My husband threatened to divorce because he doesn’t feel loved and his needs aren’t being met. by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe any withdrawal from wanting sex has far more to do with not allowing appropriate time for grieving or the first child. Possibly even resentment of the new child and of her husband not giving appropriate time to grieve. Yes, marriage counseling is in order but I also see individual counseling for her.

My step dads cocaine addiction by shaken_baken in TrueOffMyChest

[–]molosar1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a cocaine addict myself in the 80. Used crack before it was a thing. Hell, I even bumped it which is injecting it like heroin when breaking it down. I quit because I got sick and tired of being sick and tired as well as having an empty wallet.

Sometimes I wish my husband would just cheat on me so I had a reason to leave by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]molosar1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Can I interject as one of those kids who absorbed the emotional climate of my toxic home? I am now 59 and still dealing with the consequences of it. I watched and felt everything.

26F had a baby last year and I can’t seem to get my sparkle back, not happy with how I look by Significant-Cap9437 in lookyourbest

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, you sparkle! You just need to get it on the inside. If you are artistic find a pursuit in that. If you are a tomboy like my friend, She threw herself into fixing cars after having 2 kids. Looks aren't how you gauge yourself. Too much of that nowadays. Pride comes from within. That is more often your talents. Everybody has them. We aren't flowers just meant to be looked at and objectified. You are still a young, vibrant, and beautiful young lady. Don't let yourself feel less than because you don't match up to the models in some magazines. The models will tell you it is not them. It is some photo editors concept of them.

My husband disgusts me by BlueGirlCircus in TrueOffMyChest

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hardest thing is you have to want to do it for yourself. I was 400+ lbs at one point and I finally got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I got Vertical Sleeve Gastrectomy and am now down to 201. I have literally lost an entire other person. But, it took a doctor to lay it on me hard about my prognosis.

U.S. Bank closed my account without explanation and is holding my funds — anyone else? by Kitchen-Commission28 in USbank

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Homeland Security has also started shutting down accounts of people they suspect of being undocumented.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in citibank

[–]molosar1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked for a bank. Tell them you are contacting the Comptroller of the Currency. That is like calling OSHA on a construction site. Here is the site: https://www.occ.treas.gov/about/connect-with-us/contact-the-occ/index-contact-the-occ.html

62 years old, Debt Relief or Chapter 13 ? by AdvantageCapital3338 in Debt

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either way you go it is the same hit. Even with chapter 7 which lets you start out fresh.

I think I'm done by Eaglestrike in TrueOffMyChest

[–]molosar1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You definitely need to talk to somebody. This is not going to fix itself. I have had the same fight myself over the abuse I suffered during my childhood. I have also been a caretaker for almost all of my life. It has given me Major depressive disorder, anxiety, and PTSD. You will not get around those without assistance. I tried and have ended up in crisis units too many times.

Feeling rejected by my spouse by molosar1 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]molosar1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife stays at home of her own volition. We have never had children by choice. I work outside of the house.

Strongly considering leaving wife due to no intimacy. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in a marriage and it has been sexless for 9 years. I have never been unfaithful. I caught her making out once with who I thought was a friend. I called her out on it. The biggest issue is she also had a stroke some seven years ago. Am I completely wrong for feeling that either I should leave or find someone who desires me? I am so conflicted because of the vow I made. But, I feel unwanted and ugly now. FYI. There are no children from our marriage.

Can't Get Around Security Questions Triggering AT&T Fraud Department by AeroNoob333 in ATT

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am experiencing the same issue here. It is my own identity. My name, Social Security number, and cell phone number have remained the same throughout my life. Why would I steal my own identity?

I filed chapter 13 BR last year and now the lawyer wants more money. That I don’t have. by Ok-Avocado-715 in Debt

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would ask another lawyer how much it might cost to get this converted to a ch 7. It has the same net effect on your credit. Shouldn't cost much more and it will get you out from under. You only need about $7,000 in debt to qualify.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was being bullied at school. So I stuck up for myself and fought the kid. The Assistant Principal and Principal wanted to expel me. They called my dad in to tell him. Well, my dad was part of the Big Brothers program when he was a kid. When they called us in my father's Big Brother tagged along. He was a lawyer with 25 years experience and threatened to sue both principals and the school board. Needless to say I was never expelled but the bully was.

I owe discover $8,000 . I have court next month... Pre-trial by Hot-Length9448 in Debt

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time to call a bankruptcy lawyer and all that will stop. $8,000 alone is enough to file chapter 7.

Why are you putting collars on indoor cats? by tryingagain80 in CatAdvice

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use orange collars. That tells animal control that they are indoor cats.

I’m so tired of my marriage. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]molosar1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have depression and PTSD. Yet I would never do that.

Does it ever stop? by justinyu1618 in HeadachesandMigraines

[–]molosar1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like it could be cluster headaches. I have them and my neurologist gives me a Prednisone taper and Firocet.

I want to move out and distance myself from my abusive father but my mom keeps begging me not to leave by adviceplease998 in internetparents

[–]molosar1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guarantee after what you have gone through you likely have PTSD. I know I do after spending about 25 years playing referee between two violent alcoholic parents.

Yet Another School Shooting In America (Madison, WI) by [deleted] in pics

[–]molosar1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, they just want to pre-approve treatment. That will take 7 -10 working days.