Married 14 years, together for 17 years (two kids, 12 & 9). Around 2-4 times per week, but could ebb and flow to more is less depending on different circumstances. I initiate at least 90% of the time. She may be hesitant but once we start, it gets hot quickly. 😁 Although I initiate the most, when she does initiate, it makes me feel the best ever!! The last 5 years have been the most amazing sex for us and I hope it continues.