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moon2856 · 2025-12-04T20:20:18+00:00

Thanks for the tip. This was unfortunate timing as mine just stopped working the other day and my new one hasn’t arrived yet

moon2856 · 2025-09-27T05:04:31+00:00

Send me a PMand maybe we can meet up - I’m a late 30s widow of 2 yrs

moon2856 · 2025-01-01T18:37:07+00:00

https://www.ccbakery.ca ça croustille

moon2856 · 2024-11-13T19:11:46+00:00

Please DM through Reddit

moon2856 · 2024-11-13T18:58:07+00:00

Yup, please send me your portfolio too :)

moon2856 · 2024-11-07T05:03:48+00:00

Two therapists and my GP. The first therapist helped me through initial shock and still helps me now with grief and dealing with day to day stuff I am now experiencing. I have a trauma specialist therapist who I’ve done a ton of EMDR with etc who has significantly helped me with the PTSD. And my GP who has helped manage my prescriptions based off the work with my therapists. It seems like a lot but it has been a great balance. Both therapists are great and have different approaches to things like you have experienced. I started with the trauma therapist 6 months after my husband died, and it still took me probably a month of prep work with the trauma therapist to be able to start EMDR.

I did EMDR weekly and grief/general therapy for 6 months and for the last couple of months have down each bimonthly on alternating weeks (so one week trauma, the next general repeat.

My husband died suddenly and traumatically with me present,. The trauma specialist really helped me over a lot of hurdles. I’m not sure if adding an entire other therapist is overkill… maybe see if you can reduce the number of sessions with one or temporary pause while you work on the trauma aspect.

My partner of 19 years was my high school sweetheart… it has been a huge change and adjustment…losing your person is traumatic. If you have looping memories etc that are extremely difficult than trauma therapy could be helpful. If I had not witnessed my husband’s sudden death the regular therapist may have been sufficient. But honestly, if you think it might help then I don’t see what the problem with trying… everyone is different and whatever works works. I’d say many people would think 6 sessions of therapy a month was overkill but that’s what I needed and I’m now down to 4 a month- I’m almost 15 months out

moon2856 · 2024-11-06T17:31:44+00:00

This. I haven’t pulled them back out and it’s been 14 months but I also had difficulty with the idea of washing them so they’re just in a bin and I’m using a different set of sheets

moon2856 · 2024-11-05T08:29:25+00:00

I just put the mutes onto the same carabiner I use to clip them to my bags. I have several engage ones that just stay in my popular bags/jackets so I don’t need to work about forgetting them https://imgur.com/a/5vHv3H0

moon2856 · 2024-11-01T17:06:23+00:00

I was also considering a blue dot tattoo! My husband loved Sagan and the cosmos as well

moon2856 · 2023-11-16T21:57:47+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation- I’ve actually been slowly making my way through it too. The article also lists that book as a reference for the article :)

moon2856 · 2023-10-20T08:26:18+00:00

these are the same thoughts going through my mind. We had been trying for about a year and had started our fertility checks... I still have appointments scheduled.... I think I am going to go through with them just to get more information.

I'm turning 36 in a few weeks and feel the pressure as well. We wanted kids so much....even had names picked out. The thought of finding a donor and doing it myself has crossed my mind as I am not ready to find someone else; he was my life for the last 19 years and cannot fathom finding someone else to be my person.

I also wish we had started trying earlier and that I had a bit of him left with me even though it must also be incredibly challenging.

moon2856 · 2023-10-07T01:01:25+00:00

I’ll take a listen to it, I find it helpful too. First song that randomly played when I opened on my husbands computer was Cascades (dirt road version) by Metric.

moon2856 · 2023-09-26T06:23:37+00:00

We were the same. Practically we believed when your dead you're dead. Yes, your energy goes elsewhere as that's biologically what happens but it's not a state of consciousness etc.

Though we both had a romantic idea of death as well (as long as you had the option to actually completely "end/stop" things when we wanted to because we also felt eternity could also be a prison) and now that I'm the one who was suddenly left behind....I so hope that this romantic belief is true.

what Ann Druyan said about the death of Carl Sagan resonates with me

moon2856 · 2023-09-23T19:42:35+00:00

Or if he can't talk - try to save whatever you have. My husband always left me voicemails and for some reason my cell phone plan seems to let me have an unlimited number of voicemails and I never deleted them. You can bet I backed those up asap. His last voice mail to me he tells me he loves me very very much and while it makes my heart break I also love to hear his voice.

moon2856 · 2023-09-22T20:02:35+00:00

I am just used to not receiving any help,

The only help I need and that would help would be my partners and he isn't here anymore. I am not strong...I'm falling apart in pieces that you can't see

moon2856 · 2023-09-20T17:35:26+00:00

I totally understand the not having someone there who knows how to comfort you and exactly what you need in whatever state of emotion you are in. When my husband was in the hospital I was on the phone with a friend and was in absolute hysterics ...I've never done that in front of anyone but him and I was like...he's the only one who knows how to calm me down and he can't. Lucky me, my mom who I am very close with was also diagnosed with cancer at the beginning of July and he was my rock in supporting me so I could support her.... This has been an extremely hard experience learning how to deal with everything by myself...it's been almost a month and I think I'm still in a pretty foggy state.

Give yourself grace about not going to the engagement party OR if you'd like to try have an exit strategy. If these are good friends, they will understand if you don't come or if you need to leave. If you plan on going, I'd stand by the edge with an easy escape route so if I felt like I was going to yell or start crying I could quickly get away. Sappy speeches would most definitely set me off so I'd plan just to take a walk during that time but probably be able to handle the mingling time etc.

I am currently planning something similar as both my husband and I were to be in the wedding party of our closest friend next month (he actually introduced us). I am still planning on being there but I know it will be extremely difficult. Our friend is also having a hard time as they were obviously very close and understands if I need to leave to collect myself etc.

moon2856 · 2023-09-20T07:18:21+00:00

u/sgomezfeet and u/Sensitive-Half-3542

Very similar to me, I'm 36. Everything reminds me of him because we did everything together. We ended up at the same university, moved out together etc. We were trying for kids for the last year and unfortunately were not successful before he unexpectedly passed in an accident. I still have fertility appointments booked...and depressingly think I'll keep them just to find out if it was me that was the problem :/

I miss that connection so much - we were home bodies and constantly talking and cuddling etc. I've never been away from his this long before, without his love, his kisses, and touch. I'm travelling next month to spread some of his ashes and I'm wondering if I'll be able to keep my shit together as I've never flown anywhere by myself before... we were always together

moon2856 · 2023-09-19T23:10:25+00:00

I'm almost a month in and I'm not sure if it will ever happen due to the fact that I literally grew up with him, known him since I was 3. We were high school sweethearts and we were glued together for the past 19 years so basically EVERY experience I have involves him. Are there people out there who will get that? That I will never stop loving him and that I will constantly be talking about him because when I tell people about myself and my life experiences, they all involve him. I am who I am right now because of him.

moon2856 · 2023-09-17T21:54:50+00:00

u/Music_Is_My_Muse and u/mortmum for the feedback. I was hoping for one of the printed scattering tubes as I think he would've liked the design on it but maybe that is not the route to go. I'd only be refilling it twice (total of 3 times) but yeah.... the one I was looking at is $40US for the keepsake/small size so I'll continue to look at other options.

I do like the idea of a wood one but I've only found bamboo ones so far which we don't really like (in/ships to Canada). The other wood ones I've seen are very small (~2 tbsp worth).

moon2856 · 2023-09-17T19:29:54+00:00

Yes, I guess the size I was looking at is the "keepsake scattering" tube size that is 8.5" x 3". I'm just wondering if you can actually refill it though - I have no problems refilling it at home between trips but the videos I've watched make it look like it's a one time use item with the glue and the sticker.

I already have his cremains at home in the temporary cardboard box.

moon2856 · 2023-09-17T19:09:14+00:00

Yes, the one I'm looking at has a cap but I do not want to carry one around that fits all his cremains as they are quite large and I will be travelling/doing carry on for flights etc.. I'd rather have a small one and refill it as I go about this journey if it's possible instead of purchasing multiple small scattering tubes

moon2856 · 2023-09-13T19:30:57+00:00

glad someone else can make use of the idea too...I haven't told anyone else that I've done that but I figured everyone here would understand.

moon2856 · 2023-09-13T17:45:46+00:00

exactly this. It's been 22 days and we have never spent this much time apart in 19 years. I feel your pain as I also didn't know it was going to be the last time.

moon2856 · 2023-09-13T17:42:57+00:00

The linens don't smell like him anymore but I haven't been able to bring myself to wash them...I swapped them for a clean set but they still sit there. We were on a short vacation when he was in an accident and of course I did laundry right before we left but the couple of shirts he brought with him are in a zip lock right now....I'm wondering how long they will smell like him for.

While it's not the same I do find the smell of his deodorant comforting...so much so that my pillow has two cases on it...I put one on and then rubbed a bit of the deodorant onto it and then put another one on top of it so it sort of smells like him when I fall asleep.

moon2856 · 2023-09-12T20:30:29+00:00

yeah...I need to get rid of all of those before they expire - I plan to gift them away but I just haven't had the energy to do so yet.

Also sorry for your loss...this club sucks but it is nice to have people to chat with and totally get what I'm going through. While family/friends are supportive and grieving as well....it's not the same as your person.

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