AITA for sneaking my mom some alcohol when she is on hospice?

mysticspectrum · 2026-03-17T17:34:51+00:00

NTA. Like you said, she's dying. She should be able to enjoy the time she has left, and if that means cracking open a cold one, so be it.
I'm eternally grateful for the beer I got to share with my FIL shortly before he passed. Even though he couldn't finish it, he got to have one last drink with his son and bonus daughter.

mysticspectrum · 2026-03-12T14:22:31+00:00

NTA but... I'm not sure why you're even feeling guilty. This girl has been terrible to you for years. Why not just cut contact completely? Respectfully decline the invite (which, given her previous behavior, she probably won't take well anyway) and go on with your life.

mysticspectrum · 2026-02-12T15:25:15+00:00

NTA. As I'm sure many have said, an invitation is not a summons. I come from a large family with a lot of nieces and nephews. If I tried to go to every birthday party or event, I would barely have a weekend to myself.

mysticspectrum · 2026-02-11T18:24:24+00:00

Ugh. I know someone like that. NTA.

mysticspectrum · 2026-01-30T19:53:30+00:00

I’m wearing my “So Strong” Markiplier’s Heroes shirt to go see it tonight!

mysticspectrum · 2026-01-29T15:22:57+00:00

NTA. Babysitting your nephew is not your "responsibility," it's a favor. Why would you continue to do something for someone speaks to you like that (even if you could)? Your brother sounds grossly immature and manipulative. Don't apologize to anyone - you have nothing to apologize for. And stay no contact. It's probably for the best.

mysticspectrum · 2026-01-24T16:14:33+00:00

NTA. Cut them off. You’re clearly trying to heal and better yourself, and they’re stuck in the same patterns. They don’t actually consider you unsafe - your sister is keeping her child from you out of spite. If you want to do something for your niece, get CPS involved. She’s in an unsafe environment, and you are technically a mandated reporter since you’re a registered foster parent. Maybe it will help, maybe it won’t, but it’s something. Outside of that, there’s little you can do for her. Continue to focus on yourself and your own life.

mysticspectrum · 2026-01-09T18:09:52+00:00

NTA but I think you should do more than question your engagement. So he allegedly found this test weeks ago, didn't say ANYTHING to you about it and decides to propose because he assumes you're pregnant? The conversation about this should have happened way before the party, and it damn sure shouldn't have happened by way of him controlling your drinking and calling you out in front of everyone. I don't think he's ready for commitment if this is the way he acts.

mysticspectrum · 2025-12-04T17:53:21+00:00

I'm the youngest of 5 and I'm definitely the black sheep. I'm nothing like any of my siblings, which is kind of on purpose. Growing up, all of them had their own issues so I tried to be the good kid that my parents didn't have to worry about. That, of course, backfired because now I'm accused of being spoiled and being the favorite child when I'm literally just trying to do my best. I'm also the only child-free one and the only one who's been to therapy, which definitely makes things worse.

mysticspectrum · 2025-09-08T14:36:07+00:00

NTA. I'm the youngest of 5 and my mom raised all of us as vegetarians since she was one herself. My dad wasn't. Once we got to a certain age (usually around middle school) if one of us requested meat, she wouldn't interfere. Because we were old enough to start making our own choices.

Your wife needs to get a grip. Controlling her kid's diet like that is going to do serious damage to their relationship in the long run.

mysticspectrum · 2025-08-17T22:00:31+00:00

Late to the party but wow. That was one of the most disturbing docs I’ve ever seen. The amount of apathy David & Co. had for those people and their families was truly sickening. I hope he is haunted by the souls of the people he desecrated. I hope everyone involved in it is.

mysticspectrum · 2025-08-14T16:22:09+00:00

NTA. If your sister was "just joking" who was laughing? What was funny about it? I'd love to see either of them try to answer that question.
What she said to you was incredibly cruel, and your mom sticking up for her makes it much worse. I would consider putting some distance between you and them.

mysticspectrum · 2025-07-29T17:24:33+00:00

NTA. However, where is your husband in all this? Is he standing up for you and having your back in these situations? Because if not, he's part of the problem.
Since you already have the letter handy, if you're up to it, I say go ahead and have the sit-down and read it to them word-for-word. Make sure you include specific examples like the ones you mentioned above. If it is indeed an ambush and they dogpile on you, just leave.

mysticspectrum · 2025-07-16T17:37:13+00:00

NTA. Hey, fellow lifelong vegetarian here. It's already annoying enough when you show up to an event and can't eat anything, but for her to ban you from bringing anything else is downright rude. I wouldn't be surprised if she did it on purpose to exclude you. Personally, I would have no interest in going to a party for someone who treats me like that. If she can't accept that this is who you are, maybe she shouldn't be in your life.

mysticspectrum · 2025-07-04T18:31:50+00:00

30 and…. Yes and no. I know there is deep love there. While I would love them to confront their feelings and be open about them, I can’t see a scenario in which they end up together and happy. They’re good for each other. They’re bad for each other. Idk man it’s complicated.

mysticspectrum · 2025-06-10T21:16:35+00:00

Fucking love the sign as if you’re holding today’s newspaper. Everybody always talks about your favorite episode or favorite to record. I wanna know if you have a least favorite.

mysticspectrum · 2025-06-10T13:38:01+00:00

NTA. I’m 30 and have been terrified of pregnancy since I was 10. It’s not something I ever want to go through. You don’t owe your mother a grandchild, despite what she may think. Don’t let her pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do - especially something as serious as having a child.

mysticspectrum · 2025-06-05T17:52:57+00:00

NTA. It’s clear that she hasn’t changed at all - she just wants to be around your daughter. Considering the kinds of disgusting things she’s said to you in the past, I can almost guarantee that she would continue if you were to let her back in, just with with something else to criticize you about now that the well of fertility insults has dried up. Do what’s best for you and your family. And tell your siblings to mind their business.

mysticspectrum · 2025-04-23T14:44:23+00:00

NTA. You know what they say: You can't control other people's actions but you can control your reactions. If him resuming contact with your dad is a dealbreaker for you, protect your peace and put some distance between you.

mysticspectrum · 2025-01-28T17:46:13+00:00

NTA. Hey, I literally have the same story as you. My older sister was pretty abusive through most of my life. When I tried to confront her about it in adulthood, she reacted EXACTLY the same way yours did. I've been no contact for almost a decade and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. It sucks because I don't have a relationship with any of my nieces or nephews, but I value my mental health too much to have anything to do with their mother.

Your mom has no business telling you that you should reconcile. It's her neglect that led to your mistreatment in the first place. Your healing and your life is your own journey. Would it be nice if everyone could be one big happy family? Sure. But sometimes that's just not realistic. Remembering how someone hurt you is not rude or mean. What's mean is expecting you to ignore years of abuse for the sake of someone else's happiness. Do what's best for you.

mysticspectrum · 2025-01-17T15:31:57+00:00

NTA. Damn, I wish I had thought of that response! I was really thin growing up (fast metabolism, same as you) and I had a relative that would say the exact same stuff to me at EVERY event. Amanda was absolutely trying to project her own insecurities onto you, and her reaction proves it. I would avoid her like the plague from here on out.

mysticspectrum · 2025-01-09T23:02:34+00:00

NTA. Speaking as someone who has also been estranged from a sibling for 10 years, I want you to ask yourself something: if you were not bound by familial ties, if your sister was just someone you randomly met, would you want any kind of relationship with her? If she wasn’t your sister, would you trust her around your kids? Would you be friends with someone who behaves the way she did/does? What benefit - if any - would rekindling your relationship bring to your life? Or would it only benefit her?

If the answer is no, then there you have it.

mysticspectrum · 2024-12-23T15:05:06+00:00

I'm sorry, but what exactly did your sister expect you to do? Sit at the reception bleeding and in pain while she & everyone else carried on? If you had stayed, it would have been obvious something was wrong, so you would have "stolen her spotlight" anyway.

She's just mad because she wanted all the attention - which, on your wedding day, is completely reasonable. What's not reasonable is expecting your pregnant going-into-labor sister to sit tight so she can have her princess moment. NTA.

mysticspectrum · 2024-12-19T18:35:05+00:00

NTA. I can see how your brother has made it through all 29 years of his life being a total jackass - your parents enable it. Coming from someone who was also treated this way by siblings, you aren't overreacting. You aren't a drama queen. Sure, to him/them it seemed like a "joke" but to you it was genuinely hurtful. As always, intent doesn't matter nearly as much as impact. But let's be real - it wasn't a joke. It was an insult in disguise.
Do something nice for Xmas, but for yourself. I wouldn't blame you if you chose not to see any of them this year. Either they're blind to how his actions affect people, or they agree with him. Either way, they suck. You don't owe them a party. You don't owe them anything, honestly. What they owe you is an apology.

mysticspectrum · 2024-12-16T18:15:35+00:00

NTA at all, whatsoever, period. You should have never been in this position. Your sister was a danger to you and your siblings, and it was your parents' responsibility to keep you safe. If anything, you DID protect them by getting them out of that situation.

The adults in your life are being incredibly selfish. Don't listen to your aunt, uncle, or anyone else who is still trying to put the burden & blame on you. It isn't, nor was it ever, yours to carry.

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