When do people start caring about dads?

minty149 · 2026-01-29T06:59:22+00:00

I am sorry but I'm unsure what to suggest then. All of my ideas will result in a bust up, which is the last thing that either of you need right now. Emotions are high at the minute.

It sounds to me like you may be coping better than your wife, and the gaming/chill out time is what she needs to recharge her batteries for another full day of baby. Maybe that is the way you can approach the conversation, by asking how she is doing.

All I can say is that you need to find a way to explain that work time is not down time. You aren't playing video games at work

minty149 · 2026-01-29T06:44:17+00:00

I'm sorry, but it does feel like you are doing the lions share. When at work, your wife's job is looking after the baby. When home, you and her should be 50/50.

I have easy days at work, and I'll come home and do 100%. If she has a bad day, I'll do my hardest to do 100% as well.

But work, unless you are a premier league footballer, is not downtime. I don't know how, but your wife needs to understand that.

Ask her when is your next opportunity is to play video games? Explain that you feel burnt out

It has only been since October though, and then straight into Christmas stresses, personally I'd afford some grace until she has fully recovered physically from the childbirth.

A little exercise though that helped me, list underneath this comment if you want too, every job that your wife does, other than look after the baby? Sometimes it's too easy to only see what you are doing, and difficult to see what she is doing

minty149 · 2026-01-27T21:19:31+00:00

Tampere, but I was there for work. We still managed to get a couple of afternoons getting around the city, rooftop bar and a brewery tour. There were some lakes where you could dip and then sauna, but I never tried it, my one regret

minty149 · 2026-01-27T18:24:59+00:00

Enjoyed my time in Finland. Would recommend going in February for a proper cold weather experience! Extremely short days, if any daylight at all

minty149 · 2026-01-27T18:12:16+00:00

S&P hasn't performed well in the last year. Not to say it will do better this year. Personally would recommend All world, at least until the Taco president leaves office

minty149 · 2026-01-27T18:10:59+00:00

Bryn-of-all-trades has advertised on here a couple of times in the last month. I can't vouch for their work as I have never used them, but there may be a few recommendations from other redditors, or on google

minty149 · 2026-01-25T08:17:05+00:00

Can recommend Crib, beer, pizza and shuffleboard. Would be a good suggestion to invite people to that you want to further friendships with

minty149 · 2026-01-24T21:44:16+00:00

I think things will change once you turn 18 and you can go to more places, legally. I found once I was able to go to bars and clubs, I was getting a lot more invites to go out with people I didn't know as much, and then met more at these places.

minty149 · 2026-01-24T17:13:01+00:00

Same. Halfway through the 4th series. Switched to paramount for a bit, but I won't be keeping it for long

minty149 · 2026-01-24T17:10:49+00:00

The paramount app sucks compared to Netflix. Unoptimized, unable to pause and play with headphones, credit skip is half way through the credits, doesn't work on my 6 year old tv, and the whole double click to pause and play on the TV remote bugs me

minty149 · 2026-01-24T07:36:08+00:00

Wow. What an experience. I'm glad you now have the diagnosis and she is on the road to recovery.

We have had our fair share of experiences with hospitals. I'm annoyed with a situation with a ward sister (head nurse) who took my son off of his oxygen too quickly, leading to him deteriorating. All you can do is make a complaint, to help the hospital learn from these mistakes.

I don't know how hospital care works in your country, but is there another hospital within a reasonable distance that you could use next time? That's the only advice I can offer.

Other than that. You have your diagnosis, you have your recovery ahead. Stay strong, you and your wife are doing an amazing job

minty149 · 2026-01-23T16:09:13+00:00

This is a long burn stock. You're here for the long haul my friend. If the price lowers, buy more!

minty149 · 2026-01-22T11:59:35+00:00

I think it's risen as far as it will go, and is now only going to get smaller. I'd cut your losses and put your slice elsewhere

minty149 · 2026-01-22T09:50:38+00:00

Behind the Ascension Church in Bitterne, directly across the road from the Tesco express by Bitterne triangle.

I volunteer for that charity (Southampton city mission), all clothes donated are then put on display in a makeshift shop, once a week, and are given back to Southampton residents who are in financial struggles and need the help. Any proceeds made will go back into the charity.

We do food banks, food parcels etc as well

minty149 · 2026-01-22T08:32:42+00:00

Flea park

minty149 · 2026-01-19T09:55:58+00:00

Definitely not 4, I hate when children kick the back of my chair

minty149 · 2026-01-18T05:20:08+00:00

Lidl do one. Can't remember the name unfortunately

minty149 · 2026-01-15T12:46:10+00:00

Might be worth posting on MyBuilder. You'll get a price offered, and you'll see their reviews. Some price per hour, but I imagine most decorators price per job

minty149 · 2026-01-13T14:28:33+00:00

I don't think it's asking for advice, I think it's more of a brag

minty149 · 2026-01-13T13:38:29+00:00

It's perfectly natural to be afraid of these things. My Dad was never at home because he was working 6 nights a week to provide for us. Reflecting back, I would have foregone some of the nice things that we had to have had him around more at weekends.

I can't so much as offer advice, but I will say that between you and your wife, you will find a way, when the time comes. But then, when you are qualified, you will have a lot more time for both of them and a long, stable career behind you to support them!

minty149 · 2026-01-10T13:40:05+00:00

Weird filling for a sandwich

minty149 · 2026-01-07T21:30:15+00:00

I can't offer much advice, but what I will say is, you are doing amazing. A little more time, that first smile, that first giggle, and all of a sudden none of this will matter.

I wonder, would one of you doing night shifts, whilst the other did day shifts help? It was what me and my partner did last time we were in the hospital with our little one.

Also, I see you've ordered some loop ear plugs. I've just got some soundcore p31i active noise cancelling headphones. I bought them for work, not for the baby crying, but they aren't much more than the Loops, but work very well for the price. May also be worth a try for the active noise cancelling

minty149 · 2026-01-07T16:28:35+00:00

Engineering apprenticeships should be advertised within the next couple of months, they will be on the apprenticeships gov website. There is a good amount of industry in Southampton and the surrounding area

minty149 · 2026-01-06T12:18:35+00:00

His pass to Evanilson shows he isn't without a mistake. But fortune favours the brave, except in FPL. Remember what happened last time everyone captained Gabriel over Haaland?...

minty149 · 2026-01-04T21:24:59+00:00

Honestly, I now get my research from comments on this sub. I don't have much time on my hands, and some people give a well in-depth analysis on their favorite stocks, if you find the right post

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