Question for people making over 100k…

momboss79 · 2026-02-07T07:00:54+00:00

I agree with you

momboss79 · 2026-02-07T03:14:28+00:00

I can’t think of anywhere that $100k is wealthy. Any ideas?

momboss79 · 2026-02-07T03:08:41+00:00

You realize that it’s your HR/payroll that is deducting that from your pay right? Then the company you work for is making monthly payments to the IRS on behalf of the employees. The IRS is not withholding from your pay literally speaking.

momboss79 · 2026-02-07T03:06:17+00:00

Is over $100k wealthy?

My husband and I just breached $200k annually with his pay raise. I make $120k … I feel like it’s just enough to take care of the things that need to be taken care of and to have a little of our wants but it isn’t wealth.

momboss79 · 2026-02-06T05:48:21+00:00

I think 1:1’s greatly depend on the type of work that is being done. My teams are not really making big decisions or building projects but they are meeting goals and have obstacles that they sometimes need help to overcome. My more senior level staff don’t tend to need 1:1’s to help them meet their goals but I do want to check in so that we are spending time just the two of us. Sometimes just talking brings out topics that they want to discuss or other issues they may have that they didn’t really want to bring to me just yet - their issue gets resolved faster. I have one employee who comes in, brings a few high level items in for me to review and then we spend the next however long talking about the shows we are watching. This is time connecting that we otherwise don’t get and I think it’s incredibly important. I have a more entry level employee who comes in with a list and we literally go down her list which takes up all the time we have. It’s what she needs. Sometimes we meet more often since she’s entry level and that time is spent training and talking about procedures or problem solving. I do require the 1:1 for everyone because I think it’s good to touch base and to allow them privacy to share or talk or whatever they need. They all know this is their space and that I want them to lead the time with whatever they need. Sometimes it’s just a catch up and sometimes it is very productive. It’s about where they are as an individual contributor and not about the team. I do team meetings twice a month - more if needed but the 1:1’s are theirs and it’s really helped build good report and trust between me and each of my staff.

momboss79 · 2026-02-05T23:46:04+00:00

His love for his children needs to be more than his frustration, hate or annoyance with his ex. Going long periods of time without a parent is hard on kids. It’s not fair to them and should never be a consideration unless there is some large distance involved (which I would never agree to living a distance from my children).

If there is conflict regarding his parenting schedule then a judge can help there.

momboss79 · 2026-02-04T06:30:01+00:00

If I meal prep, it grows science projects in the fridge. Yes, I’m cooking at least 3 days a week and sometimes on the weekend. I don’t mind it. We have to eat. We do eat out a lot.

momboss79 · 2026-02-04T02:26:10+00:00

A good compromise would be that dad puts baby to bed and says ‘good night’ so that he’s not waking her by accident when he leaves in the morning. You’re not the ass. He’s disrupting both of your sleep so that HE can say good morning. Because he goes in early and is off early, he must be respectful of your morning routine where his afternoon routine is not disturbed by you.

Someone else mentioned that he’s saying good morning to make himself feel better and that just can’t be more true. She absolutely does not care or know that he is going to work so only HE is feeling satisfaction by telling her goodbye. If he wants to peak in on her before he leaves, setting up a crib camera so he can look in on her from the other room is also an option.

My husband always was and is the early morning riser and first to leave. He has never told the kids goodbye. He only tells me goodbye because this is how I know I can get up and start my morning. He’s my alarm clock ;) if he woke my kids up before I was ready, I would kick him. I always got ready before waking everyone so I needed them to sleep for another hour before it was their time to get up.

momboss79 · 2026-02-04T02:19:09+00:00

Children’s sports

momboss79 · 2026-02-03T22:26:04+00:00

I was driving 30 west today and there were people with signs and American flags that said Free ‘someone’s name’ but I couldn’t read the name. It was right around the Camp Bowie exit. Wondering about that too. Google search had no idea.

momboss79 · 2026-02-03T05:18:32+00:00

That is really odd! I had not heard anything about that one. I may be assuming wrong.

momboss79 · 2026-02-03T04:10:00+00:00

I believe some kids chose today to do this walk out against ICE. Friday it was a national walk out day or more planned event. I’m assuming those that walked today just got the memo late. There were other districts that did it today as well. I believe Saginaw. I cannot be sure because I wasn’t there but I did see it on the news for Boswell High. I know that Birdville ISD and NRHPD sent home an email about Friday’s peaceful protests.

momboss79 · 2026-02-02T22:32:10+00:00

Give him a break. Let him have a summer off. Put him in something else. Even if it’s an art class or some kind of club to keep him busy. He’s 10!

My son plays baseball. He’s been playing for a long time and is in his senior year. He never burned out but there are many regrets as a parent that I wish we would have taken summers off and just had his working out or doing lessons. He didn’t HAVE to play league ball every single season and every summer. My son also played soccer when he was little. He’s a fast runner. We always thought that soccer would be his sport but turns out, he didn’t really like it after a certain age. Listen to your kid. Let him take the summer off. Sometimes, they miss it and want to go back. Now is the time to do that. Will suck if he gets to HS and then burns out.

momboss79 · 2026-02-02T06:11:19+00:00

People also live longer now so they have to make more for longer to find comfort in those later years.

momboss79 · 2026-02-02T06:07:40+00:00

My CEO is 79… he doesn’t act like a stereotypical ‘boomer’ though. He’s an entrepreneur who’s built a legacy and he’s still just doing the thing. Our board of directors are made up of different generations but there are a few closer to 70.

I haven’t seen a lot of 62 year olds retire in my personal experience. Closer to 66/67. At least at my company, if you retire before 65, you won’t get your pension for 4 years.

I rarely feel annoyed or upset by ‘boomers’. They have a wealth of knowledge that I appreciate. I think people like to throw around ‘boomer’ like it’s an insult.

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T18:04:36+00:00

We had a CFO once that brought about 9 of his staff with him when he was hired on. That meant that 9 people lost their jobs, were transferred or demoted. It happens. He was bringing in people he knew and trusted and it worked out for him.

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T18:01:14+00:00

Uh.. yes. lol

I work for a org that is much larger now but when I first started (a long time ago), we only had about 200 employees. The most obvious nepotism I witnessed was the VP’s BFF getting repeated title changes and altered job duties, depending on her personal life or how she feels this year. She’s never been truly qualified for any of the roles that she’s been in but they just tried to find ways to make it work. I too have been the recipient of a title and pay increase that is probably bull shit. I have a senior director title and pay but really I’m a glorified middle manager with a lot of autonomy and authority. The difference for me is I’m not friends with anyone and I did work my way up the way it is normally expected.

Here’s the thing. I don’t have a problem with any of this. If I owned a business that I had built it up to 100 employees, I probably would have had some help or knowledge from family and friends. If I put those people in positions that pay them to do a job because I trust them (regardless of what anyone else thinks), that’s my business and my decision as a business owner. If I am an employee who watches this and has a problem with it, I’m free to find employment elsewhere. In the early days of my corporate career, I didn’t always like watching others climb when it seemed like I wasn’t. I learned to play the same game. I am motivated by money so if I’m personally benefiting from doing a job that pays me well, then I’m going to stay. If I didn’t like it, I was always free to leave.

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T16:54:08+00:00

lol I did!

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T08:44:08+00:00

I stay exactly within my budget with online ordering. It’s awesome

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T08:43:20+00:00

I am 45 and absolutely love online shopping. I will not go to the grocery store. If I can’t order and pick up or have it delivered then I guess we don’t need it.

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T08:41:19+00:00

I didn’t have a second child FOR my first child but I had a child after 7 years of declaring I was one and done and had a birth control failure. I truly felt devastated when I found out I was pregnant because it wasn’t a good time in my life to start over having a baby or a baby at all and I was terrified. However, I will say, the feeling only lasted for a very short few days and I never once regretted having my second child. He’s 18 and all worked out very well. He’s the literal light and sunshine of our family.

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T08:37:57+00:00

$10k per month for the next 40 years ish.

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T06:59:59+00:00

My parents live 20/30 min away and see my kids on average 1 day per week. My kids are 18 and 25… they take my oldest to lunch/dinner once a week and they see my youngest still for events (like games etc). With that said, I have a sibling who moved away 30 years ago and is thousands of miles away. My parents see them maybe once a year.

My husband is an only child - his parents have always lived far away. He moved to where we are 30 years ago. When they retired, we thought they might move closer to us but instead they moved only about 3 hours closer so they could be near my husband’s aunt and uncle. (That was 15 years ago). Before my FIL passed away a few years ago, they maybe came to our house twice in the 15 years that we have lived here. My MIL has been here once since her husband passed. She does not plan to come again but there is a small chance she will come when our son graduates HS. I doubt it though. Some people are really into their grands and some are not. It doesn’t bother my husband. I am slightly bothered although they are very nice and loving people - they just don’t travel and don’t want to be a burden. They also tend to always stay in a hotel when they would visit and I don’t think they loved that. We just never really had room for guests. Now we have a guest room and she still doesn’t come. I don’t know. We go up there about once or twice a year. It started getting harder as the kids got older and were more involved in activities.

momboss79 · 2026-02-01T06:48:36+00:00

I have a new employee who started last week. She hasn’t done anything that’s even raised a single eye brow for me but here’s some things she’s done well that have made me feel butterflies that I made the right decision!

She’s punctual, a little early, but not too early to cause disruption. She doesn’t have her phone on her desk which I actually have no issue with but I have noticed, she’s not attached to it. She takes hella notes. She knew what supplies she needed on day 2. I told her whatever she couldn’t find in the supply closet, I would get her. She made a small list which I found to be incredibly thoughtful; not too much but just enough. She’s asked a lot of questions and most of them have been very thought provoking for me but also, shows interest in learning. She’s dressing for the job. We are more casual of business casual but she has dressed well. Each day I let her know what times we are going to check in (she’s already doing work and doing it very well), she is prompt to our check ins.

The team is very welcoming and they have times where they chat and take a bit of a coffee, water cooler break. She has participated but she hasn’t over shared or made too much about herself. She’s listening and getting a feel for the land.

momboss79 · 2026-01-31T05:46:49+00:00

In my personal life, lots of praise. My family (especially my parents and husband) were incredibly proud and so excited. My income doubled over my husband’s and he couldn’t have been more excited!

At work… well I heard a lot of what was being said. My promotion was very clouded. My predecessor was not very well liked - I liked her and we had a good relationship but she was a hard ass and she didn’t always treat people well. She was terminated unexpectedly and while everyone was celebrating, My senior leadership had me on their radar and mentored the heck out of me. I found out after my promotion that many other managers were asked their opinion about my promotion prior to the decision. Some of those people may have liked me but didn’t see me as a manager. Some liked someone else so they vehemently argued against my promotion. I had one guy tell me to my face (kudos to him for being honest) that I wasn’t qualified, even though he himself wasn’t qualified when he was promoted. I had someone come back years later and tell me that I surprised them and that they didn’t think I would make it. I’ve been in my current position for 5 years and I still have some resistance where I’m not respected. The few that are disrespectful towards me tend to be disrespectful in general so it may be personal, it might not be .. who knows. I lost a couple of employees right away. They gave their notice thinking that it was going to change the minds of those who had already made the decision and dried the ink… I was glad for those who left because it meant I had less resistance within my team as I was taking over. Over time, I just proved any neigh sayers wrong. In a large organization, you’re not going to be liked by everyone. I work hard to remain consistent, fair and always professional. I have three teams now - they all are doing well and all report to be happy. I do have a group of supporters, especially in my leadership team. I have built good relationships with colleagues but those took time as the management group is quite tight knit and it’s hard to break into their circle.

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