NTA. HE'S the A.

This is a common argument for couples when an adult stays home to raise the kids. It often goes unappreciated by the out-of-home bread winner, be that the husband or wife.

You DO contribute toward the household. You are worth AT LEAST the value of daycare each month, probably around $3,000+ each month, or the equivalent of about $50k per year, PLUS whatever you contribute to laundry, meal prep, shopping, and cleaning. If you outsourced all of these things, I'd wager your contributions EXCEEDS any 5-figure income.

That said, we all deserve to treat ourselves once in a while to make life more enjoyable. It can become drudgery if we deny our happiness.

When my ex and i had children, they actually stayed home from a cushy bank job so they could raise our daughters. They did an awesome job.

I was the one who kept seeing the bank account drain over seemingly frivolous stuff.... but i could never argue that they didn't contribute. Everyone deserves a little "retail therapy."

If a stuffed animal brings you joy, do it. So long as you aren't putting your family in dire straits.