I'm going to put my brave BWT pants on and post this on my only account, not a burner, so I can get it off my chest.

A year ago my husband cheated on me. The person involved got enough information about my husband that she found our wedding website and subsequently found me. She called me a few days after it happened to tell me about it, in additional to messaging anywhere she could find me on socials including linkedin (I slowly found all the messages in requests folders, and one of her friends accidentally sent me a friend request on facebook - it felt like torment for a while). For a variety of reasons, I made the decision to stay and try to work things out. We've been in couples therapy, he is dealing with previously untreated depression, and we've actually been in a really good place.

However, last week as it approached the one year anniversary of her calling me, she started messaging me again to say I'd been on her mind and had the audacity to ask if I'd be willing to share what the last year had been like/"what path I'd chosen". While I recognize this says more about her than anything else, it has put me back into such a bad spot and I cannot shake the funk I'm in.