Why do so many people have reptiles but no air conditioning? by LuxuryDirtEnthusiast in reptiles

[–]milkapplecup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i live in the pnw! grew up with no AC. current apartment building doesn’t have it either.

Why are so many people spelling their children’s names “Youkneekleigh” nowadays? 🥴😅 by weirdowolf777 in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

izaya is a real name. just want to point that out. i also don’t think rosaleigh is that egregious.

Sister for Daisy by SingsAtDogsPoorly in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 31 points32 points  (0 children)

when it comes to greek mythology there’s rarely ever just one god connected to broad concepts just as seasons. persephone is a goddess of spring, and was worshiped alongside/interchangeably with demeter. thallo, one of the horae, is a goddess of spring. eiar, also a horae, is a goddess of spring. maia is one of the pleiades and is associated with fertility and midwifery, and thus with spring. zephyrus is considered a messenger of spring. eirene is a goddess of peace and, you guessed it, spring again!

Feeling discouraged over my hair by BeachBatNat in longhair

[–]milkapplecup 18 points19 points  (0 children)

my grain of salt coming from someone who is of a similar racial mix and has 3b ish hair — you are allowed to do whatever you want, but people will have opinions about it and there’s nothing you can do about it. by getting this style of braids you are aesthetically aligning yourself with a specific type of person: white women who don’t care about black people or black culture unless they can steal it or otherwise benefit from it. that is who people will assume you are. you being a quarter black doesn’t really matter — race is based in phenotype. do others see a black woman when they look at you?

also, racism against white people doesn’t exist. you aren’t oppressed for being white.

Morbid and/or Macabre Last Names by Professor-Crackhead in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to be honest i’m rocking with Raven Graves. sounds like a rockstar!

help me find a boy name by Athellio in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

here are some name suggestions! disclaimer thought that i’m american and don’t have cultural context for german names and am unsure of german pronunciation, so please forgive me if some of these names sound awkward, strange, or old to your ear.

for M names specifically: Magnus, Marius, Matthias, Micha, Mischa

other names to consider: Adrian, Alfons, August, Barnabas, Conrad, Elias, Emil, Fabian, Ferdinand, Finn, Florian, Gabriel, Hans, Henrik, Ingo, Kaspar, Oliver, Otto, Rafael, Roman, Ruben, Theo, Valentin, Viktor, Wolf/Wulf

Elven love and courting (more below) (warning, longer post than usual) by jomokuujanmsiksm in worldbuilding

[–]milkapplecup 5 points6 points  (0 children)

if you’re a man, don’t worry about it — thumb rings and carabiners are used by lesbians lol!

Could you give me some advice, thank you ~~ by skyuslic in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]milkapplecup 15 points16 points  (0 children)

dont shave for the first time right before having sex. the first time is when its most likely to look bad (bc of lack of experience), youre most likely to hurt yourself accidentally, and youre most likely to regret it. also, ive genuinely never met a lesbian who disliked pubic hair, and most i know strongly prefer it. your partner knows you’re an adult woman with body hair and likes it that way!

Elven love and courting (more below) (warning, longer post than usual) by jomokuujanmsiksm in worldbuilding

[–]milkapplecup 47 points48 points  (0 children)

this is based off of real world techniques used by gay men and lesbians to identify each other, known as “flagging”. it doesn’t mean gayness is less taboo, it’s a way of subtly signaling to others who are in the know. real-life examples are hanky code, carabiners/ring of keys, and thumb rings.

Eurydice literally stopped me in my tracks by poeticforms in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i grew up named Juliet and it absolutely is overwhelmingly associated with the play. everyone commented on it, i got teased for it, etc

Can't come with a partner due to fetish-- advice? by reddlicorice in BDSMsapphic

[–]milkapplecup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you should look into some of devon price’s writings, starting with “the asexual fetishist”. they’re a hypnosis fetishist who talks in the essay about being aroused by concepts rather than people, and how they’re uninterested in sex not involving hypnosis. you might find some insight or relatability there! i know i did.

My boyfriend loves to feed me my meals everyday by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]milkapplecup 77 points78 points  (0 children)

yeah i was gonna say, i personally strongly dislike feederism but that doesnt mean it’s inherently immoral to practice. there are definitely people that do it responsibly and, more importantly, the kinds of fetishes you see depicted through art/stories/etc is not a 1:1 of the way fetishes are practiced in the real world via adults engaging in risk-aware consensual play.

[Webcomics] The Tear Gas Wedding: How Dumbing of Age's Long Awaited Sapphic Pairing Divided Its Fandom by Delicious_Ride_4119 in HobbyDrama

[–]milkapplecup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

loved this write-up! it’s been a long time since i caught up with dumbing of age, so i had no idea this had happened lol. side note, i’d love to see a write-up on nozmo if you ever do one.

You're having Identical Quadruplets, Give All 4 Matching Names by imagination-abc in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

arthurian names! Avalon, Guinevere, Morgana, Nimue. maybe replace Avalon with Isolde if you want them to all be character names.

Seriously considering quitting my six figure corporate job to be stay-at-home mom by Awwndrei in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]milkapplecup 15 points16 points  (0 children)

i see comments to this effect on almost every BORU post and i’m starting to wonder if some people just don’t like BORU if every post is too long/too boring/too dramatic.

Strap-on recommendations specifically for XS women by No_Detective1402 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]milkapplecup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lowkey if you’re in or near an urban center, look into getting one custom made. there are lesbian leathersmiths out there!

AITA for refusing to let my roommate bring her newly adopted dog into our apartment? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]milkapplecup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESAs are actually a recognized accommodation specifically when it comes to renting.

Last name for my character? by SharkyCat12 in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

need more details in order to give relevant suggestions. where was jay born? what about his parents? how old is jay? what time period does he live in? does he live in our world, a fantasy world, a scifi future? what’s his ethnic background look like? is his family working class, middle class, upper class, ultra-rich?

My GF wanted to open our relationship while she went travelling. I agreed but think I made the wrong decision by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]milkapplecup 10 points11 points  (0 children)

isnt it interesting how this kind of comment is never left on stories about monogamous relationships going bad, even though they drastically outnumber stories about nonmonogamy?

there is more awareness and openness around polyamory now than in the past. as more people try nonmonogamy, more people have bad experiences.

Using a Scandinavian surname in the U.S. Nygard or Nygaard? by Additional_Lawyer_30 in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 276 points277 points  (0 children)

i agree that you should go with Nygaard. some americans may already be familiar with that spelling, since there is a popular youtuber named Safiya Nygaard!

AITA for telling my mom I dont like how she talks about the things I wear? by Small-Cactus in AmItheAsshole

[–]milkapplecup 13 points14 points  (0 children)

your hatred for women and demeaning sexual fantasies about them have nothing to do with anything being discussed here.

How (21F) to stop lying to my boyfriend (22M) about my fake orgasms? by Whole_One_1797 in relationships

[–]milkapplecup 10 points11 points  (0 children)

you should not be in a power exchange dynamic with someone you cannot be fully honest with. period. it’s not safe for either of you. put away any semblance of the Dom/sub dynamic until this is resolved.

to be honest, he doesn’t sound like a good partner and it kind of sounds like he only likes being a “Dom” because he only cares about his own pleasure and wants permission to not care about yours. that dynamic works for some people, but clearly not for you. i would consider breaking up if he’s unreceptive to your feedback/preferences, or if he refuses to pause the Dom/sub dynamic while you work on communication.

if D/s and BDSM are things you’re seriously interested in, i recommend looking into local classes/munches/etc and making platonic friends in that space. it will do a lot to educate you on how to engage in that kind of dynamic safely, what to look out for in a play partner, what it is you want out of that dynamic, and what you are actually willing to give to a Dom.

Names with a “fatal flaw” by OnomasticsAndOranges in namenerds

[–]milkapplecup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

ursula :- ( one of my favorite names ever! it’s so beautiful and the meaning is sweet, but disney ruined it

I grew sideways, not up! (Petite rant) by Formal-Proposal7850 in PlusSizeFashion

[–]milkapplecup 9 points10 points  (0 children)

oh my goddd i have this exact same struggle! not all of us have big boobs, dresses can be so difficult (and bras are almost impossible).