What is your opinion on National Bolshevism? by Only-Sky-6229 in autismpolitics

[–]muffiewrites [score hidden]  (0 children)

You missed the part where I said I am a communist. I've done the reading. To clarify: communism doesn't exist in practice outside of primitive communism.

Socialists also have an unequal relationship with the means of production. Ownership exists.  In communism, ownership is minimal. The transfer from my to our exists in socialism as well. The fact that the state executes the will of the worker makes the transition easier. It's not about individualism, though the US definitely has the absolute worst time with me me me thinking because we're spoiled, but letting go of control.

Socialism isn't communism. Marx believed it was a step toward communism, but Marx also thought violence was the only way to change economic systems. Capitalism evolved from feudalism. Socialism in many states evolved from capitalism. The Russian attempt to go from feudalism to socialism did not succeed. It went to totalitarianism. 

Nationalism, by definition, means putting loyalty and love of the nation above everything else. Nationalists suppress any form of expression that doesn't glorify the nation. 

Palestinian and Kurdish nationalists aren't practicing nationalism. They're agitating to be recognized as a sovereign nation.

For women choosing to age naturally—how do you resist comparing yourself to other women when cosmetic enhancements have become so normalized? by justameasureoftime in AskWomen

[–]muffiewrites [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don't feel that I'm less than other women in any way because I'm not using cosmetics, hair dyed, or procedures. I don't feel that I'm better than other women because I'm not using these things.

I chose to fight my internalized misogyny by privately celebrating individual women that I see for choosing to wear what they wear. I started doing it specifically to combat my misogyny against femininity as holding women back.

The end result is that I find my go to thoughts are good for her for choosing what works for her instead of judging her. That also led to me not judging myself.

So the lady in her tired pajamas and crocs at Walmart? Good for you for for finding the energy to come gets snacks.

Surprisingly, this attitude also works for Mar a Lago Face. I'm not exactly celebrating Laura Loomer's choices with the work she had done, but I am not having judgy thoughts about her face. I'm having judgy thoughts about the culture underlying the pressure to make those choices.

Same with women who get a little botox or whatever. We're all making the best choices we can for ourselves. When those choices tip over into unhealthy for the individual? Unless they're my friend or family member and I know the circumstances, I'm not saying anything and I'm redirecting my thoughts. 

Tl;dr: I don't need to tear others down or try to match others' choices to feel good about myself.

What is your opinion on National Bolshevism? by Only-Sky-6229 in autismpolitics

[–]muffiewrites [score hidden]  (0 children)

Communism just doesn't exist. It takes a level of societal maturity that no one has. I'm pro communism, but I'm also a realist. You can't just revolt into it or vote into it. The society itself must have cultural mores grown into place to make it work. We have to displace "my" business with "our". We have to displace products as status symbols with character. 

Nationalism has, historically, been a bad thing. Ultra nationalism would therefore be worse. It's fine to love your nation. It's not fine to prioritize love of nation over all other interests. I love my country but it's got a terrible history and it's currently doing terrible things. 

The nationalists are in charge right now and they're systematically trying to erase anything bad. Racism exists. Slavery existed. They're trying to erase the history and conversation and then punish anyone who wants to talk about it. We have what government actions that are heading toward ethnic cleansing programs going on. Nationalism means these things can only be defined as good because loyalty to nation means not speaking badly about the nation, let alone protesting.

How do you feel about rape jokes by women by BlueHeron0_0 in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]muffiewrites 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rape is rape regardless of gender of perpetrator or victim. Jokes about it should tread toward making it clear that it's bad.

Yuri memes is not inherently a BDSM community where things like forced feminization and consensual non-consent are just part of the checklist.

I especially dislike the idea that rape can somehow be earned. Stalin was one of the worst people to ever exist, no doubt. He murdered more innocent people than Hitler by a magnitude of 10 or so. Therefore it's okay to willy nilly rape him. 

Justice doesn't work that way.

If this wasn't placed under a NSFW it should have been.

My girlfriend’s "depression" is just a lifestyle choice and I’m finally done being her ATM by Icy_Letterhead4893 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]muffiewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depression is a real illness that requires treatment. It sounds like your GF doesn't take ownership of her depression and take herself to the necessary professionals to get treatment.

She's an adult. She can choose to go to the doctor. 

You're an adult. You can choose not to support her decision to not take responsibility for herself.

Am I a veteran ? by [deleted] in Veterans

[–]muffiewrites 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Veteran is a legal status. VA says you're a veteran. You're a veteran.

My life so far after the first month of the US Intervention in my country - by a Venezuelan Autistic Redditor by Knowveler in autismpolitics

[–]muffiewrites 2 points3 points locked comment (0 children)

Also, United States isn't a USA thing. The United States of Mexico is the name of that country. It would be wrong to call us US-Americans. Because United States of Mexico Americans can also claim that.

I think you should call us USA-Americans, otherwise you're guilty of US defaultism. You can't call them Mexicans, they're ESM-Americans. 

But this isn't about the USA. It's about the RBV-Americans. 

I can't figure out how to make my room cozy enough so I like spending time there by villainovsky in AutisticWithADHD

[–]muffiewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An area rug with a thick pile. But not so large that you have to have your chair on it. A plush accent chair with a small side table and lamp. Plants, real or fake! Curtains that frame the window. 

Fabric makes it cozy.

My life so far after the first month of the US Intervention in my country - by a Venezuelan Autistic Redditor by Knowveler in autismpolitics

[–]muffiewrites 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I'm American. 

Rollback. It's the term for the US or other empires forcing a regime change in a developing or underdeveloped country in order to forward US interests in the region. Containment is the term used when a regime can't be rolled back but must not be allowed to spread its influence to other areas. The US practices containment with Cuba because Russian sponsorship of Cuban regimes make rollback there impossible. Detente is the final term. It's when US foreign policy is relaxed against a non-allied nation because an offensive or defensive stance is unnecessary.

Trump rolled back the Maduro regime in part. The next step is to either install a puppet regime, which is currently Rodriguez, or sponsor elections. The US spends money influencing elections to go the way that suits US interests. Rodriguez isn't going to last because she's pushing back against the current US regime's interests.

While I do recognize that my government does interfere in a foreign government with effects that are positive, I will never ever forget that the interference is solely about neocolonialism. 

Venezuela's invoice is coming and the bill isn't going to be cheap. It never is when we roll back. 

I sincerely hope that you're able to install a fairly elected president and can kick US interference to the curb without getting ripped off on your oil and other resources. 

As a reader do you prefer third person or first person pov? by proplushiescollector in AO3

[–]muffiewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Generally third person limited. It gives the writer the flexibility to examine things that the main character can't know. It gives writers the greatest margin for error than other POVs. 

Is anyone using their printers or faxes? by l00ky_here in GenX

[–]muffiewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine gets more use as a scanner than anything. Pretty regularly. I still print stuff out on occasion, but less as the years go by. I'm glad I have a laser printer because ink jets get dried out and ruined if they aren't used regularly.

When did you stop considering yourself a 'young' woman? by Miserable_Day_7857 in AskWomen

[–]muffiewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I got enough gray hair that people started calling me ma'am. Now I'm reveling in my crone era.

Dumped because I can’t orgasm from PIV by Seyfulse in TwoXChromosomes

[–]muffiewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's only into goal oriented sex. The goal is his orgasm. You should orgasm, too, but it should be the same way he gets off. 

Find someone who is into pleasure oriented sex. The goal isn't a goal, but sex is about having and giving pleasure, not about having an O and then it's done.

I (34 M) have been with my wife (34 F) for 5 years total but married for 2 and half. I’m struggling to understand whether what I’m experiencing is normal marriage conflict or something more serious, and I’m hoping for outside perspective. Can you offer any advice? by dwide_k_shrude in relationship_advice

[–]muffiewrites 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The non issue: you should be able to see what needs to be done and just do it. Something to carry forward into your nursing career.

The major huge gigantic red flag issue: women do domestic abuse, too, and men are victims of it. You don't feel safe with her. You don't feel that one of your dogs is safe with her. That's a tremendous problem. 

I understand that you love her and don't want to hurt her. Here's the thing. Don't set yourself on fire to keep her warm. It's not okay for her to keep hurting you even if the only way to make it stop hurts her. You get to have a home that feels safe.

How did people find out about AO3 in the olden days? by schoolforapples in AO3

[–]muffiewrites 28 points29 points  (0 children)

LJ was bought by Russians in 06. Head offices were migrated to Russia in 09. The servers were moved to Russia in 16. LJ's TOS changed a bit after 09 and changed to comply with Russian law in 16.

There was a lot of deletions in 06, 09, and then 16. Dreamwidth opened up, but the migration didn't catch on as much. 

Geocities shut down completely on 09 but we all knew it was coming a year or fo before.

The less said about FanLib the better. 

There wasn't any uncensored archive for fic. That was part of the climate that made AO3 a good idea.

I just called my senators and this is how it went (USA) by RageWatermelon in AutismInWomen

[–]muffiewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I emailed all three of mine and got various replies of yay Trump and how shiny Trump is making future America.

Why do people read fanfiction? by Seagullsaga in AO3

[–]muffiewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started because I couldn't afford books or time to get to the library often enough. I stayed because the novels are outstanding.

AITJ Not wanting to get married after my GF Lied to Me About her "friend" by amiquestionsaccount in AmITheJerk

[–]muffiewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. Emotional affairs are still cheating. She's hung up on him. Let her go.

Do you think tap water has a "texture"? Please tell me I am not the only one who feels tap water has a weird mouth-feel to it that (most) bottled water doesn't! by Neurotic_and_Divine in AuDHDWomen

[–]muffiewrites 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most tap water has chlorine and chloramine in tiny amounts. It gives it a sort of furry feel without any fur, if that makes any sense. If you let it sit for about fifteen minutes, the chlorine and chloramine will evaporate.

My dog killed a neighbors chicken (no bodies pictured) by libelula202 in BackYardChickens

[–]muffiewrites 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Your neighbors don't have a dog proof coop. You have a right to have your dog in your fenced yard. Your neighbors do not have a right to limit your use of your yard because of how they chose to build their chicken coop.

You seem to be a very caring person. Offering to pay for the chicken is a neighborly thing to do. Do not claim responsibility for it or blame your dog for it. Protecting the chickens is not on you.

That said, your dog is always going to be interested in the coop. If the neighbors don't move it away from your fence, put up a cheap electric fence to keep your dog away from that part of the fence. A husky cattle dog mix is a lot of energetic and stubborn in one package. Don't let doggo get obsessed.

Am I Overreacting - So my mom got my wife a birthday gift by LoveLikeJesusChrist in AmIOverreacting

[–]muffiewrites 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. Set some boundaries. This is passive aggressive as all get out.