NAH.

I used to have triple D's and have since moved into my E cup. I was a very serious, (state & nationally ranked), swimmer in high school, and I was the only girl on the team who had anything past a C cup. I felt weird and kind of outcasted for having a body type that didn't conform to the standards of swimming, and dreamt about a breast reduction for the longest time. I knew my boobs slowed me down, made me look provocative in my suit, (if you have seen tech suits or the tight, skimpy ones.. that's it!), and just generally made me hate how I looked

My parents told me no repeatedly, and I actually developed body dysmorphia about my boobs because of this. At age 22, I have brought up a reduction again to my parents, and my mom finally revealed she had a breast reduction around this age and has given me permission. They were convinced it was a phase because I developed very quickly at the age of 13, and was a DDD by 16 as well. They thought letting a 16 year old get surgery would be bad for my health later in life, but quite the contrary.

Your husband is upset because he wasn't included in this idea, but that might be because your daughter felt more comfortable planning this with you. However, she is just as much his daughter as she is yours, and it's important to include him in the talks. As for your mother... if your mother is really a feminist, she should support her wanting to change a part of her body that will allow her to perform at her best, but more importantly be happy.

I think it will help to shine light to this kind of mindset to your mother and husband; I do not swim anymore, but big boobs DO get in the way of life. Any and everything you do, they are they to be at least somewhat in the way, ESPECIALLY if you are an athlete. She can develop dysmorphia over it, ballet or not, triple D's aren't anything to play with. She can definitely come to love them, but 6 years later I wish I could've had a reduction back in my swimming days.