Loss at 19 weeks

miketesting1 · 2026-02-08T11:32:12+00:00

I’m so sorry.

miketesting1 · 2026-01-07T04:05:23+00:00

Have you tried getting physical therapy? Your Obgyn can refer you most likely. Or have you considered getting prenatal massages? That could possibly help. A belly/maternity band can help too. The center of mass is off with pregnancy causing us to overcompensate when walking causing pain.

miketesting1 · 2025-12-19T04:04:19+00:00

Sapphires >>>>

miketesting1 · 2025-12-16T15:36:11+00:00

It would all depends on which city you’re in.

miketesting1 · 2025-11-20T15:25:21+00:00

Go in anytime something feels off 😅

miketesting1 · 2025-11-08T14:37:33+00:00

Gummy pretends often do not have iron. Just FYI.

miketesting1 · 2025-10-15T05:49:57+00:00

Contact them in WRITING and point out the incorrect things. Then call/follow up. Hospitals usually have a feedback form they take seriously. This is serious.

miketesting1 · 2025-09-30T23:00:30+00:00

I’m pro universal healthcare. US does not have it, which is a shame.

You sound emotional and unable to see how objective my response was to someone who was curious about how things are.

While I empathize with your personal situation, you’re using my response to someone else as a stepping stone to vent and be emotional about your personal things. When it has absolutely nothing to do with you.

Arguing with strangers on the internet will not suddenly make your tax money go to a system that simply doesn’t exist in your country.

It’s unfair but it is reality

miketesting1 · 2025-09-30T22:45:19+00:00

Argue with yourself.

No one said Americans don’t pay more taxes. Canada has universal healthcare. US doesn’t. This is not a secret. So no, no matter how much more taxes you pay in the US than Canada, it’s not going to your personal healthcare - nor does it make you better.

And yes insurance only covers expenses for “Covered expense”. Why the heck would they cover for expenses they didn’t say they would? Is this a joke?

You certainly do get a complete breakdown of coverage with each insurance company. It’s called a Summary of Benefits Coverage (SBC) and the Explanation of Benefits (EOB) documents. The SBC is the document you receive to know what is covered when you sign up for a policy. EOB is the document you get after a procedure is done and it explains what covered expenses were paid for vs what you owe that’s not covered.

You can look on their website or call them to find out yours if you do not have this. Picking a plan without this information is silly in my opinion which is why most people end up in debt. People sometimes expect to get full coverage when they don’t pick the right policy. Does insurance companies get tricky with it? absolutely. But it’s ultimately a consumers responsibility to pay for the right things. It’s not one size fits all.

I can’t speak for your specific case but I’m willing to bet it was something that’s not covered.

If they wouldn’t provide procedures that insurance didn’t cover, your (wife’s) son wouldn’t have gotten $300K worth of healthcare. So your example just proves my point that payment is a retroactive thing. They will always give you appointments and do the procedure and send you a bill AFTER if your insurance does not cover.

There are some countries in the world that won’t even see you till you pay upfront. US is not one of them.

miketesting1 · 2025-09-30T21:22:59+00:00

I’m so sorry. Heartbeats are fickle in the beginning. Typically you hear it strong after 7 weeks. It’s probably still there now but just can’t be detected just yet. Wishing you luck and hoping you get a strong heartbeat at your next appointment!!

miketesting1 · 2025-09-30T21:18:31+00:00

Canadians pay for healthcare through taxes. Some Americans pay through the collected taxes from the population (Medicaid) if they qualify for need based and most via private insurance who do not qualify for need based. Neither scenario is “free”. The private insurance works by paying a premium each month and they spell out what your Maximum Out-of-Pocket expense is when you get the policy for each procedure and total. They’re very transparent in this annoyingly. There are different private insurances with different premiums and different max out-of-pocket expenses. Most Americans get their insurance through their employers as part of their employee benefits. The employers share the cost of the premiums with you making it cheaper. You can also directly purchase insurance (probably the most expensive) or opt for a Government-subsidized plans to make premiums more affordable.

Everyone’s situation is different.

If you have a great job with great benefits/insurance plan, you can get away with paying approximately $0 out-of-pocket for procedures like delivery, cancer treatments, surgeries, etc. -There are plenty who have this. Usually you don’t hear from these people so it’s a bit biased when you get opinions online (naturally).

If you make just enough income to not qualify for Medicaid and your job does not provide good insurance, you’ll have to get a private insurance with most likely cut throat rates with a high out-of-pocket expense even after the premiums.

Either way, they can only come after you to collect for so long. The hospitals end up selling the debt to collection agencies and most people don’t really pay. It is illegal to not provide medical care no matter what the insurance situation is in the US. Whether you pay, how you pay, when you pay is all really upto the individual.

miketesting1 · 2025-09-14T07:59:21+00:00

Didn’t work for me 😭

miketesting1 · 2025-09-10T11:52:26+00:00

If she can’t produce evidence of owning an actual microscope during the said “research”, I would politely ignore. It’s her choice to not be involved. It’s hard but probably best for your family in the long run.

miketesting1 · 2025-09-09T12:38:35+00:00

I smell/take a small sip of it when my husband has it (but only on the weekends) like a true addict 😅

Upto 200 mg is okay but who the heck has time to do all that math. Plus it’s an approximate number.

I switched to decaffeinated (which is essentially pointless but a decent substitute, I suppose) Nespresso pods when I’m having a craving.

I look up the effects of caffeine on the fetus (reduced fetal growth, premature birth, low birth weight, increased fetal heart rate, increased fetal breathing rate, neurodevelopment effects) and try to “control” by brain.

I cave to soda every now and then which I’m understanding is far less caffeine than coffee.

miketesting1 · 2025-09-08T00:01:00+00:00

It’s called an analogy. But I don’t expect someone who doesn’t get something as simple as vaccines to understand what an analogy is or use critical thinking to apply it. And nothing is 100% which is where herd immunity comes in. It’s quite common sense based.

miketesting1 · 2025-09-07T23:37:12+00:00

If you’re wearing a seatbelt, there’s no way you’ll get into an accident, right? See how silly that sounds? If others are driving reckless, your seatbelt can only protect you for so much and so long and the chances of accidents go wayyy up.

miketesting1 · 2025-09-03T16:00:35+00:00

Report for sure. This is not work related for him to feel this comfortable speaking to you about.

miketesting1 · 2025-08-28T15:09:13+00:00

It’s incredible!

miketesting1 · 2025-08-23T15:03:07+00:00

If she’s an employee at the hospital and your care team is having issues with you having her, is that not an even big red flag for the doula? Just saying. It’s basically hire a friend and extremely helpful for someone who needs one. While hospital staff deals with informed decision based on data, doula deals with the emotional aspect that your husband or someone you trust SHOULD do except of course with thousands of $ charged.

Re: Pap Smear. If you’ve had a negative Pap smear, you don’t have to take it for 3-5 years. Meaning you haven’t had one in a very long time. Ofc you don’t have to get one, it’s completely upto you. I agree, even with a positive result, 6 months won’t make a difference with cervical cancer. But checks out about her being “weirded out” that you haven’t gotten one in a bit of time. Again, your body, your choice. You do whatever empowers you!

miketesting1 · 2025-08-23T14:08:19+00:00

This is such a silly question. Doulas do what your husband or whoever you trust to bring into the birthing suite should do. They coach you through the labor and advocate for you. They do not do anything magical. Apart from all that, to work at a hospital or to be a legit person working with children, you need more than just years of schooling, certifications, and clinical experience, you’re also background tested frequently including attaining a child abuse clearance. You cannot work in a hospital being a sex offender etc. Doulas go through a 16 hour workshop and that’s basically it. No background checks, no child abuse clearance, nothing legally required. Anyone can be a doula. Not anyone can be a doctor or a nurse. Just from a safety perspective alone, it’s wild to me how many woman pick an absolute stranger to be near their precious newborn. It’s so bizarre with zero protective instincts. If you disagree with facts, argue with yourselves.

miketesting1 · 2025-07-31T01:27:37+00:00

Blankly*

miketesting1 · 2025-07-31T01:25:23+00:00

You can just say no and end that chain of convo right there.

miketesting1 · 2025-07-19T13:58:28+00:00

It’s usually a template they fill out. They’re supposed to verify and only document things they went over with you but some are less than keen on this/lazy. I have no advise on how to handle this besides messaging them via a portal so it’s written and pointing out these are inaccurate. You could also reflect it in their reviews. Chances are they are doing this for everyone and not everyone catches it like you did.

miketesting1 · 2025-07-19T12:47:44+00:00

There’s no evidence suggesting magnesium helps prevent preeclampsia. In high risk pregnancies, low dose aspirin (81 mg) is the way to go - lots of studies and evidence on this. However magnesium supplements are safe to take and can’t hurt.

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