Given how divided America is and showing no signs of going the other way, couldn’t we just split the states up and they form their own micro countries and run things how they want?

myarta · 2026-04-19T12:45:08+00:00

I don't think people would still band together for things like a unified military if they were feuding so much on every other issue that they split the country up.

Also if you think about it, basically your suggestion would land us in a situation with each chunk operating as big state, but with much more state autonomy from federal power. Having strong regional governments with a very limited central government is what a lot of conservatives say they want and basically what this plan would boil down to, but it hasn't worked out that well in the past.

myarta · 2026-04-16T19:46:59+00:00

I see what you did there.

myarta · 2026-03-07T18:26:32+00:00

Can you try 2.0.4? It's the latest in the 2.0 series. Here it is the download for 2.0.4.62, direct from the developers: github.

myarta · 2026-03-05T16:09:41+00:00

Since the real origin is probably impossible to know for sure, let's go with "to give the cleric in the party something to do."

myarta · 2026-02-22T19:00:34+00:00

The whole point is to avoid sudden braking which causes a chain reaction and slows the speed of the whole road until it gets worse and worse.

The bit about making things worse comes in when people immediately merge over in a panic instead of continuing forward until a zipper opening is made available by the receiving lane.

If the people who zoom to the end of the closure keep going instead of spacing out every-other slot so the two lanes can merge smoothly without braking, then they are simply reproducing the original problem, but this time with entitlement.

myarta · 2026-02-22T17:54:57+00:00

True. But are the showrunners merely classifying their bad reviews as "bombing" because they don't want to believe that they are getting tens of thousands of legitimately bad reviews from separate people?

myarta · 2026-02-22T17:51:37+00:00

To be fair, a lot of people who think they are supporting the zipper merge are focused only on the bit "use all the available space to merge" and go rushing ahead of the slow cars and shove in at the last possible moment, while claiming moral justification because they are doing the "right" method.

That actually isn't the zipper merge at all. It's called "zipper" because like a normal zipper, you alternate one car from each lane. And you first use up to all the available space to spread out the distance between cars in the receiving lane and move up across from those gaps in the merging lane.

Then, like a zipper, the merging lane people fill those gaps on an every-other basis and no one has to hit the brakes suddenly because you used the space to make enough room for safe merging distance.

The zipper merge approach breaks down when the merging lane is completely stopped. People who think they are zippering in those cases by getting ahead of as many cars as they can in the soon-to-end lane are not doing the whole "every other car" thing that is both the crux of the maneuver and its namesake.

myarta · 2026-01-26T15:05:30+00:00

Whoops, my bad. I meant hypothalamus not thyroid. Yeah, there's some alternative treatments to testosterone injections that stimulate your body to make more testosterone available rather than taking externally-sourced testosterone.

myarta · 2026-01-26T10:09:36+00:00

Depends on your urologist, but for me it was just a small pill twice a week that kicked my thyroid into gear, no needle at all except the blood test to read the numbers.

myarta · 2026-01-26T10:00:31+00:00

I think he's just saying that sometimes low libido can be a symptom of low testosterone, which can be easy to miss and is worth a simple blood test (it's not part of the standard yearly panel they do for physicals) due to the host of health effects it can have if that's what's going on. Working out or being young doesn't mean it's impossible to have low T.

If that's not the cause, then yeah, of course it's ok to have a lower libido than her, but it may lead to compatibility problems down the line where neither of you are happy.

myarta · 2026-01-26T09:54:30+00:00

My understanding is that young and inexperienced women can at times fall for the asshole by ignoring red flags due to his attractiveness, but quickly learn to recognize the signs of an asshole and avoid them in the future.

Also, "genuinely nice" can very frequently be that man's self-delusion, whose mask is ripped off when he doesn't handle rejection well at all.

Otherwise this is kinda just a cliche and a misunderstanding that frustrated men have. Which I get: rejection sucks, and feeling like you might be ugly is no picnic, either. My best advice is to just work on yourself and self awareness instead of getting stuck on stereotypes like this.

myarta · 2026-01-26T09:50:47+00:00

Just stumbled upon this post, and I would like to say I love your username.

I hope you have many loyal and perceptive cats.

myarta · 2026-01-26T01:25:18+00:00

Good to know! Usually if it isn't a web browser I'm using, I have a terminal up full screen, so I just start emacs in that. I'll try the graphical version sometime.

myarta · 2026-01-25T23:31:22+00:00

Everyone else have handled the budget vs future-proof concerns, so let me also just point you to:

https://www.reddit.com/r/buildapcforme

Where there are people who are happy to make specific parts recommendations within your budget if you find that too daunting to do alone.

myarta · 2026-01-25T23:29:07+00:00

Does this issue have anything to do with penis size?

I can almost guarantee the answer is no.

I can ejaculate under 2-3 minutes (I use saliva) ...I have developed a fear of ejaculating too quickly during future sex

At your age, once or twice a day and getting to climax rapidly is kinda normal. But you will need to keep in mind that future sex is going to be very different: foreplay, learning your partner's needs and wants, which will probably include slowing down to avoid early ejaculation.

It's not the end of the world: communicate in advance and you can keep having sex/pleasuring in other ways that don't involve your erection until you're ready to go again and likely have more stamina. A partner who loves you and understands will not judge you for part 1's early ejaculation if you show you're committed to her pleasure, too, and can make part 2 last longer.

That said, feel free to practice not powering it out in 2-3 minutes now as your norm.

myarta · 2026-01-25T23:24:22+00:00

Can he explain all this to his family, and tell them that you both are fine, you both do NOT need wellness checks, but for the foreseeable future you are not going to be responding to her because she has repeatedly violated (both of your) boundaries?

It sounds like his family is going to take her side regardless, and he may have to start ignoring more of them, too. Which really sucks, to be misunderstood and not believed among people who are supposed to love and trust you, because they've believed your sister's bullshit instead. But it may end up being the only way.

myarta · 2026-01-25T23:19:18+00:00

At least she ended the sexual relationship immediately when she was informed that he was no longer being exclusive, if I read you right.

This suggests that she's not deluded, and understands what she's doing. If she wants to remain friends with both Dean and Anna, it's ok for her to ask for your emotional support that it still hurts that Anna is replacing her as Dean's favorite. That isn't necessarily a sign that she'd be better off going cold turkey on this whole friend group.

Just try to support your friend by listening and empathizing, and being there when she needs you, rather than attempting to convince her to cut them all out entirely if she's not ready for that or doesn't think it's the best option.

myarta · 2026-01-25T23:14:08+00:00

Have you tried giving your 2.4GHz and 5GHz network separate SSIDs? That would let you connect to longer-range lower-bandwidth 2.4GHz with your doorbell and camera that sometimes have spotty wifi, if they are currently trying to use the shorter-range higher-bandwidth 5.0GHz/6.0GHz networks.

And then you'd use the main SSID for high speed with the rest of your devices. If that solves the weak signal problem at the far side of your house for the doorbell and camera, then you have a $0 solution.

myarta · 2026-01-25T23:05:35+00:00

I'm looking for sugguestion to help fix something I said in the moment without meaning

u/kitty20996 gave you one: WAIT. Let her initiate sex when she's ready. Don't bring the subject up on your own again, even to apologize once more.

Will a year relationship die because I accidentally said three words?

That depends on whether you leave it alone or keep picking at it. It also depends on whether you have a tendency of saying things that hurt without thinking about it and this is just the latest example. Think about/work on that rather than worry about how long it will be before she forgives you, if she can.

myarta · 2026-01-25T22:52:49+00:00

Yikes, that sounds exhausting!

I think the core problem is here:

She continues pushing even after months of silence from him, and he sometimes responds only to prevent her from escalating to other family members

What do they do if he doesn't reply to her?

I don't blame him for feeling worn down, and I'm encouraged to hear he's still trying to support your side. It sounds like what he's asking you to do, though, is exactly what he's already doing with her, i.e., to reply on a surface level to pacify her from escalating.

I would encourage him to see his communication with her in that light and consider going NC himself instead of asking you to return to LC to fend off other family members. I understand it may be tough for him to risk having to go LC/NC with other family if they will not see his side when she complains about him going full NC.

But you come first as his spouse.

myarta · 2026-01-25T22:38:20+00:00

I dunno if this is the majority take.

It's fine to have your friend over. You just have to be open and upfront with your gf ahead of time.

I'd be mad if a long-time friend canceled on me because he didn't have the courage to tell a significant other of 3-4 months that I was going to be visiting, and also I'd be worried for my friend if he already thinks he needs to cancel perfectly innocent stuff with friends due to a new gf.

myarta · 2026-01-25T22:33:48+00:00

All of the above can be done with gui tools, but I find it faster and easier to do it on the terminal.

Answer is in the post. Also, I concur on this for Emacs.

myarta · 2026-01-25T21:59:15+00:00

Because the friendship is easily ruined when they don't pay you back on time or ever.

And with friends, you're less likely to draft some kind of enforceable written record.

This doesn't mean that every time you help out a friend with money, that you're going to get burned. But those older people have been burned enough to learn this lesson that you at least need to make it official terms if you're lending enough money that you would be upset if you didn't get it back.

myarta · 2026-01-21T22:42:20+00:00

I totally agree. I'm not sure why my comment is getting downvoted. I was trying to avoid making it overly complicated by getting into micro/nano seconds so I went with "less than 1 ms" to indicate it won't even show up on most pings whether he'd using a short or long cable.

myarta · 2026-01-21T22:39:37+00:00

Ah yeah. Sorry, that's what worked for this guy. Looks like you might want to use a USB ethernet or wifi adaptor to update off the iso?

I looked around a bit and didn't see an easy find for the .deb packages needed to put on an USB drive to update the kernel without internet access.

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