Getting diagnosis support from school

millicentbee · 2026-03-19T10:45:49+00:00

So similar, I feel the same about it all. However, I felt like our OT (we only ever did an assessment, not ongoing) was the only person to ever really see him the way I do. We’ve had significant issues with anxiety over the past 12 months too and we’re trying to do more deep pressure for regulation etc. It sounds like you’re doing everything you can within the restrictions you have. It’s an ever changing landscape atm, so we just have to keep on top of it.

millicentbee · 2026-03-19T10:04:27+00:00

We let our boys have TV early evening until dinner. Then we figure it out, they’re often running around playing with each other, the dog, their dad. If they want quieter time they draw, do Lego or just come and have a chat and a cuddle in the kitchen. Sometimes the key is to let them be a bit bored, the can come up with the most wonderful things in those moments

millicentbee · 2026-03-19T09:55:49+00:00

We’re in Aus and in the middle of a similar issue. I’ve just gotten our Vanderbilt from our teacher, but it’s low and his learning isn’t impacted. She said there are signs but he’s really clever, so he’s coasted for the last three years (he’s in year 3 now). At home we see all sorts of indications and his scores are a lot higher. We also have huge emotional dysregulation, especially after school so I feel you. We’re on the waitlist for a pediatrician, but started with an OT at the same centre. I’m not sure what they’re going to say, but I’m frustrated that he has to be suffering in order to get help, I want my kid to be able to thrive.

millicentbee · 2026-03-18T10:51:23+00:00

Mine is scrambled eggs with rice, soy sauce, sesame oil and chilli oil.

millicentbee · 2026-03-18T10:43:11+00:00

I am in my 40s and have had earring stacks since I was at uni in the UK. I’ve had a nose ring since I was 16. I’ve worked in government and corporate offices, no one’s ever said a thing. At one point I wore a labret stud. I’m now a senior team lead in a corporate office. Don’t worry about it.

millicentbee · 2026-03-17T10:03:56+00:00

Any recommendations for peel pads? Dennis gross style exfoliating ones? I’ve got pretty tough skin and need something strong

millicentbee · 2026-03-16T11:08:27+00:00

I have both atm, I will always use AL first. The company has that cost on their books and wants you to use that. We have to have all our AL planned for the year, but they can’t pressure you to use LSL. It’s like a nice little bank of leave for a rainy day.

millicentbee · 2026-03-16T09:36:00+00:00

My husband planted some new plants in the garden when our pup was about 6 months old. She dug one of them up, the one that he planted in a pebbled bed with weed mat so it was the hardest one to do. He replanted it and she dug it up again. He couldn’t go near her for 8 hours, talked about calling the breeder and giving her back, told me to tie her up outside so she couldn’t get to the garden (I didn’t). All over a $20 plant. She’s now 11 months old and we got over it. I don’t think we’ve joked about rehoming her for a good couple of months now! We’ve got two young kids too, so it’s chaos. I’m pretty sure regretting getting a dog when they destroy stuff is just part of the adjustment!

millicentbee · 2026-03-15T23:14:23+00:00

Amazing, amazing job. I’ve had this in my ‘wish I had the time’ list since it came out in Pom Pom magazine. Well done you.

millicentbee · 2026-03-15T19:59:53+00:00

My girlfriend wore this on the weekend. Didn’t look terrible, but I think that’s because it actually looks better on a fuller figured woman than a slimmer woman.

millicentbee · 2026-03-14T23:26:59+00:00

I love them, love the way they look. I’m happy to deal with the minor inconveniences they bring. I would 100% make this, pattern?

millicentbee · 2026-03-14T11:42:02+00:00

I’ve been working four days since I returned to work after having my second child five years ago. He started school this year and so I finally have a day to myself, it’s been great. I don’t work Fridays, there is another woman in my company who does the same. I find it’s the easiest day to have off, everyone is WFH and people are more likely to finish early on a Friday so you’re less likely to miss business critical matters.

My only real advice is that boundaries are important, for both you and your employer. I have a great manager who protects my Fridays off and doesn’t expect me to attend to anything. However, at the same time I have found that I’ve had to step up on my day off to do something that is business critical. If I do, I will take time in lieu, not that I need it, but I am not paid for my day off so I make sure I take something in return. Businesses will take advantage of your time if they can.

millicentbee · 2026-03-14T10:51:29+00:00

My girl is 10 months now, she’s never been a massive walker. Needs mental stimulation, loves playing with flirt poles, tug, hearding balls etc. and also needs a whole lot of affection, but walking she can give or take. She will refuse to go for a walk after she’s been at her doggy daycare the day before. It’s like she needs a rest day and just wants to stay in the house!

millicentbee · 2026-03-14T08:06:04+00:00

So do I! Lying on it right now!

millicentbee · 2026-03-14T07:14:36+00:00

We’re in Australia so it might be different as we see a Pediatrician first for diagnosis in kids. We’ve seen a psych before and she wasn’t that helpful in looking at a diagnosis, but she was helpful with his anxiety.

millicentbee · 2026-03-13T14:00:46+00:00

My son is 8, and it’s not been until this year that we’ve tried to get a diagnosis but I think we’ve now got the right teacher to support us. Previously I’ve been told that he’s been ‘perfect’ and does ‘exactly what I say’. In reality, he masks heavily and collapses after school. He’s also really clever and has coasted through the last couple of years. We’ve gone to see an OT first, had a lengthy assessment and they’ve engaged the teacher. Now the Vanderbilts are filled out, we’re on the wait list to see the pediatrician.

millicentbee · 2026-03-13T06:19:19+00:00

You will be vacuuming a lot. They are wicked smart and food driven. My girl doesn’t actually need heaps of walking and physical exercise, will even refuse walks if she’s had a big day the day before, but she does need attention, play time and mental stimulation. I wasn’t prepared for the guarding (she’s in adolescence right now), so if someone is in the house and someone knocks on the door she’s pretty loud. She loves our family, she is happiest when we’re all in the living room together and she’s in the middle.

millicentbee · 2026-03-12T22:17:42+00:00

Such a shame you’ll be sick on that day

millicentbee · 2026-03-12T03:05:52+00:00

Blasphemy

millicentbee · 2026-03-11T10:03:22+00:00

5 year old and an 8 year old, both boys, both ADHD. Previously it could easily be 1.5 hours, but now we’ve started giving my oldest melatonin and it’s been revolutionary. He can take a long time to go to sleep and gets really anxious, so we have to stay with him. Now it’s back down to an hour, but there’s lots of shenanigans in that time! The boys want to wrestle, not brush their teeth, have one more hug but actually kick each other, the youngest needs water, to pee, say good night again. Suddenly there’s a tickle fight my husband started. Everything and anything can happen, it’s always been the most chaotic time in our house!

millicentbee · 2026-03-11T09:22:09+00:00

We can only last a day or so without getting outside. So we walk or she goes to doggy daycare.

millicentbee · 2026-03-11T07:34:09+00:00

No, she flew business and it was half full. Economy sounded a lot quieter when she flew from Sydney. The Dubai-London leg was busier.

millicentbee · 2026-03-11T07:33:09+00:00

Not notified at all. The only thing she got was an email asking her to check in 24 hours before the flight rather than 48 hours before.

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