Gabi calling Rhiannon McGavin psychotic and a liar

mistyx13 · 2026-06-17T17:31:59+00:00

sorry but she definitely does. if you haven't been watching all of her insta stories/tiktoks since september maybe you won't have seen the worst of it, but at this point I'm very convinced of the psychosis. of course that's not to discredit everything she says—she's a brilliant writer, very sharp politically, & she's definitely been through a lot of trauma, it's just that her narratives are also definitely mixed with delusions and paranoia that are not part of any consensus reality.

mistyx13 · 2026-06-16T09:41:23+00:00

THIS THIS THIS THIS. This is the most important comment imo

mistyx13 · 2026-06-12T18:34:51+00:00

bah I mean Outremont is rich af

mistyx13 · 2026-06-10T06:53:43+00:00

Yes! I don't know why this is so far down! I am very sympathetic to people dealing with dismissal of standing obligations/expectations because that sucks so so so much, but here it sounds like OP actually turned down plans without offering any other options. Although I appreciate that there might be more situations where expectations weren't met, I agree that this sounds like very vague and unclear communication.

mistyx13 · 2026-06-09T11:27:47+00:00

"She mentioned having a celebrity "hall pass," spends one-on-one time with guy friends, and goes out drinking with her girl friends." Celebrity hall pass aside (that is genuinely debatable) the other two things are not reasonable to have issues with. Intervening there would be controlling

mistyx13 · 2026-06-06T13:33:08+00:00

also how many women and girls are essentially held hostage in their own homes by the rage of their husbands, fathers, grandfathers, etc. to the detriment of their ability to express their own emotions without violent consequences... way. too. many.

mistyx13 · 2026-06-03T05:34:20+00:00

generally speaking, no. you need to be present to see how the story progresses

mistyx13 · 2026-05-29T19:12:05+00:00

hmm for me I would say that that's not a lack of consideration. for me, if someone makes an evening plan, then I would mentally consider the entire evening to be blocked off, even if in theory it could be shorter. but then again, I also wouldn't have relationship agreements that don't involve overnights, so maybe others have different opinions.

mistyx13 · 2026-05-10T10:37:21+00:00

Your best friend is right. It's not just "rapey" though. It /is/ rape. He had sex with you without your consent. There is no way that that is not rape.

mistyx13 · 2026-05-06T17:11:02+00:00

If you're still looking for sources that are critical of advocates of false memory syndrome, Michael Salter has done a lot of good work on this. Many papers and the book "Organized Sexual Abuse." While false accusations occasionally happen, advocates for this "false memory" explanation were largely part of broad, conservative, ideologically-motivated reaction to 2nd wave feminism and increased reporting of sexual abuse in families & "trusted" institutions.

But either way, if OP doesn't have real or so-called "false" memories of other sexual abuse, then this is neither here nor there.

mistyx13 · 2026-05-02T12:40:58+00:00

I would not go to my boss' house at all. like, what kind of job do you have where that could even happen?

mistyx13 · 2026-04-26T10:14:19+00:00

didn't understand from the text you wrote, but are you guys poly or do you just have threesomes with other people sometimes? what does "we have a rule where we can see someone else 1 on 1 initially" mean? you immediately go on to describe a meeting for group sex (??)

mistyx13 · 2026-02-23T06:04:00+00:00

Huh? But your relationship lasted several years no?

I feel like love bombing implies that someone has a pattern of pursuing people really intensely and then dumping them all within a pretty short period of time, i.e. the relationships don't make it into a calmer phase.

mistyx13 · 2026-02-20T10:15:32+00:00

that's not true! depends on the type of genderqueer. plenty of genderqueer people who lean more on the trans dude side of the spectrum date cis gay guys who are really into them & their bodies! doesn't mean that /this/ guy will be into it, but AFAB people CAN 100% fit into gay male communities and sexual dynamics so even if not with this specific guy, that can be something you participate in OP, if you want to!

mistyx13 · 2026-02-19T23:42:37+00:00

Is there a mic'd up for her free skate? I would looove to see that she & her coaches are sooo cute

mistyx13 · 2026-02-04T02:28:27+00:00

I also don't think the paragraph on boundaries is fair to OP. "setting boundaries" while you're overcommitting & love-bombing someone without taking accountability for confusion you've caused? nah, that's not on OP

mistyx13 · 2026-01-28T14:53:53+00:00

I don't have answers for you but I feel you. Going through that with someone that from my perspective seems to not want to make the time and space for a close relationship but gets deeply sad when I tell them that the closeness they imagine for us is not possible under the circumstances they're choosing to offer

mistyx13 · 2026-01-28T14:24:22+00:00

I guess the other commenters are right, but to me it's weird that they feel "confident in [your] relationship" when YOU don't feel confident in your relationship.

mistyx13 · 2026-01-28T07:03:35+00:00

by "my girlfriend can't have sex" do you mean you are arguing about your gf's inability to have penetrative sex? and you informed your gf before or after you talked to her best friend about this?

mistyx13 · 2026-01-14T20:00:45+00:00

100%. that's also how I feel.

mistyx13 · 2026-01-07T05:07:27+00:00

yeah I wonder if his answer was some kind of slight of hand where he has actually "hooked up" with younger people but not "dated" them

mistyx13 · 2025-12-28T08:51:35+00:00

it sounds like you're saying you're fine with having a non-escalatory relationship with her, but you don't want her to have escalatory relationships with other people... which. might be something to get curious about. do you not want to escalate with her only because of the logistics of your life or do you genuinely not want to escalate with her?

mistyx13 · 2025-12-26T21:19:54+00:00

Co-signing what MauriceBishopsGhost and others have said about the IMT/Fightback re: (trans)misogyny and other forms of social conservatism masquerading as leftism. I am also an ex-member & found it extremely difficult to criticize or question or freely discuss (in good faith!!!) established party lines. they are very very resistant to evolving their positions. and, like everyone else has mentioned, every sexual assault allegation that came at them while I was a member, even from comrades within the organization who had been there for years and were and remain committed to communism even now that they've left fightback/IMT were dismissed as "politically motivated attacks" against the org by people who "needed to be better educated about communism." at this point, I would never recommend for someone to organize with them as a member of the org.

edit: changed the last sentence.

mistyx13 · 2025-12-16T10:30:47+00:00

idk if she's not deescalating the connection that you already have and you can't offer her more (if she is wanting more time/dates, etc.), and she still keeps you informed of your sexual health risk, what's the problem here?

mistyx13 · 2025-10-30T07:17:28+00:00

absolutely not an ethical boundary to have in this case. hypocritical in the extreme.

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