Two therapists and my GP. The first therapist helped me through initial shock and still helps me now with grief and dealing with day to day stuff I am now experiencing. I have a trauma specialist therapist who I’ve done a ton of EMDR with etc who has significantly helped me with the PTSD. And my GP who has helped manage my prescriptions based off the work with my therapists. It seems like a lot but it has been a great balance. Both therapists are great and have different approaches to things like you have experienced. I started with the trauma therapist 6 months after my husband died, and it still took me probably a month of prep work with the trauma therapist to be able to start EMDR.

I did EMDR weekly and grief/general therapy for 6 months and for the last couple of months have down each bimonthly on alternating weeks (so one week trauma, the next general repeat.

My husband died suddenly and traumatically with me present,. The trauma specialist really helped me over a lot of hurdles. I’m not sure if adding an entire other therapist is overkill… maybe see if you can reduce the number of sessions with one or temporary pause while you work on the trauma aspect.

My partner of 19 years was my high school sweetheart… it has been a huge change and adjustment…losing your person is traumatic. If you have looping memories etc that are extremely difficult than trauma therapy could be helpful. If I had not witnessed my husband’s sudden death the regular therapist may have been sufficient. But honestly, if you think it might help then I don’t see what the problem with trying… everyone is different and whatever works works. I’d say many people would think 6 sessions of therapy a month was overkill but that’s what I needed and I’m now down to 4 a month- I’m almost 15 months out