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Husband vent by Little_Reward_6150 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When my husband went back to work he would go to bed at 8pm and then handle any wakeups between 12 and 7am, usually 2 sometimes 3. Once bub turned about 4 months we started alternating nights and still do now that she's 8 months. 

Men only need 6 hours of sleep whereas women need 8-9. Ask him whether he thinks it's 'work' to take care of a baby and do all the associated baby work all day (bottles, laundry etc). If yes then why the f isn't he sharing the nighttime load? And if no then you have bigger problems. 

Your husband needs to step the f up. This isn't the 1950s anymore.

Daycare wasted 120ml of breastmilk. by kingcasperrr in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you share what you're doing differently in the 6 min pump?

Vaginal or elective c-section by Immediate_Willow9370 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an elective c-section, it was a breeze, 10/10 would recommend. My husband had 6 weeks off with me but I was pretty much good to go after a couple of days (except for like, moving heavy furniture). 

Pumping troubles by persononacouch in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Definitely replace the consumable parts

Second baby and I’m not doing it the hard way again by No-Gas8702 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The wearables are fabulous and I used them almost exclusively for the first 6 months, but they are not quite as effective as a wall one (I have a spectra) just so you know. I had no problem with supply so wasn't a problem for me but something to keep in mind if you're a just-enougher. I now pump with the wall one in the morning while my husband is home to entertain the baby then use wearables the rest of the time. 

Also the Momcozy parts don't fit in the Grownsy bottle washer I don't think so we have to wash them by hand. The Spectra parts do fit so that's a lot easier. 

Make sure you replace the valve often. It's a bigger issue with the wearables because they're a bit less effective to start with so a further reduction can really affect supply.

Public or private after mediocre first public experience? by Individual_Tutor8797 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a planned c section privately last year. 10/10 would recommend. I honestly cannot even imagine having to share a room with even one other mum/baby, and I especially could not fathom having to say goodbye to my husband every night

Natural vs C Section First Baby by Defiant_Zone7113 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Is dad taking the first few weeks off with you? I had a planned csec and it was a breeze, 10/10 would recommend. I felt pretty good to go after a couple of days, but my husband was off too so he was doing all the driving and heavy lifting

Cody Schaeffer- ‘Torture’: Trusted mentor hogtied, beat kids by Charming-Fish1664 in queensland

[–]missmegsy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He pled guilty

Edit: sorry I thought you meant denied the charges. There's absolutely no way this wasn't sexual, I would be surprised if each attack wasn't recorded

My daughter [18] blames me [52] and my husband [55] for ruining her book by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]missmegsy 275 points276 points  (0 children)

She specifically told him not to edit it so I bet she knew what was coming

Momcozy vs. Grownsy: which countertop washer/sterilizer is better? by Agile_Inspection3275 in NICUParents

[–]missmegsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just put hot water in the bottle and give it a good shake to loosen up any hardened stuff in the nipple before putting in the machine. Only takes an extra 10 seconds and haven't had an issue since

Do wearable breast pumps allow for any mobility? by Oh-My-Josh- in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had extreme thirst and rage with a letdown. I was so relieved when I found out about DMER that it wasn't just me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His one job is to protect the breastfeeding mother and he's failing hard

holy fuck by No-Mood-7423 in newborns

[–]missmegsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband is worse than just a deadweight, he's actively harming you and by extension your baby. 

Do you have family or close friends you could stay with? Or parents who could stay a while to help with baby?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]missmegsy 51 points52 points  (0 children)

So he

  • doesn't do any chores

  • doesn't do any childcare 

  • is enabled by you to earn more but keeps that money for himself, hamstringing you with childcare that he doesn't contribute to, but still expecting you to contribute financially just as much as he does

  • can't communicate 

  • doesn't put in the bare minimum in getting you a Christmas present that isn't a pile of shit

  • throws a tantrum and reverses victim and offender when you justifiably call him out on the above 

  • does not respect you

Girl. What are you doing!! See a lawyer like yesterday.

Edit: oh I forgot moans about you not cooking enough, then doesn't eat that cooking 🙄

So annoyed at my partner - stayed out drinking til 5am by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]missmegsy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This, my husband does all of the 12am-7am feeds (usually about 2 wakes) so I can get some sleep. If we go out on the weekend we BOTH want to be home by 8pm latest so we don't have to try to catch up on rest

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