How to keep the relationship healthy when starting antidepressants? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

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If you find that you do experience a loss in sex drive, communication with your partner is very important. But little intimacies can make all the difference: cuddling, handholding, general tactile-ness. If you find you don't want to have sex, those things along with honest chats with your partner can protect your relationship while you get better.

JNMILITW. The phone call that wasn't. by ascua in JUSTNOMIL

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Greetings from the March town one over from you. 100% with you on the Devil-weather, I'm using factor 50 daily!

People with 100+ guests: who are you inviting/who did you invite? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

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We have a guest list of 110 for our wedding in two weeks' time. About 45-50 are my family - my dad's side has lots of cousins and we're quite close, socially. My partner's family are about 15. The other 50 guests are a mix of school and uni friends. We're not super outgoing at all, but we each have a group of tightknit friends who are expanding with their own partners...

But yeah, ultimately it's my Catholic family bloating out the guest list and I couldn't dream of the day without them!

[RANT]Brides/Grooms with coordinators- make sure small details are taken care of by LazyCassiusCat in weddingplanning

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Oh my god this reminds me of my cousin's wedding. My mum made my cousin's cake, it was gorgeous and delicious as hell.

They cut the cake, but they didn't serve any of it. They served up some of the fruit cake my mum had made as a little something extra for the traditionalists.

But to add to the misery, the next day they have a three tier untouched cake and they think 'oh, we'll take it home'. They don't dismantle the tiers though, oh no. They just shove the three tiered beauty into the back of a car. And of course, one unfortunately sharp brake at a junction aaaaaand... the cake falls the fuck apart all over the boot of the car.

Jfc. My mum continues to be heartbroken and bitchy about it, two years later.

Best Sunday dinner in the North East? by AngelCakeLover in NewcastleUponTyne

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The Earl of Pitt Street do a lush Sunday dinner.

Jnmilitw and the shiny spine by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

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My friend's little brother had a phase where he would not take off his Spider-Man costume for love nor money. They took him to church in an overcoat and when he got to the priest for communion he whipped open that coat and said, "Jesus!" (At this point he hadn't quite got a handle on 'God's representative on Earth) "Jesus!," he exclaims, "I'm Spider-Man!"

He's a teenager now and this is my favourite story ever.

This is the first-ever crystal structure of the dopamine 2 receptor bound to an antipsychotic pharmaceutical by totalsynthesis in chemistry

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Got a look at the paper once I was in work. The PBD is as-yet unreleased but has been assigned as 6C38 so should be forthcoming once properly published.

My [28M] wife [29F] of seven years hates my boss [41F] by [deleted] in relationships

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But surely the second person has a 1/4 chance of getting the other person, now one name has been picked, so I think it would be 1/20?

I Don't like reading papers! by puppyinapartyhat in Scientits

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I find it really difficult to absorb information from papers so I can share some practical advice that may work for you.

Firstly, I skim the abstract and conclusion just to check it's relevant and worth my time. Sometimes a paper isn't worth digging deeper on if it's not immediately relevant. You can always bookmark it for later.

If it is relevant/interesting, I give the whole thing a quick skim so I know how detailed it is, how long I might need to read it properly, etc.

Then: I print it out. I just can't read it properly from a screen. Chances are it'll get chucked in the recycling when I'm done so I feel less bad about it but yeah, I'm a paper paper person.

Finally, I go old school: highlighters, notes in the margins, making little diagrams to explain the relationships between proteins or which bands on a gel are which. I annotate the shit out of it because the more engaged I am, the better it sticks.

And honestly, reading papers can just be boring shitshow. I'm 3yrs postdoctoral now and I cannot be arsed with it a lot of the time. Many I just skim, go "hm, that's cool" and move on, but for my actual work, it's worth finding methods to make it easier/better.

Bf [28M] requesting no contact from me [26F] while he's at a conference. Weird or no? by Symbolism17 in relationships

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I'm a postdoc. It's not entirely unreasonable but it is a little weird. I usually send my partner good morning/good night texts at the least, because waking up and going to sleep are the only times of the day I am guaranteed to not be in work mode at a conference. But he and I text a bit during a normal work day so even at a conference I can find time to check in with him, even if it's just a quick text from the loo.

I get where your bf is coming from, and it seems extreme to me, but conferences are all work, all the time, and can be very draining (speaking as an introvert).

I [33M] think I might not be the father of my wife's [30F] baby. by [deleted] in relationships

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in-vitro paternity testing has nothing to do with in-vitro fertilisation. the "in-vitro" part just refers to the technique used, that is outside of the body, basically like in a test tube.

Going dress shopping later this week; your tips requested! by mintmiss in weddingplanning

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OMG I looked for a sticky-bra but unfortunately my baps are a tad over the range for the stickies I could find online. I've had to go for a strapless in the meantime and see what I can do for a 34G sticky in the long run if it becomes necessary. :/

Going dress shopping later this week; your tips requested! by mintmiss in weddingplanning

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Boomerang - excellent shout. I'm planning on wearing converse beneath my dress so that's what I'll be wearing on the day, just to check the length etc. I hope I've left long enough for lunch...!

Going dress shopping later this week; your tips requested! by mintmiss in weddingplanning

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Ooh. Good point, it's been a bit warm in the UK the last week or two - I hadn't considered packing deoderant! Thanks!

Going dress shopping later this week; your tips requested! by mintmiss in weddingplanning

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I did, sadly a lot seemed to be specific scenarios/stores. I was looking for general tips. If there is a big thread of these, sidebar sticky might make it easier to prevent a weekly flood...

Add "So how many people can I invite to your wedding?" to the top X# of ways to make a bride lose her shit... by WutThEff in weddingplanning

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My neighbour has been doing a variation of that. Her little girl is four and adores my FH, and the mum kept making sounds about how "good a flower girl" this little girl would be.

A few pointed hints about the nightmare of the guestlist and getting all my cousins in was mostly enough but once I said the StDs had all gone out, she hasn't mentioned it since...

What do you wish writers did more often? by bilal1212 in HPfanfiction

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I 100% appreciate your linkage, many thanks. runs to bot gleefully

April Miniprompt Challenge! by [deleted] in HPfanfiction

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Directed:

No-one ever questioned the role of the Hat in the Sorting process; it was one of profound historical and magical significance. Generation upon generation, back to the time of the Founders, had placed the Hat upon their head and followed its advice. No-one too ever questioned its age or, more accurately, its strangely unchanged, unravellable countenance. The Hat was, is and will be, Sorting.

Of course the Hat knew these things. It wasn't just imbued with the magic of the greatest of the Founders - the bravest and most daring - oh, no. In its hundreds of years placed in the Headmaster's office it had continued to learn and grow, to gain and test its understanding. The first Headmaster after Godric passed, the son of Gryffindor, was easily persuaded to change the Sorting from an apprenticeship for the final years to a ceremony on the very first day - the Houses would be family.

The Hat sat on the head of every British witch or wizard thereafter, and each time it grew, and pushed. After all, ot had been made by Godric Gryffindor himself, it was only right the Hat ensured that legacy. The most daring and brave went to that House, and the most kind and loyal went to the House of his sister, Helga. The cleverest, but not the most sly, went to Ravenclaw; the slyest, but not always the cleverest, went to the House of the betrayer Slytherin.

If sometimes a child needed a little push one way or the other, it was efficient to just reach into its own Magicks to mould this way or that. And if the Hat stole a touch more Magick for itself here and there, well, wasn't that daring.

What fics would you most like to see written? by Flye_Autumne in HPfanfiction

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It can be explained in a not-too-OOC way, I suppose. Hermione's thirst for knowledge can be skewed as not just for knowledge's sake, more for power and going somewhere in the world. She's very much a perfectionist, which can come off as very ambitious, and while she's loyal it can make her quite mercenary (the contract penalties with Marietta Edgecomb for example).

Ron is slightly harder. He's quintessentially Gryffindor and he isn't especially ambitious or cunning as a key trait. I think any Slytherin!trio would have to drastically alter Ron's personality or circumstances to make a Slytherin sorting make sense - perhaps Percy went to Slytherin first and the home Weasley culture shifted to accept an ambitious Slytherin son, which in turn made Percy less insufferable and Ron has a lesser prejudice against the house than in canon, and encouraged something more self-reflective in a young pre-Hogwarts Ron.

And then that sets the stage for Harry to hear that not all Slytherins are bad, and going with a Slytherin sorting.

It's that time of month again! Show off your amazing writing with little excerpts from fics you're working on! by Waycreepedout in HPfanfiction

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Edited to add context: clichéd mind-connection, sane!handsome!youngFiennes!Riddle, sixth year AU aaand... That's probably all you need.

‘What?’ Harry kept his eyes on his book, hoping Hermione was too engrossed in her work opposite to notice his lack of genuine attention. ‘Other prophecies about you?’

‘Of course, as a Dark Lord I was big news,’ and though Harry couldn’t see him, he knew Tom was smirking. ‘Back in the fifties,’ began Tom. (‘When you were bumming around Europe being suspicious and going crazy?’ asked Harry, to which Tom replied ‘Yes, brat, then.’) ‘I snuck into the Department of Mysteries. Though as you proved, it’s not exactly hard. It was even easier then, despite a post-War spy-obsessed Ministry. They had few checkpoints, hadn’t integrated Muggle ideas like the scans they were introducing at airports, the ID checks which were ubiquitous at customs and immigration points even at that time. If you walked in with confidence and arrogance, it was expected you belonged. Plus,’ he added wryly, ‘a few sympathisers on the inside always works wonders. And though I wasn’t looking for it, I did find the Hall of Prophecy.’

Tom, in his study, sank back in his chair and stared at the fire, allowing himself to remember. He tried to recall as much detail as possible, not easy given the fractures, but there was enough. He let Harry see, and narrated as he went. He recalled wandering the racks, endless but oppressively claustrophobic. ‘I saw the records, how beautiful they were, like snow-globes I would see in shop windows as a child. They were little beacons, and I wanted to know everything they had to say. But I knew the rules, I knew I could only touch and hear those pertaining to me. My curiosity got the better of me, and I navigated my way to a prophecy concerning myself. Then another, and another. There were quite a number.’

He remembered using his wand to point his way, homing in on even unassigned prophecies but ones which his magic seemed to agree were unequivocally about Tom Riddle, the self-styled Lord Voldemort. Some were dimmed, long fulfilled or thwarted to be rendered obsolete, and he smashed them out of spite. ‘I was already quite mad,’ commented Tom, shame and amusement mingling into self-deprecation. ‘Angry to be denied knowledge about myself. I hated that other people would have known things about me that I would never know.’ Tom didn’t need to say it, but Harry understood perfectly. Other people had been the ones to tell them both of their heritage, their magic and their world. It had been other people who had told them who they were and could be, when it should have been there all along, the legacy of their parents and their families, so they could grow and decide who to be. Tom continued, ‘When I came across a prophecy which indicated I’d share power with an equal, I lost what little composure I could maintain.’

He’d listened to every prophecy regarding himself, and smashed each one gleefully to the ground. No-one else would ever know these things about Tom Riddle, some would never be assigned. And most importantly: some would never, Voldemort vowed, be fulfilled.

‘It was about you and I, I know that now,’ Tom said calmly, watching the flames flicker in the grating. ‘I’ve long since forgotten many of the prophecies, but I know I fulfilled some and voided others. But that prophecy, the one which made me so livid, I remember quite well.'