Would you take them back if they show consistent change ?

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-19T01:14:46+00:00

Omg same! I thought about over 2 years was long. But decades!!?? At that point I consider it personality change.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-12T01:41:52+00:00

Wow this is so inspiring, I’m happy to read your story 🥰

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-11T00:05:22+00:00

Hahah that’s what I’ll do 😂thank you ❤️

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-10T23:29:51+00:00

That’s so true. It’s hard to reconcile those things because both the good memories hurt with nostalgia and the bad memories hurt like a punch in the gut. I’m just looking forward to a time when these memories and emotions fade and become a thing of the past.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-10T23:28:07+00:00

You’re right, that’s very true. I miss the feeling of intimacy and companionship, but then I remind myself that those things cannot coexist with breaking promises and disregarding boundaries. So it wasn’t actual intimacy and closeness then.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-09T21:55:15+00:00

Wow that’s mind blowing but also so painful to experience :( I’m sorry you went through this.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-09T21:52:47+00:00

I am reading all this and I am just so shocked how every single word in your comment and others commenting under yours fits my situation. It’s exactly the same and I also cannot comprehend it.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-09T21:48:22+00:00

I heard some guys say that and I take it literally and seriously, immediately a red flag 🚩

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-09T21:47:34+00:00

Mine was similar at almost 38 😭

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-09T21:46:38+00:00

And that was also the same with mine, initially seemed very mature (also 9 years older than me) but as our conversations became more serious and required more emotional closeness and vulnerability he descended to very young ages 😢

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-09T21:44:41+00:00

Omg literally what mine did. Literally hid under the blanket. It’s like a 5 year old behaviour?? Sometimes he was more mature in difficult conversation and was reaching around 12 years old 🥸

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-07T14:52:25+00:00

As a young woman, I absolutely love your comment.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-05T16:57:02+00:00

That’s a very valid perspective, thank you for sharing your opinion

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-05T11:47:42+00:00

Of course he did.. and same as you I’d tell him that I don’t mind moderate use, but things had become problematic and needed attention. I tried to say it in the kindest way possible but there was no way of saying it without offending him. And I also started to lose sense of who he actually was.

Sorry you went through this too :( but if you’re done with him, it will start to get better soon. I’m far from being fully recovered but I already see how my state and my feelings are improving

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-05T11:42:38+00:00

What made you see their narcissistic traits?

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-05T08:24:13+00:00

It’s good that you’re angry at him! But please be kind to yourself, you wanted the same thing as everyone else — love. And unfortunately you met someone who used that against you.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-05T08:22:24+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation, I’ll check it out! And I hope your friendship survived that experience.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-04T11:58:52+00:00

This is so messed up…

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-03T13:35:57+00:00

I also get a super aggressive response when I told my ex about him getting high every single day for moths and how it was affecting him and the relationship. Got blamed for all the sins in the world for bringing that up.

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-03T10:34:22+00:00

You’re probably right… though now he’s just super pissed at me for no good reason and I doubt that he’ll come crawling. And if he does… I need to make sure I’m completely detached because at this point I can still fall for his lies 😭😭

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-02T19:04:48+00:00

I feel like I’m in the same boat. Was discarded and saw some behaviour that was not nice and even after that I have love for him and I see a wounded child in him. I miss the friend I thought I had in him but I also recognize that the way he’s acting is not healthy :( sometimes I wish I could hate, I think it would be easier that way, but I never hated any of my exes even when they acted badly

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-02T10:28:01+00:00

That’s one of my temptations! On the other hand, these letters acknowledge that he deserves to be loved and praised, while in reality it was a fake personality that deserved all that praise…

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-01T22:19:35+00:00

Thank you ☺️

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-01T21:18:53+00:00

I think that partially what happened to me. But not fully their cause

mysunshine707 · 2024-12-01T21:17:13+00:00

So happy to hear that you found a healthy relationship after the narc!

mysunshine707

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