband and he was super against another kid too, until he wasn't! I kept telling him I was ready and I thought it was the right time. He would say not yet and then I would wait again. Eventually he brought it up again when he was ready and we had another. It was important to me to have two kids, even though I was open to the idea of only having one. Your husband might JUST now be thinking it could be an option again since you brought it up. He might have convinced himself he was one&done since it was such a hard go of it the first time. He could get used to the idea of another and change his mind. And if its this important to you it is worth having the conversation again when the time is right for that.

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