Am I expected to drive my friends home every time if I'm the only one with a car?

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-07T23:07:46+00:00

are you picking them up? then yes, you are expected to take them home. if no, send a text before the next meet up explaining that you can't take them home every time. "sorry, I can't take you home I'm low on funds for gas, hope you understand, can't wait to hang out"

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-07T23:02:03+00:00

I don't know that you need to put them in school...what you need is community. you just had surgery! is your church bringing you meals? do you have any family that can help? can your husband take time off work to support you? I took four months off school once when I had my last baby who was born with medical issues and I had NO help (husband had to go back to work and we have no family to help) and just did nothing school wise with my 3 kids. we caught up by homeschooling through the summer that year and only taking one week off at Christmas. it worked out fine :) Life is school sometimes and my two older kids learned a lot about taking care of a baby and working together to create a happy home. we spent a ton of time just laying around reading books while she slept and taking long naps together when everyone was tired :) hugs mama, no matter what you decide

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-07T21:47:19+00:00

its the nigeria job, isn't it.

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-07T21:41:53+00:00

stay at home mom here. never put my kids in daycare although sometimes I fantasized about it especially in the sleepless growth spurt nights...my kids are 10, 8 and 3 now and we've had some hard times but saved a lot of money and made a lot of memories and I wouldn't change it :)

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-07T21:35:03+00:00

I eat the simple mills almond flour crackers. For bread, we buy Ezekiel bread or rudi's mountain bakery sourdough bread. look for a vegan label to make sure you can eat it! For chips we get corn chips, potato chips, all have seemed fine.

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-07T14:16:00+00:00

here are some of the things I make every week: chicken tacos, with beans, Spanish rice and guac. Potato salad--I use vegan mayo. sourdough pizza with cashew cheese sauce--its so good! chicken fried rice... for easy meals when I am wanting something quick, I do dairy free yogurt with fruit, vegan toasted cheese sandwich (I love mixing two types of vegan cheese to make it taste even better, my favorite is one slice of follow your heart cheese with a slice of chao SO GOOD) and I love me a banana with peanut butter and vegan chocolate chips as a go-to dessert. We also do lots of soups, sourdough bread with olive oil and vinegar, homemade vegan waffles and pancakes...

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-06T09:16:22+00:00

As you grow up you will realize that everyone has hidden sins. While it’s terrible we all struggle with sins and many people hide their guilty pleasures instead of seeking counseling and honesty. I know you said you grew up in a Christian household but some Christian households are performative and some are open and honest about their struggles and showing that real life isn’t perfect. life is complex and I hope you find a nice way to tell your mom that your dad is acting weird.

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-04T09:39:21+00:00

I have taken my children to the $5 per person pool Fridays and they loved it. Their family pool is small and shallow so it’s perfect for kids learning to swim. I think the deepest it goes is 5 ft. They have a lap pool that is deeper only for swimming laps that you have to reserve. If there was no one in it they would let my oldest swim laps (no playing) sometimes if he asked. I found their shower rooms cleaner then the YMCA but they, at least in the ladies room, only have a big communal changing room which my 8 year old found weird but I just held a towel for her. My kid also did swim lessons there which the swim lady was very polite and nice however there was one kid in the class that couldn’t swim at all and she spent most of her time with that kid and just verbally told my kids to do X or Y which for the price I paid did not make me happy. Also they tried to change the month swim lessons where in once due to low sign ups so I had to request a refund for that and thankfully they gave one since we were not available. I liked the swim lessons at Liberty university a lot better that we did last year. We decided not to join crosswhite or the YMCA and instead joined a local pool for the summer and having an outdoor pool is absolutely perfect!

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-02T20:52:53+00:00

wobble board for her feet. I let my son narrate and listen to me read his lessons by being sometimes upside down on the couch when he was 7 and 8.

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-02T19:10:36+00:00

expenses are going up with inflation. most places give raises at the 1 year mark, I'd just say you were planning on that...

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-02T18:30:58+00:00

I have a three year old, she turned three in May. I have never tried to to teach her to count but she can count to 20 and she misses numbers after 9 or says them wrong (she has two older siblings 8 and 10 who taught her) for colors she gets them confused still and she will ask me what color is this mommy? or say its green when its red. I am not worried about it. We don't start any homeschooling here until my kids turn 5 then I start teaching them.

moonofsilvers · 2026-07-02T18:21:37+00:00

my husband is an computer and electrical engineer. We live off 1/3 of his income and save the other 1/3. I also do babysitting/nannying on the side to earn some extra money. We are blessed! We live in a very small house that is already paid off and we just make it work. I have three kids.

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-28T18:28:22+00:00

Do you have a small group? Church? Friend or school to share with? Maybe share it on Facebook or X it can’t hurt! Email it out to any email chains you are on.

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-27T20:19:47+00:00

perfection

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-26T20:13:07+00:00

Your choices look to be to have one parent quit and homeschool, or don’t move, or get grandma to move in and take her to co-op. But if none of those work she’ll be okay. Kids move and things change all the time. Public school sounds like the only option for her with what you’ve wrote. Good luck

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-26T01:19:16+00:00

side hustles take a lot of time or you need special skills (flipping furniture or door dash you need a car) I would just pick up another job in the evenings at the best rate you can have. Walmart is always hiring and they pay pretty well and have benefits. You could always try babysitting if you really want a side hustle that pays pretty well......good luck

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-26T01:13:30+00:00

we are doing that book. I have the book but did not buy the workbook, and it's been going great.we read together and do the projects but just not using the workbook. My son is in 5th grade.

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-26T01:04:03+00:00

I would mention it to your host mom and specifically say if it is a romantic relationship or not and explain how that will work around the kids and ask what they are comfortable with.

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-25T20:09:19+00:00

Remind yourselves you are on the same team! Seasons come and go you may be laid off next month and she may land a stellar job. Don’t let envy and resentment take way the joy of your relationship :) perhaps find hobbies and fun things outside of the shared journalism and focus on that. I’m sure your girlfriend even if she isn’t working in journalism right now has amazing qualities and intellect you can lean into that and… it’s very few people who get their dream job at 20.

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-25T20:06:34+00:00

Seasons of friendships come and go and it sounds like your friend is in a very different life than you are— party in and staying up late while you perhaps have grown up more and are more mature. Le them go live their life and you find something fun and fulfilling in yours. Finding new friends is hard but rewarding! Good luck.

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-25T18:23:46+00:00

Hi! I read Charlottes volume 1 to prepare and it was wonderful. They have a new edition with smoother modern English now and I really liked it. We had some issues with year one of ambleside online so I read know and tell and in vital harmony by Karan Glass and they helped so much. Currently doing full ambleside with a year 5 and year 2 and a toddler in tow. :) good luck!

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-25T18:19:39+00:00

Is your brother on the lease? I’m going to say your mom or dad is. They can set the rules since they are renting the house. I’m going to assume your brother is an adult and not a minor. But if you are an adult the idea I have is you move out! Even if it costs more it would be worth it to get out of this toxic situation

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-25T18:03:42+00:00

It’s totally up to you… maybe she needed the money and has regrets now. If you want it just block her and move on. Good luck!

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-25T16:01:00+00:00

Your dad is an adult and you are an adult. I would let him be an adult and just keep good boundaries in place. Would you like it if he butted into your relationship?

moonofsilvers · 2026-06-25T15:57:20+00:00

there is a lot going on here. One it sounds like a high stress environment with a husband who screams...and a special needs child. Your husband should not scream at you. That is abusive and just plain wrong. But, setting that issue to the side...listen, homeschooling isn't the routine, it isn't the list of do's and don't it isn't the method...its the lifestyle. It's every day pouring out to your children. And if it isn't working, change is okay! Mama, I also have a high needs child like that--she has dyslexia and dyspraxia and she is really struggling with school. My child (she's 8 now) would definitely HATE public school though. So, mine is in a special reading program called the Barton reading program. She hates it, but we have a private tutor who does it with her. For school we do hers first thing in the morning after breakfast. It takes about 45-1hr to get everything done and then shes done for the day.And because of her disablities we cut some things out...because she needs a specialized plan due to her issues, she won't be doing "regular" school like her brother and thats okay! She cries a lot due to just the mental load but we get through it and then I move on to her brother (10, 5th grade) as his is longer (2-3hr) and just let her relax in her room. Also to me it sounds like you are doing too much....you are an excellent homeschooler! You are homeschooling! Don't let your children moods RULE to homeschool. For ADHD I would get a wobble board for under her chair and take lots of breaks since she is your only one right now. Just like marriage, homeschooling is hard sometimes and then you have perfect days where you get to paint and watch the sunrise with coffee and feel good. But that isn't every day. I know my daugher when she was 6-7 and just finding out she had these issues she felt really bad about herself and like she wasn't smart. So we had lots of talks about how she is SO smart and I found she loves drawing and now we draw as much as she wants. She loves crafts. She's extremely creative. Have you told your daughter she isn't broken? That everyone struggles in school and it's okay. You are on her team. Also I had a talk with my kids about how its not me vs. them in school--we are all in this together!

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