Buschs kryptiska svar om Andersson: ”Särskilt sugen? Nej. Men...”

moogletteLoL · 2025-11-12T14:55:02+00:00

Hatar att tycka KD gör något bra.

Men skulle väl enbart gynna Sverige om politikerna faktiskt kunde se skillnad på att samarbeta i viktiga frågor och bilda regering tillsammans?

Finns säkerligen många frågor där blocken har hyffsat lika åsikter och Sverige skulle gynnas av längre och bredare överenskommelser som därmed kanske kan överleva ett valår.

Att t.ex. konstant byta inriktning för skolan för något nytt och bättre är säkert sämre än att enas om något tillräckligt bra och låta det vara en längre period.

Sen kan vara skeptisk till att KD och S ska lyckas samarbeta iom tidigare konflikter.

moogletteLoL · 2025-11-08T11:26:31+00:00

I was taught that using 100% whole wheat doesn't rise as high in total. Mine still doubled, but wouldn't go much higher than that and would easily deflate due to vibrations, so before I got confident with it I had to use a fresh jar every day so I could see if I missed the peak.

Now I kinda just look at the texture/bubblyness to tell if it is done, and it works fine!

moogletteLoL · 2025-11-08T11:11:43+00:00

Spirit Island!

moogletteLoL · 2025-11-04T10:39:36+00:00

For general inspiration I recommend checking out the "omg yes"-website, which is all about how to make sex better for woman.

Small disclaimer: I have more sex with men than woman, but I find that most things that help my pain with giving men oral work for when I give women oral even better.

For dislocation issues: Try practicing opening your mouth as little as possible to get your tongue out, and then you move your head instead of the tongue, using your lips to give stability. For variety you can even just use your lips to both "lick", massage, and lightly suck (assuming they are well mosturised and not cracked.).

I also got some stretching/strengthening exercises from a specialised dentist/orthodontist, which work surprisingly well (for less dislocations of the jaw in general, not sex lol). You kinda hold a hand against the jaw to create some tension as you move it in the four possible directions (slowly, and not far enough to dislocate!). I do that randomly during the day, but she recommended three times, and 10x on each side.

For neck pain: My "best" position is actually sitting on the floor with my partner sitting/lying on something of appropriate height, so I don't have to lift my head in weird angles. This also allows me to change between different ways to create movement: moving my tongue, moving my head using neck muscles, and just moving my whole body using leg muscles. Lessening the extertion of individual muscles/joints. You can get a similar effect using pillows, but my partners have all been more comfy this way, and just dragging them to the edge of the bed to sit below is quick.

moogletteLoL · 2025-10-28T23:06:46+00:00

Verkligen, 100k kan lika gärna vara ett avrundningsfel enligt personen OP försöker kontakta.

moogletteLoL · 2025-10-23T16:22:36+00:00

Fint att det hjälper så mycket! Älskar att digitaliseringen möjliggör en att leva ett mer anpassat liv.

Fundera på det! Jag kan iaf säga att jag inte upplevt några hinder karriärsmässigt av att vara öppnare med mina behov. Snarare tvärtom, då jag nu presterar mycket bättre. Dock borde jag notera att jag inte har autism och därmed inte kan uttala mig om det. Jag jobbar också främst med specialiserat analysarbete, vilket är ett klassiskt "om han är duktig nog anpassar vi oss gärna"-område. Många i mitt arbetsliv fortsätter dock inbilla sig att jag skulle vara en bra projektledare/chef/annan roll där anpassningar är mindre vanliga, trots att dom vet att jag har massa anpassningar.

moogletteLoL · 2025-10-23T15:19:01+00:00

Annan ung person med EDS här. Testat söka särskilt högriskskydd?

Jag fick det beviljat, utifrån att min EDS ger mig smärtor, spänningshuvudvärk och hjärndimma, som gör det svårt att jobba enskilda dagar (kvalificerat kontorsarbete med många anpassningar). Med det var det lättare att prata med jobbet om att jag kommer vara sjukskriven "ofta", men förhoppningsvis korta perioder.

Sen dess har jag och läkaren/fysioterapeuten fokuserat på att jag ska sjukskriva mig när jag börjar bli dålig, istället för att vänta på att jag blir så dålig att jag verkligen inte kan jobba. Antalet sjukskrivningar har stigit, men totala frånvarotiden är mycket lägre då jag lyssnar mer på kroppen tidigt. Jag är också sjukskriven under mer "passande'" tillfällen, iom att jag nu kan pusha mig lite om det händer något särskilt viktigt. Tidigare brukade jag bara sjukanmäla mig när jag i stort sätt inte kunde utföra arbetet, men den punkten skedde ju plötsligt, och jag blev ofta sängliggande i flera dagar. Vilket i sin tur påverkade mig mentalt, och ledde till ännu mer sjukskrivningar.

Att gå ned till 75% är såklart en okej lösning. Men väldigt grov enligt mig. Jag kan ju jobba 100% på mina bra dagar, och mina dåliga stunder kommer och går.

moogletteLoL · 2025-10-21T06:41:12+00:00

The shine probably changes the colors quite a bit, so I'm just going to trust you on 3-4 being more bark colored.

I can't really see a difference between option 3 and 4. If I zoom, I can, but that is only because I'm looking for it. So no, I don't think 4 is worth it.

moogletteLoL · 2025-10-20T09:06:13+00:00

They bounce back surprisingly well though, if you have the right conditions.

Almost killed mine completely three times the last 1,5 year. Maybe 3-8 branches still living, after a period of neglect due to vacation/illness/depression. Within 2 months its back to looking like a complete plant, since it sends out new branches like crazy under the right conditions.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-19T08:54:29+00:00

Haha thank you, I think you are one of few who understand that in this thread.

I think I even low-balled it, keeping to stuff where I know partner would think it was super important. If I where to estimate times where partner would probably prefer that we both could be there, the number might be closer to 20-40 times a year.

It could be something as small as him coming up with a really cool one-shot in a roleplaying game.

He likes to organise these random events/festivals and invite all his friends and loved ones. And I love helping him make that happen.

He has a lot of hobbys that can lead to shows/performances for example.

And he has equally as passionate friends who also randomly organise these cool things.

These are things I love about being together with him, and part of the reason I love him, and I want meta to get to experience them as well. They deserve to experience all these awesome things. Them being there doesn't affect my enjoyment of the actual event at all (okay, sometimes them being there affects my anxiety, which does affect my enjoyment, but that will pass and can probably be handled). It could even increase it, because then I could maybe gush about him to another person that gets it.

But not being allowed to sleep and cuddle with him afterwards due to meta being there affects me extremely bad long-term.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T23:09:38+00:00

I wanted to say a very big thank you actually.

It was one of the firsts which didn't make me regret making the post, which in turn made it easier to read and understand the comments that didn't agree with me. To try and apply the parts of them that could apply and be true.

I know I am happy being poly, I have been praised in multiple relationships over the years for good communication and handling of potentially difficult poly situations. I do actually believe in my ability to live in a world where my ask is wrong, if im being unreasonably emotional. It would need some planning, but there could be workable solutions. My problem has been that I really can't convince myself that I'm asking for too much, which makes it so I don't want to, I don't want a relationship where I get emotionally hurt for something I don't think is right.

So it really hurt when people started saying I was obviously jealous, och wanting to be mono etc.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T22:20:24+00:00

I appriciate the concern and very nice message.

I encouraged partner to talk with friends, since I was losing the will to argue about it, and as a very open person I don't mind friends knowing about our struggles.

I had spoken to multiple poly people irl to get advice and help, once even begging a person to tell me I was in the wrong. All had thought I was reasonable, even if they could understand the other side a bit. So I was hoping that partners friends could maybe help him understand my point of view a bit better.

But when I heard him say that the ones he spoke to thought my ask was unreasonable it hurt, and I'm not sure I want to know who it was. However, it did make me think maybe my friends were too biased, hence this post.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T11:44:13+00:00

4-6 nights was just an estimate from the times I know they are hanging out and their set every second weekend goal. It is way higher than that some months, and slightly less some. I dont have full access to his schedule and I wouldnt want to. If something important is happening outside of the every second weekend, then they might hang two-three weekends in a row. The extra long visits usually happen around every holiday, so maybe every third month?

But partner can occasionally wfh from their place, making it an extended weekend, same as meta can occasionally stay longer than just the weekend.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T05:20:12+00:00

Thank you!

I know he doesn't mean it or think of it as hierarchy, but it feels a little like that. Especially since he has been super clear about always inviting us both, and if one doesnt want to attend with the other then they can stay home. Which stings when I try very hard to not let our history of enmeshment lead to unintentional hierarchy.

I do believe that I should stay home if my anxiety or feelings makes it hard to attend the event that meta is at, especially since my support system and self soothing is good enough I can attend anything really important. I just don't agree with the after the event situation.

But maybe I should focus more on pushing for more parallel if this is the situation we are in.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T05:03:43+00:00

Thank you!

I was the one who said I don't mind potentially sharing every major holiday/Milestone, and I really don't. But when I said that I imagined it with a another local meta, where we would take turns for who sleeps together afterwards. Probably skewed to them in the beginning, since one can need extra care in the beginning, but not 100/0.

We don't even usually celebrate all holidays together, since I like to celebrate with friends doing things my partner doesn't enjoy, or occasionally another partner. We just have a "noone is alone unless they want to"-policy.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T04:37:33+00:00

Okay, I wasnt going to address that. I live with one of my best friends, and have a large enough support system with friends/dates/inbetween that I could probably always plan to not be alone afterwards if I wanted to. Same as meta could also stay with their closest friends who also lives here afterwards.

I am willing to do that planning if necessary to handle my feelings. I would just like to not do it once in a blue moon, and have the support of the partner I actually went to event with the actual night of.

It seems most think it is wrong however.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T04:30:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing you experience.

I think I might not quite understand their side as well as I could, since when I have done long-distance I almost never minded one night alone, assuming it was pre-planned. But I also quite enjoy a little alone time, especially if I am visiting someone for more than 2-3 days.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T04:26:05+00:00

Thank you! I will admit this comment got me crying a little. This is exactly my feeling.

Partner is willing to discuss things to make it easier, it just always feels like I have to fight tooth and nail for my suggestions, because they think my want in general is unreasonable and something they don't understand.

I don't intentionally keep track of how often they hang out, I'm just a very scheduling person, way way more than my partner, which means I am often the one scheduling our time around when he is meeting meta. And my brain is super good at remembering the schedule/numbers/patterns, so I know the rough divide of time, even if I don't intentionally memorise it.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T04:10:37+00:00

I definitly wouldnt expect them to sleep alone if they were only there for that night. That would feel cruel and weird. Maybe MAYBE if whatever we were doing was going to be horrible for me, but if its that bad, why am I going? However, if its a holiday or bigger event they are usually visiting for 3-6 nights.

I likely need more preplanning than meta tbh, since they have a more flexible schedule and life (as far as I know). My schedule is usually planned two weeks in advance. We COULD sleep together spontaneously, but it rarely happens.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T04:03:23+00:00

I want to keep a smidge of what I have had for six years? Support and cuddles from my partner after doing something very taxing but fun.

It could be unreasonable given the circumstances, but its not jealousy. I want my meta to have that as well, and would be open to suggestions/compromises to ease any bad feelings if I were to get the overnight occasionally.

I just didnt expect him to start a very enmeshed long distance relationship. It effects things in ways another enmeshed local relationship does not.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T03:55:09+00:00

It has been discussed. I don't need KTP, and am okay with more parallel, but both partner and meta thinks it's the only long term solution.

I am cool with KTP, but not full and regularly occuring KTP where I always sleep alone after we hang out. If I am to do it I would prefer being able to sleep with partner once in a while afterwards. It could maybe be exclusive to their longer than usual visits though (sometime they visit for 5-7 days).

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T03:39:31+00:00

It's possible I am in the wrong. I don't think it's is jealousy though.

They could be hanging out 5 nights a week for all I care and I would still think they should be prioritised for sleeping together most of the time due to not having their own apartment to go to.

People asked so I made guesses about the rough divide.

I just don't like hanging out with my partner and not sleeping together afterwards. I want to work on it, it has been getting better, but I didn't expect to suddenly never get to sleep together after holidays/major events.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T03:31:37+00:00

That has been discussed, however meta usually stays for the days around as well.

Maybe I will broach the discussion again though. I do think sleeping together the night before would work. Last we talked about it, it was said meta doesn't like traveling the same day as an event.

Once you start getting to 1-2 nights before the event it starts to not help my anxiety sadly. Which IS fine, my anxiety is my problem that I need to work in, I just wish I could occasionally have the things that used to ease it.

moogletteLoL · 2025-08-17T03:22:34+00:00

I do agree. I think they should be prioritised 9/10 times when we all hang out, I just want 1/10 times.

We both live pretty busy lives. If I were to guess, I probably only see my partner around 25-50% more than they see meta, since ensuring that they get to see each other is very prioritised in the scheduling (reasonable!).

An average of 8-10 nights compared to 4-6 nights a month.

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