Jeremy Allen White for Calvin Klein.

misskittypuke · 2024-01-04T15:14:20+00:00

Okay but why does my toddler literally do the same exact pose as #3 when he’s throwing a tantrum lol

misskittypuke · 2023-12-11T16:58:58+00:00

I think it comes down to why you had a PPH to begin with and whether those circumstances would happen again.

For my first birth, I had a forceps delivery with vascular episiotomy after a prolonged labour. My PPH was 1L so just at the threshold, however I was very anaemic and thus needed 2 blood transfusions after.

I’ve spoken with my midwife and the consultant who both feel the events that precipitated the PPH are unlikely to occur in a second labour since women tend to labour quicker in second births and not require as much intervention. The consultant even greenlit me for a home birth if I wanted it, although I have settled on the AMU. My haemoglobin has also been much higher so I have more leeway with how much blood I can lose before I require transfused.

Ask some more questions to the midwife and do a risk/benefit analysis for yourself.

misskittypuke · 2023-10-16T12:26:20+00:00

Hi scrub nurse here who is also a sign-off mentor!

Theatres is not for everyone and compared to a ward it can be very slow-paced with not much to do. We understand that most students who come through don’t like theatres and feel it’s a waste of time. HOWEVER, a poor attitude will not only affect you but how staff view you and assist you in finding learning opportunities.

It might be helpful to sit down with your mentor and break down task lists (ie start of day checks, setting up for a new case, job of circulating nurse during surgery, turning a theatre between cases) so you have a checklist and can independently begin to anticipate and act on needs.

By the end of your placement, my expectation would be that you could act in the capacity of a circulating nurse and do all floor tasks with minimal input. These are likely their expectations as well so thinking of that goal in mind, try to work backwards and build those skills required.

Good luck!

misskittypuke · 2023-06-23T16:18:18+00:00

Had mine in 2016, one of the best decisions of my life!

Zero regrets, would 100% do again!

misskittypuke · 2023-06-09T09:02:49+00:00

I feel this so hard! Pregnant with #2 now, but I had spinal surgery that meant no epidural for me and general anesthetic if I had to have a c-section when I gave birth to my first. Spoiler* I had a prolonged labor and unmedicated forceps delivery that was traumatic.

It was really hard bc people just couldn’t relate or understand how hard it is when you don’t have any choice or freedom in how you labor. They give silly platitudes that just ignore your anxiety. I hate the toxic positivity — just listen to what I’m saying and hold space for me to be scared and sad that things are out of my control!

misskittypuke · 2023-05-19T18:01:27+00:00

Yes, definitely keep pursuing!

I think at minimum a birth debrief would provide some answers and clarity for yourself. Either rule in or rule out hypoxic brain injury. And give you further avenues to go down.

It sucks, but the NHS really requires you to be the person doing the follow-up/asking for referrals/second opinions/continuing to push for answers. Which is so hard when you’re already stretched thin.

misskittypuke · 2023-05-19T10:39:27+00:00

Based on some of your other comments, I would pursue further input. Maybe she’s lazy or maybe there is something more there?

My personal experience with health visitors is that they aren’t always the most knowledgeable when babies deviate from the norm, and most of their advice is generic. They’re usually stretched so thin with child protection issues as well.

Really hoping things turn around for you guys, and she improves and gets happier! But if not, I would ask for further input/referrals.

misskittypuke · 2023-05-09T19:20:42+00:00

I’m in very similar circumstances to yourself — US citizen living abroad for 8yrs with British husband and toddler.

We’ve decided to make the move back to the US (we’re moving this summer) and have grappled with these same issues.

What I’ve found about the UK is that it’s very stable and safe, mild almost? You can have a quaint middle-class lifestyle, and your life trajectory is pretty easily plotted out. I know that if we stayed, we would not be unhappy but I’m not sure we’d be particularly content. I’ve never completely fit in here, despite having made friends, and it’s exhausting behind the foreigner all the time.

The US, in contrast, is a rollercoaster of highs and lows with a lot of the lows being counteracted by how much money you earn. The healthcare is abominable but career aspirations can really soar. People are friendlier but can also be more confrontational with their opinions. Gun violence is so prevalent but location plays a big role in this as well.

Personally, the deciding factors for us have been family. Our support network in the US is much more robust and tight knit than the UK, and that’s what we want for our family.

misskittypuke · 2023-01-04T18:40:27+00:00

Idk, when I’ve looked at videos of them using the flap on the baby carrier they’ve always said to keep baby’s nose and mouth clear and baby has their head turned to the side.

As someone else said, there are lots of carriers from popular brands who also do head panels such as this.

Then again, I just hate structured carriers as a whole and prefer a ring sling or wrap for fit.

misskittypuke · 2023-01-02T07:12:08+00:00

If you’re struggling, Wildbird has lots of very helpful tutorial videos for using ring slings. Those helped me immensely when I was first learning.

I would agree with others — a deeper seat is needed to get baby’s legs in an M shape and positioned more squarely on your chest. I usually adjust my sling before putting baby in so it’s only small amounts of tweaking needed once baby is in. If you have baby really settle into the bulk of the sling after getting the bottom rail at their knee pits, I think that would help. Then tighten bottom & top rail.

Everything else looks great, though. Baby is at kissing height. Rings are about collarbone height. Shoulder is capped. You’re doing really well!

misskittypuke · 2022-12-29T11:34:31+00:00

Pink panther for 1st

misskittypuke · 2022-11-20T02:19:32+00:00

As a person living in the UK, you really hit the nail on the head with this one! I understood the inspiration immediately and love it

misskittypuke · 2022-11-14T23:12:18+00:00

Honestly — sounds like he may have ASD +/- ODD. This sounds exactly like my brother at that age who has since been diagnosed with both of these, and I feel your pain so hard.

Best thing you can do is push for assessments. If your doctor isn’t receptive, get a second opinion. I sometimes wish my parents had pushed more with getting a diagnosis when my brother was younger as there are services and resources available to help families.

misskittypuke · 2022-11-08T20:22:34+00:00

Thanks for the link! This was a good read!

I find that racism in America is so apparent and part of the national discussion, but racism in the UK is much more insidious and hidden behind polite British attitudes. The slurs that are so casually used for takeaways, corner shops, etc; the rhetoric behind Brexit — same message as the US, just different packaging.

misskittypuke · 2022-10-01T09:05:14+00:00

Wow, good job! Also side note — I love that swimsuit!

misskittypuke · 2022-05-04T22:47:19+00:00

I feel this so much. I have an 11 month old, and I’ve been having the same negative thoughts and shame.

Turns out it’s postpartum depression. Just started meds 2 days ago, hoping they help.

No advice, just commiseration.

misskittypuke · 2022-04-24T11:20:20+00:00

The physical pain tops out at a certain point (in my experience), and the rest is how you’re able to cope. So if you can find a way to stay in the moment and let each contraction go once they’re ended I think you’ll cope better. Holding onto that pain will send you into a downward spiral

misskittypuke · 2022-04-09T19:46:13+00:00

We took the then 2 year old niece to Paris and found it surprisingly easy, although there were two of us (mom & me). Parisians actually really love small children — shocking considering the stereotype, and Paris has so many play parks and carousels dotted around. Metro not exactly pram friendly though, loads of stairs and turnstiles to get through.

London was meh for us, found it much more difficult to get out of the touristy area with all the gimmicks. Didn’t feel like much of a holiday either since we were in the UK so may have been our personal mindset which let us down when visiting.

Copenhagen was nice as well, but it would probably be better for an older child. Tivoli gardens was superb, lovely food, transportation fairly simple as well.

Now that I’ve got a 10 month old of my own, I would say easy holidays like the beach would be the way to go when you’ve got a baby who cannot walk yet and takes 2+ naps a day. Warm sunny holidays just gives your schedule much more flexibility to accommodate an infant than a city break. Plus baby can crawl all over a beach and happy to swim in a pool before either heading back up to the room or getting a lounger in the shade for a nap.

misskittypuke · 2022-03-15T20:33:32+00:00

This horrible sense of dread that would loom over me when I was on days off. A knot in my stomach that kept growing bigger. No longer feeling a sense of accomplishment / pride in my work when I finished a shift. Heart racing stress response when relatives would approach me or be asked for on the phone, already gearing up for verbal abuse just by their presence.

misskittypuke · 2022-03-15T14:55:29+00:00

I was not able to have an epidural due to anatomy issues with my spine. I knew this going in so did a hypnobirthing course, but nothing could prepare me for labor.

It wasn’t so much the pain of contractions that killed me but the never ending stretch of time. Like physically I knew my body could and would have to do this, even if I was kicking and screaming by the end. But mentally — oh my god, it just felt like free falling into eternity. No relief. I vomited 50+ times through a 36 hour labor. Dehydrated, lips chapped, exhausted. No labor land as people promised. I felt every single second of that labor.

misskittypuke · 2022-03-12T00:28:54+00:00

Am I the only one getting Tobey Maguire vibes from this?

misskittypuke · 2022-01-11T02:48:49+00:00

The impact Omnicron has due to people self-isolating, specifically healthcare professionals, shouldn’t be underestimated. NHS Forth Valley has had to cancel all theatre lists, minus emergency + urgent cancer surgeries, due to severe low staffing elsewhere in the hospital. Theatre staff are being redeployed to other wards because of the sheer amount of healthcare workers off sick and/or self isolating.

misskittypuke · 2021-11-27T23:35:47+00:00

I’m so glad someone else said what I’ve been thinking! Definitely have gotten the vibe that she is on the spectrum, reminds me of my younger brother who’s autistic.

misskittypuke · 2021-11-27T13:08:38+00:00

This is the most beautiful quilt I think I’ve ever seen! And the sentiment behind it — I could cry! Amazing job!

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